Have You Ever Fell Out With A Long Term Friend Over A Woman/Man?

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Fairly long read. Sorry in advance.

I was on Match.com about 6 months ago. A fairly attractive woman messages me. I respond and we start chatting. She seems ok, so we move forward and make plans to get to know each other and eventually meet...

We had been involved with one another for about 3 months when I send her a picture one day of me and a group of my guys after we finished hooping. She identifies one of my boys as someone she was involved with about 5 years ago who she occasionally kept in touch with. I told her I had to tell him. She was trying to get me to stay quiet, but I don't keep secrets from my homie.

So I go to my dog and tell him. Tell him she got at me on the site and it was purely coincidental, yadda, yadda, yadda. He gives his blessing and said he ain't tripping, to go forward. So I go forward off my boy saying that he ain't tripping. After talking to this woman a couple of more months, I was starting to get turned off. She was selfish, money hungry, manipulative, argumentative, and made herself a victim in every situation or disagreement between us. I tell her that I don't think we're compatible and cease contact.

A couple of months later, my boy posts a picture with the bytch on Facebook. Apparently, when me and this chick had stopped talking, she reached out to this dude (I'm guessing to make me jealous and to be messy) and this dumb nikka took her back because he's a simp and his ego was probably hurt that she chose up on me, even though his words to me said something different. Smh.

So. I called him. Just said hey. Be careful bro. That chick is manipulative, she said a few questionable things about you, etc. This dummy goes back and tells her everything that I said. She, of course, denies it and calls me a liar (would never lie to my homie period, never mind lie to him over a bytch) and this nikka believes HER and starts acting funny with me because his nose is wide open. So. I'm feeling a way now. Haven't spoken to him in 6 months. Don't plan on speaking to him again. 25 year friendship down the drain over a nothing ass bytch who won't be around in a year having the ability to manipulate his weak minded ass. Smh. There's other details that I'll share as the thread goes on that I left out, but I'm done with typing for now. Getting mad over again thinking about this shyt. Smh.
 

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He will come back once she dumps him.
Exactly. That's what mutual friends are already telling me. He's sniffing around trying to get information, trying to check my temperature because the bytch is already acting funny style/hot and cold with him, which is what I tried to tell his stupid ass from jump :unimpressed:

She only contacted him again because I ended things with her and she felt going back to him would maybe annoy me or make me jealous :russ:

And this dumb nikka fed into it, allowed himself to be used as a pawn and a prop, and turned his back on his BROTHER, for a no good, flighty ass, sometimey ass bytch :francis:

Now. Our trust and our friendship osirreparably damaged and broken. Ain't no going back to how shyt was. How can I trust a nikka like that again? I can't. shyt will NEVER be the same between us. Ever. When a person shows me their true colors, I believe them :yeshrug:
 

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Exactly. That's what mutual friends are already telling me. He's sniffing around trying to get information, trying to check my temperature because the bytch is already acting funny style/hot and cold with him, which is what I tried to tell his stupid ass from jump :unimpressed:

She only contacted him again because I ended things with her and she felt going back to him would maybe annoy me or make me jealous :russ:

And this dumb nikka fed into it, allowed himself to be used as a pawn and a prop, and turned his back on his BROTHER, for a no good, flighty ass, sometimey ass bytch :francis:

Now. Our trust and our friendship is irreparably damaged. How can I trust a nikka like that again? I can't. shyt will NEVER be the same between us. Ever. When a person shows me their true colors, I believe them :yeshrug:

Just trust you know how they will act. No reason to toss out a friendship. I have done the same.
 

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Why make this thread now if yall haven’t spoke in 6 months?
Because I felt like it :stopitslime: Why do you care? Look at my post count and correlate that to my join date. A person with the IQ of a Ruffles potato chip can tell that I'm not on here much. I thought about it today, so I posted it today. Free message board :yeshrug:

Feel free to exit my thread if you don't wanna read it:yeshrug:
 

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Because I felt like it :stopitslime: Why do you care? Look at my post count and correlate that to my join date. A person with the IQ of a Ruffles potato chip can tell that I'm not on here much. I thought about it today, so I posted it today. Free message board :yeshrug:

Feel free to exit my thread if you don't wanna read it:yeshrug:
I was just asking a question breh, No wonder they both dipped on yo sensitive emotional ass :mjlol:
 

