Divorce rates are high, but it's not a complete crapshoot. People act like couples that stay together or get divorced are exactly the same, and whatever happens is completely up to chance. Yes the system is unfair but as a man you have to take responsibility in the decisions you make, including choosing a spouse and how you get married. From what I've seen the ways to help your chances are pretty obvious:
Everyone knows couples whose marriages were trainwreck suicide missions. You dudes really mean to tell me you'd do everything exactly the same as them?
A lot of people end up going through with it because they are too scared or embarassed to admit they might have made a mistake. As an adult- as a MAN- you have to be willing to make tough decisions and own mistakes. Nobody worth dealing with is gonna give you shyt for cancelling a doomed marriage.
Again obviously if the risk isn't worth the reward don't do it.... but I feel like it's not very difficult to have a successful marriage, even today. Most high earning men I know are married, and the ones I know who got divorced readily admit where they fukked up and all the red flags they ignored.
- Don't marry too young
- Don't marry if either of you are broke- in fact try to marry a woman who makes as much or more than you. And if you yourself are struggling get your shyt together before looking for a wife
- Don't marry if either of you are in the military
- Don't marry if she has family drama she can't manage
- Don't marry if she doesn't have positive father figures in her life
- Don't marry if her family controls her
- Don't marry if she sets off your hoe radar
- Don't marry if she likes drama
- Don't marry for stupid wrong reasons (family pressure, surprise pregnancy that shouldn't have happened in the first place etc)
- Don't marry if people you trust are saying not to
- Don't marry if it doesn't feel right
Everyone knows couples whose marriages were trainwreck suicide missions. You dudes really mean to tell me you'd do everything exactly the same as them?
A lot of people end up going through with it because they are too scared or embarassed to admit they might have made a mistake. As an adult- as a MAN- you have to be willing to make tough decisions and own mistakes. Nobody worth dealing with is gonna give you shyt for cancelling a doomed marriage.
Again obviously if the risk isn't worth the reward don't do it.... but I feel like it's not very difficult to have a successful marriage, even today. Most high earning men I know are married, and the ones I know who got divorced readily admit where they fukked up and all the red flags they ignored.
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