How did you overcome that trauma from your youth that makes you freeze with a woman you actually have romantic interest?

[DJ Paul's Arm]

Do you nikkas not know what romantic interest means? I’m not looking for hook ups, degenerates

Who said anything about hookups? Any women you approach can eventually end up in marriage. You never know.

That woman you see pumping gas can be your equal but it ain’t happening if you don’t go up to her and say wassup.

 

[010101]

I’m not trying to be with many women nor a model. Just one that will reciprocate my affection and attraction

one or one million the common theme is it's all a woman's choice*

 

[Guess Who]

I’ve given up my addictions and drug abuse. Yeah breh I made another thread on social anxiety, I was supposed to see my therapist tomorrow but the mf going to the airport.

I’m trying to change my thought pattern and shyt. It’s hard as hell. Thanks breh, going to join a local toastmasters

All that stuff is great. But you still have to challenge yourself. When something triggers you that’s when you have to stay in the situation and face the overwhelm. Nothing else will work. Nothing.

 

[Ski Mask]

Mdma, unfortunately that's the only way for me.

 

[Westbama Heartthrob]

Why you keep speaking plural? I just want one woman that I’m attracted to and can date. That’s my goal

But that's the thing. You gotta meet at least a handful of women before you find one you really wanna be with

Not one for the rest of your life more than likely. But those can still lead you to having worthwhile experiences and genuine connection with someone despite the outcome

Not saying fukk all of em, but actually spend time getting to know them before jumping to calling them your gf. You don't know who you gonna be romantically interested in if you only know basic info about them

I'm still searching for that type of shyt myself. So dont feel bad breh. Ain't getting no younger so might as well be with a woman I can see something more than the immediate future with

Once you gotten a taste of that real love, that other shyt don't hit the same

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

Accepting that the trauma plays a big part in my life and adapting to living with the problems, as they soon will be resolved . shyt it helps that my wife and I both struggle with our past trauma and seeking help as I type for it. Reality hits as we are all flawed beings wishing for a peace of mind, but accepting the vices positive and negative to get through the pain of the past.

 

[semicko82]

Stop trying to date for now, and deal with your unresolved trauma. You never specified what type of trauma you're dealing with

 

[Ol’Otis]

Start by not being a miserable fukking fakkit your whole damn life

What you do him to that for?

 

[Rozay Oro]

Stop trying to date for now, and deal with your unresolved trauma. You never specified what type of trauma you're dealing with

Being bullied by most of my cousins on being single and a virgin as a teen. Taking so many L’s when trying to court, getting my first kiss after HS, falling into hedonism only to realize it doesn’t satisfy. Never having a real gf.

I think I just need to give up and just focus on what I can which is money and exercise

 

[rabbid]

Do you nikkas not know what romantic interest means? I’m not looking for hook ups, degenerates

You ain’t gotta hook up with them. It’s called building experience. You dry dikk nikkas starting to fight back, fine then be lonely and scared for the rest of your life.

 

[StackorStarve]

Being bullied by most of my cousins on being single and a virgin as a teen. Taking so many L’s when trying to court, getting my first kiss after HS, falling into hedonism only to realize it doesn’t satisfy. Never having a real gf.

I think I just need to give up and just focus on what I can which is money and exercise

If you can get multiple women to sleep with you I don’t understand why you can’t get them to date you. Are you only going after women you don’t think are good enough to be in a relationship?

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

Many of these women are smokers, drinkers, have no accountability and selfish. Despite their looks. The women at work find me attractive and they may look good. I don’t like their personalities and bad habits.

So you have no problem interacting with people in your day to day life and can confidently say women at work find you attractive but they aren't good enough?

Theen youre struggling with women, even though you aren't placing high importance on looks?

I'm not buying it. Maybe you did internalize getting bullied as a child but realize you shouldn't fear failure/rejection as you're already dealing with it. It's a numbers game z you're going to fail more along the way. Keep working on yourself, don't be so narrow minded and stop framing your self worth completely around this.

 

[Rozay Oro]

If you can get multiple women to sleep with you I don’t understand why you can’t get them to date you. Are you only going after women you don’t think are good enough to be in a relationship?

Tinder and bumble.

 

[Rozay Oro]

So you have no problem interacting with people in your day to day life and can confidently say women at work find you attractive but they aren't good enough?

Theen youre struggling with women, even though you aren't placing high importance on looks?

I'm not buying it. Maybe you did internalize getting bullied as a child but realize you shouldn't fear failure/rejection as you're already dealing with it. It's a numbers game z you're going to fail more along the way. Keep working on yourself, don't be so narrow minded and stop framing your self worth completely around this.

I like square/nerdy girls. I don’t put myself out there. I used tinder and bumble when I was promiscuous.

Trying, it’s just hard

 

[pawdalaw]

My life is boring and empty

Breh, no excuses! start working out stop jacking off. Study a discipline of spirituality that stirs your soul. It builds discipline and charisma. Women love spiritual/esoteric topics.

You can always use her eyes/energy as a topical icebreaker. You gotta be versed in something to hold a conversation tho. What do you have in common with the opposite sex?

Women sense confidence, if you can’t confidently approach she will not feel protected. No protection you won’t get any respect.