Girl at my job asked me why so many men have zero interest in a relationship

[Houston911]

Talk to someone in real life like your on a internet forum brehs.

There was Nothing harsh about what I said. There were 2 girls listening nodding their heads in agreement

 

[Commish]

Dap+rep and his post is for mature men that actually is pursuing marriage. In all honesty, the women should be trying to impressed the men but that ‘privilege’ is reserved for the men they truly desire which likely don’t want them. So, this is what should be relayed to the OP and then relayed to his coworker.

The gesture is appreciated and returned back to ya! I appreciate you understanding my POV..

Relationships is a two way street! It starts from the 1st date! But, at the same token, not all dates are meant to go further than that initial date.

People have to establish rapport in order for anything to manifest into something meaningful.

Unfortunately, it seems like people approach dating and relationships like they did in high school.

Nah, this is grown folks land now! Gotta step it up, if you want something good out of it.

That getting something for nothing, on either side is for the birds! If you love and value yourself, then you would not settle for anything less!

 

[Strapped]

Did you ask her what is a hot girl summer ?

 

[Carlton Banks]

A lot of women don't realize how trash they are, especially these days. I have some female acquaintances that have the same question... And these chicks are usually not relationship material at all. The type that would put any poor sucker they meet through the ringer. The types that be all in the clubs every weekend in everybody's face, twerking on their insta videos and Snapchats and expecting men to bring everything to the table and entertain them. It's ridiculous.

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

 

[Tryna Makit]

I always say before i go in to a relationship....Having a GF/Wife is like winning a championship....but not like in sport like NBA, NFL MLB...but a championship like fighting/boxing, where you have to constantly defend that belt/bihh from any and all comers

I prefer championship trophies to display....as opposed to a belt i have to defend.

 

[Spectre]

OP..

You may not like my answer to your response to your coworker, but based on your response, those particular dudes aren't mature!

What I could respect is your coworker's date being upfront about his intentions. That gave your coworker and option to either continue dealing with him or moving on..

Obviously, if she is interested in a relationship, then the date she had with that dude should be a one and done deal!

As for your answer to her query, immature men may use women having sex on the first dates as a reason for not pursing relationships.

As for the rest of men, there is no single reason why some men don't want a relationship.

Speaking for myself, I am all in with getting into a relationship, but it can't be a one sided affair during a courtship!

What I have experienced within current times is some women wanting men to adhere to traditional roles right away w/o doing their part in adhering to the same traditional roles.

In addition, it seems to me that some women, not all, but some women or the ones I have ran into really don't want to do shyt!

They don't ask questions. They don't engage in conversations. They don't show any enthusiasm when it comes to becoming better acquainted.

It feels as if I am auditioning for a spot on their roster where they are the judge and I am to perform or audition for them and based on my performance, they will decide whether they are going to put forth any effort or not.

In the meantime, I need to take them out to dinner, open doors, give gifts, make all phone calls and texts, etc.

How is the aforementioned appealing to me? It's one thing to take the first step or initiative pursuing someone and another thing to do all the work with little to no return..

So, perhaps for some men, women's behavior and expectations on dates is what is turning some men off when it comes to relationships because said men don't see any value in relationships with certain women.

But, if women step their game up, be active in the dating process, establish a connection with men, then there will be more men willing to get into relationships.

In all, all parties involved need to be happy and receive benefits. Not just the woman or man.

Well said

I have to plan the whole day, I have to provide transportation, I have to feed you, I have to make you laugh and feel good the whole day, anything pops off I gotta take the heat, I take you back home safely playing music u like....then at the end of the day I'm supposed to hope I get lucky?...like nah boo boo u ain't that special

In this day and age u really gotta bring more to the table than just sex

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Relationships only benefit women nowadays

All we get is consistent p*ssy (if she dont start losing attraction for you outta boredom )

They get unlimited validation
An emotional punching bag
A protector
A provider
Someone they can fullfill their need to argue with for no reason
All while still having their options open cause nikkas dont care if a bytch in a relationship

Plus if you take care of yourself and got game you can get the consistent puss anyways, so whats the point

Lastly, any nikka who got hoes knows females like you 100x more when they gotta chase you.

We off that beta lovey dovey shyt fellas, we giving these hoes dikk and not validation

AMS would be proud

#fukkthesehoestosleep

 

[audemarzz]

OP..

You may not like my answer to your response to your coworker, but based on your response, those particular dudes aren't mature!

What I could respect is your coworker's date being upfront about his intentions. That gave your coworker and option to either continue dealing with him or moving on..

Obviously, if she is interested in a relationship, then the date she had with that dude should be a one and done deal!

As for your answer to her query, immature men may use women having sex on the first dates as a reason for not pursing relationships.

As for the rest of men, there is no single reason why some men don't want a relationship.

Speaking for myself, I am all in with getting into a relationship, but it can't be a one sided affair during a courtship!

What I have experienced within current times is some women wanting men to adhere to traditional roles right away w/o doing their part in adhering to the same traditional roles.

In addition, it seems to me that some women, not all, but some women or the ones I have ran into really don't want to do shyt!

They don't ask questions. They don't engage in conversations. They don't show any enthusiasm when it comes to becoming better acquainted.

It feels as if I am auditioning for a spot on their roster where they are the judge and I am to perform or audition for them and based on my performance, they will decide whether they are going to put forth any effort or not.

In the meantime, I need to take them out to dinner, open doors, give gifts, make all phone calls and texts, etc.

How is the aforementioned appealing to me? It's one thing to take the first step or initiative pursuing someone and another thing to do all the work with little to no return..

So, perhaps for some men, women's behavior and expectations on dates is what is turning some men off when it comes to relationships because said men don't see any value in relationships with certain women.

But, if women step their game up, be active in the dating process, establish a connection with men, then there will be more men willing to get into relationships.

In all, all parties involved need to be happy and receive benefits. Not just the woman or man.

Perfectly put.

 

[010101]

dudes just be repeating shyte from the same playbook shorty shouldn't feel no type of way about it*

 

[Coco Loco]

You the type I can sell dreams to talking about I want a relationship n all that but when I get the draws I ghost. If we want the draws we gonna plot to get em....sorry

Cool

 

[Panther]

If ur an above status male who has no issues getting the type of women he wants then relationships are a bit moot.

Guys can take care of themselves nowadays. Keep a good home, exercise to be in good shape. Even learning how to cook great cuisine has never been easier. Deluxe entertainment at my fingertips. Now I'm gonna go out of my way to please another person just because?

So it's like well I'm good. Got the place and the whip, know how to have a good time, career advancing, got a good circle of attractive women who are close and wanna come through to chill. What's the relationship for?

It starts feeling like something you're supposed to do

Because men can like one girl enough to just wanna be with her, grow and have a family.

All that shyt you posted is cool but lets not act like men don't cuff because we choose to. If you've found someone you like there is nothing wrong with a relationship

 

[MikelArteta]

I mean if you go out, it's not that difficult to meet men. I meet men at grocery stores, events--usually when I'm out. The key is going out and being out. I've never done online dating though, so I'm biased. I'm oldschool and feel like it's weird and desperate to try to form a relationship from it. But, I think you can build friendships off of it. And let's be real a lot of times, people are using these apps to fukk. I apologize if I'm wrong, I just genuinely know like only two people in my entire life who've actually got into relationships with men they've met online.

I might try it one day just for fukkkery purposes. I wouldn't take it seriously--some people do though.

It's 2019 same people off line are online

 

[Youseenmywork]

Man miss patrice Oneal

 

[MaxPain]

Maybe they don’t want one from HER.