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I was just asking a question breh, No wonder they both dipped on yo sensitive emotional ass :mjlol:
And I gave you an answer. Now. How did that information affect or improve your life? And, maybe you can't read, but I cut ties with both of them, not the other way around. But ok. Whatever you say homie. I don't argue with internet nikkas and you ain't derailing my thread because you wanna troll. You probably done did some hoe shyt like the bytch ass nikka I'm describing in the story, so you feel some kinda way. I get it. It's more bytch nikkas in abundance than real nikkas. And I can already tell. You one of them annoying ass nikkas who don't know how or when to stop. You just gonna keep going. So. You can argue with yourself. Ignore :umad:
 

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I've been in a similar situation before where I used to have a gf and we broke up. Shortly after the split she starts getting buddy buddy with a guy who used to be my friend (who I always thought liked my girl secretly).

Your homie got used as a pawn and by treating him a way you're falling for her plan. Be non reactive bro trust me. Their little run will end because it's not real, she will come back to you. If you see him around don't treat him any differently, dap him and keep it moving but if you flat out cut him off it shows you're hurt
 

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Man. Keep moving. He was never your homey and you were never his. If I ever found out a woman I’m dating dealt with anybody that I consider my man, she automatically gets put in the box and shipped out.

I don’t mean to sound like I’m on a high horse or anything but I always kept tabs on all my homeys chicks so that signals don’t get crossed and the circle stays tight. My old heads warned me about dealing with another mans woman.

Real talk, he probably told you to proceed just to see how you would do and in his mind, he sees this as an act of revenge to you. Long story short, your relationship will never be the same so chalk this up as a lesson learned.

The woman sensed weakness in y’all links and is sorting her chaos and destruction upon y’all circle and when she’s done, she will skip away to her next victim, spinning her tails and lies on how you all did her wrong.

Stay safe out here breh.
 

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I've been in a similar situation before where I used to have a gf and we broke up. Shortly after the split she starts getting buddy buddy with a guy who used to be my friend (who I always thought liked my girl secretly).

Your homie got used as a pawn and by treating him a way you're falling for her plan. Be non reactive bro trust me. Their little run will end because it's not real, she will come back to you. If you see him around don't treat him any differently, dap him and keep it moving but if you flat out cut him off it shows you're hurt
I see what you're saying my guy but, for me, it's the principle of the whole situation. I'm not treating him a way because of the woman. I don't get emotional or anything because of females. I, personally, don't deal with or want people around me who've shown me, through their actions, that they aren't solid, trustworthy, or loyal. I don't want them sharing my space or breathing my air. I don't even like their energy around me. I try to be stand up and solid in all of my dealings with people. I don't EVER fold or switch up, especially on my day ones. So. When a nikka shows me that he's not on that loyalty shyt like I'm on it, I choose to end my association and dealings with him. Has nothing to do with any woman. She was just the proxy and the conduit for his true colors to be revealed to me. I don't have people who I can't trust around me. That's how you get killed.
 

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A girl I was friends with from work had a bf that she was literally OBSESSED with. Anyways I guess she asked him which one of her friends he liked the most and he said me. From that moment on in her mind I wanted her dude :dead: She even straight up said “please don’t take him from me” :dead: It turned in to this huge problem anytime I hung out with her she made sure her bf didn’t talk to me or look at me, not that I cared, but she constantly brought it up. “If jay tried to fukk you would you let him” “would you ever sleep with your friends man” “have you ever had a fantasy about jay”, she asked me not to wear leggings, low cut shirts, shorts etc to her house, she didn’t even want me to go to the beach with them etc. She just wouldn’t let it go and it was annoying so I just stopped hanging out with her.

Sucked because before that she was a really good friend smh.
 

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And I gave you an answer. Now. How did that information affect or improve your life? And, maybe you can't read, but I cut ties with both of them, not the other way around. But ok. Whatever you say homie. I don't argue with internet nikkas and you ain't derailing my thread because you wanna troll. You probably done did some hoe shyt like the bytch ass nikka I'm describing in the story, so you feel some kinda way. I get it. It's more bytch nikkas in abundance than real nikkas. And I can already tell. You one of them annoying ass nikkas who don't know how or when to stop. You just gonna keep going. So. You can argue with yourself. Ignore :umad:
You got problems, Common Denominator is you :manny:
 
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