Has Anyone Officially Decided They Are Not Having Children?

[humminbird]

@humminbird would you want kids if you could already get that car?

maybe
if i meet the right woman

@Kang The Conqueror

@humminbird

@Realm-Breaker

 

[At30wecashout]

Spoke with my girl some time back: we are not. I was relieved. Its not out of the cards, we are just not doing it any time soon. She gave that emphatic head shake "no". DINK lifestyle is how we are going to work it out.

 

[At30wecashout]

I found that females that don't want kids is because they have some kind of childhood trauma they haven't gotten over it. Honestly feel like when they get older there is regret there. Work can't be the only thing worth accomplishing in life. Raising the next generation is more important.

I haven't asked my girl, but work isn't the only thing you can accomplish. I am finding out the best way to dedicate myself to activism. There are many ways to live a fulfilling life, and one of those things could be to fight for a future where people are again ok with having 2+ kids. shyt is too expensive now, and being black, I see white supremacy is rearing its ugly head in a very public, very digestible way.

 

[Redwood]

It's too haphazard for me to even consider this

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

Please be advised that there are some undercover white people on here trying to normalize/popularize vasectomies and pushing it to black men. The one big advantage we have over white people is that they're dying off and we have strength in numbers. Black men SHOULD NOT be getting vasectomies.

I know he's banned and had a lil white pirate as his avatar but it needs to be understood that The Motherland has the highest birthrates in the world. Black men aren't hurting for children. As for myself, me having children is like climbing Mt. Everest: yeah I can do it but why do thru all that trouble and responsibility with no guarantee of happiness? As a Pan-Afrikan who recently changed his name, do I want to pass it down? Yes but that's just the ideology talking. As a black men, I feel having children in America is like spawning behind enemy lines.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Would never say never but the permanent lifestyle adjustment would be tough to deal with

Autonomy is priceless. “Freedom” is self generated currency nm matter how you choose to use your time.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

Purposely bringing someone you love into this HELLISH existence is actually insane when you really sit back and think about it

Right. Now THAT would be selfish, not being childfree.

 

[Kuma the Bear]

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[The Radiant One]

Maybe if the woman wants it but having children is painful. Most men really only want boys that are successful or well behaved girls

What if your child is special needs or they have crippling depression?

 

[the elastic]

Yea, legacy is a prideful delusion IMO

It's not like back in the day where you NEEDED kids to maintain your farm or way of life

Only way I could see me having kids is if I make enough money to not have to worry about missing a paycheck or two

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

What if your child is special needs or they have crippling depression?

Abortion asap.

 

[The Radiant One]

Abortion asap.

She is pro life

 

[CopiousX]

Abortion asap.

Agreed. Anybody who thinks otherwise needs to spend a week with family that has a severely disabled family member. @The Radiant One , this is true even in your case. Ask her to go volunteer at a childrens hospital's neonatal icu or an assisted living facility and that pro-life arguement dies real quick. Its idealism and wishful thinking to believe you can handle this.


Concieving a disabled child is like taking bullet to your entire preconceived life trajectory. Id compare it to when folks say theyd turn into rambo in an active shooter situation. You simply dont know what you'd do until its too late, but unlike the life-or-death situation, you can fortunately see examples of families dealing with these disabled children before having your own.







I speak from experience. My folks had a handful of kids but decided to keep the disabled one, on some "god gave us a blessing only we could handle" type of sht. Less than decade later, at friend or family gatherings they turned into the living embodiment of...

Now the parents are nearing retirement age and have no idea what the hell they will do about their perrenially disabled adult-child.

 

[RadaMillz]

I want like 4

gotta start soon tho

 

[Ol’Otis]

I’m 33 now so no

I don’t need to kids whispering “who old ass daddy is that?”