Get married brehs...seriously

[Flywin Lannister]

Pictures of your friends?

The Coli

 

[Reno89]

K......

There's no stopping OP. He's on a roll

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

think everyone believes in holy matrimony, brehs


it aint about the woman for me, i just dont subscribe to that marriage bullshyt


its #GMB till the casket drops

both my mom and pops aint married. they both doing just fine. simps will learn one day

 

[Flywin Lannister]

Except people can change like the wind breh, take it from me I was engaged just last year then blindsided, happens every day to men in marriage.
People can have your back 100% today and then tomorrow not wanting to be with you its human nature.

I'm not against marriage but getting on the pulpit and talking about a real woman that has your back bla bla most men marry with that intent, people and feelings change, just that a marriage you can't make a clean cut without $$$

Just look at your own relationship right now, your chick prob thinks you have her back 100% but your plotting to get back with your ex

@FireDwaneCasey with his first good move since ethering his credibility

@Gonzo read this part 10x nikka before you go contact that ex AGAIN behind your girl’s back.

You think she’s retarded? She’ll know you’re shady af and even though most women are selfish and she may be down... you stepping out on your girl will make it emotionally way easier for her to step out on you. Also: Karma.

Make long ass posts and threads about marriage and finding a real one while stabbing your current girl in the back.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

Every woman that is a wonderful human being and is at least decently attractive? Yes. I honestly do not see why not..

How about.. if she didn’t find the right guy yet? Or if she decided not to marry in her 20s to not make the same mistake her mom/aunt etc made.

You can’t jusge someone solely on age and marital status. This is not some Indian village..

Now there is a point where a chick looks off being 40 twerking on social media and wondering why she’s still single and nobody’s trying to be serious with her - that’s another thread though.

 

[DrBanneker]

True

The average marriage age for Black women is past 30 and has been for a couple decades so I would use 35 if you have to use a number. I especially wouldn't use 30 if she got an advanced degree or went back to school since she might barely be out of school at 25 or 26.

 

[qwasi]

Once again can someone tell me why and when did successful relationships necessitate Marriage? Am I missing something? Are you getting married because it guarantees the woman will commit long-term? Are married couples getting taxed less? Does the affection of a married woman triple? I've heard men & women state they have no intention for children. Yet, when you question marriage, everyone gets tight. WTF is Marriage going to do to boost me as a person? As it stands I can give you 10 reasons why it's negative and not one positive.

 

[DamienWayne]

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Marriage definitely isn't for everyone. It would be nice to see more married black couples but we gotta be realistic. Marriage is a lifestyle that some people just aren't built for. Ive seen both ends of the spectrum. Having a spouse that is down 100% for you is one of the best feelings. But having that person step out is one of the worst. Being married you gotta deal with all the ups and downs and life changes. We have enough of these issues being alone. Being married adds to that

 

[MaxPain]

All jokes aside OP ur probably the last person that should be getting married. U seem really into ur feelings like something tragic just happened. Did u just get finished watchin a Romantic Comedy? LOL

I aint hear not once about getting a woman with a stable career that u can build an empire with or a list of tangible qualities. I see u the type to get married for love. They take the most L’s tryna be Hitch. And if u cant be happy by urself depending on a woman to make a woman u happy is a surefire way to get disrespected and dogged out by a woman.

Everything u have said is all emotion, no logic. Some womem seem to get it right by marrying good providers but dudes marry bum bytches all the time “cuz they love her”.

Just say u wanna get married cuz u cant pull anymore and u hate being alone. Which is not the same as getting married cuz u want to on ur clock, and I suspect why so many people have miserable marriages.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

every dude i know including myself that got married in they early/mid 20's is divorced

every single fuking one

it's crazy there was a whole stage in our lives were we all got married

then a whole stage were we all got divorced

Real talk. I notice when people get married at that age its for all the wrong reasons. Myself included. I saw two of my other boys get married and figured its time. Wrong reason. People getting married becuz they think theyre in love and that's what your supposed to do. Fast forward to 2018 and Im divorced. One of my boys who got married young is divorced. The other is having all kinds of problems. I have a couple friends who got married in their 30s and are going strong. The older we are the more we tend to know exactly what we want

 

[AceAge]

Be 23 years old buying girls Rolexs while speaking against marriage because it gives women access to your finances. What's the point of buying a girl a rolex?

You can get a girl to marry you without even giving her a ring, so why would a dude like you be buying jewelry for women you don't plan on staying with long term?

I'm not the biggest fan of marriage, especially the legal concept of marriage. But I'm even less of a fan of buying rolexs for random girls you're in a relationship with at 23.

Dude is an overcompensating try hard.
Typical New-Yorker.

 

[Benefited]

My parents stayed together to give me the benefit of a 2-parent home.

So I understand.

If you got kids, you basically married... But not really... But kinda.

I just really enjoy my ability to cancel a chick with no strings attached.

Like I can just tell her "fukk outta here" and hang up the phone without having to worry about anything.... No court... No kids.... Nothing.

I have the upper hand in all my interactions with women.

I cant see myself giving that up for any reason unless she got bread.

Luckily my girl doesnt trip over stupid shyt like marriage.... She already knows shes getting a Rolex instead of a ring.

I already told my girl why I'm against marriage and she couldn't say shyt but respect it.

& I tell her I dont care if she leaves me cause she wont find better

This is why we can't waste time explaining benefits to getting married to nikkas who have no conscience.
Obviously women are just props in your life at the moment.
And I've been there,I only become a more righteous man in the last few years.
Once you actually love a woman,have instilled your knowledge,taught her the things you like and don't like,you yourself actually want to see her graduate.
Having a conscience now,I can't in good conscience have my woman/childs mother out there in the wind like she's just another one of these women who don't deserve to be wifed.
This is based on my own conscience,definitely not saying every woman who is married is a good woman or probably deserves it.
You guys only wan't benefits that benefit you,and are not thinking about the woman involved at all,or like the guy you quoted mentioned his daughters.
This only means you are not in love and are not ready to get married.
But if you are planning on having kids there is no kind of about it,it is the same thing but worst,and should be taken more seriously.
Its crazy to me people don't mind having kids,but are dead set against marriage


You dudes need to begin to allow your brains to make the shift into caring about good women. A woman who doesn't mind being a prop needs to be questioned as to why and what the underlying issue is. She probably is insecure and doesn't think she is good enough for you,which means she probably is not. These are the main type of women who will set you up for the finesse and cause problems. I see resentment and desperate messures in my crystal ball for you guys out here like this

 

[Benefited]

^But with that said most people think like this,women and men alike. So you need to also make sure the woman or man you are marrying has empathy and thinks about your happiness and well being as fast as they think about yours. If its not second nature to think about how your partner would feel when you make certain decisions,whether it be something good or bad. You probably don't need to be married,most people don't have this mindset and it has to be taught.

 

[CrushedGroove]

I tell my kids don't get married or have kids until they're 30. People need time to enjoy life while trying to figure this shyt out. So many of us go into the workforce and take on jobs because we have to.

Imagine being in your 20s experiencing and learning while being free, hit your 30s as a full human being, driven by challenging yourself without having to worry about anyone else.

Then you meet someone with the same mentality and appreciation. By all means, if you find the right one early in life, then jump on that, but don't make that what you search for.