How did you overcome that trauma from your youth that makes you freeze with a woman you actually have romantic interest?

[StackorStarve]

Tinder and bumble.

Yeah that’s where they be at. Nothing wrong with messing with some birds along your journey but idk what to tell you breh. Might just be a confidence thing. That’s an issue nobody can really solve for you. Just don’t think too much about the past and just move forward. Short term memory.

 

[3rdWorld]

Wont take female advise from some pimple face cac

But..being a little shy and not getting any action from the girls and seeing my ugly friends getting theirs prompted me to step the fukk up..

 

[Neuromancer]

No breh, I converted this year

What was so appealing about Eastern Orthodox?

 

[null]

snake oil salesman.

but more benign than the pillers etc.

neural plasticity ain't as simple as he is making out

Neuroplasticity - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

 

[Rozay Oro]

Yeah that’s where they be at. Nothing wrong with messing with some birds along your journey but idk what to tell you breh. Might just be a confidence thing. That’s an issue nobody can really solve for you. Just don’t think too much about the past and just move forward. Short term memory.

I’m trying to breh, it’s just an involuntary reaction

 

[Rozay Oro]

What was so appealing about Eastern Orthodox?

It’s the fullness of the Christian faith and has the spirituality that our Western world lacks. Patristics, Orthodox Hymns, Myrrh streaming Icons in present day, lives of the Saints like St Moses the Ethiopian for example, Mt Athos and our modern Saints like St Paisios the Anthonite. The miracles we have in present time too. The Church is alive.







I was raised Roman Catholic, became atheist after highschool and then entered into Protestantism near my mid 20’s. Discovered Orthodoxy two years ago and inquired for over a year.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Wont take female advise from some pimple face cac

But..being a little shy and not getting any action from the girls and seeing my ugly friends getting theirs prompted me to step the fukk up..

he didn’t give advice on women, he spoke on having trauma being etched to your nervous system

 

[Ducktales]

This is probably horrible advice lol. But I took a shroom in college that took a lot of my anxiety away. It was almost like it realeased my personality and made me less timid. Swing yourself more positively influences your confidence heavy. Make sure you work out and feel you look good and you won’t be paranoid around women

 

[DamienWayne]

Too old for only be able to hook up with women and not date

If you getting buns what’s the problem?

 

[Rozay Oro]

If you getting buns what’s the problem?

I stopped being promiscuous. I want an actual relationship but my nervous system is a detriment to making that happen.

 

[StackorStarve]

I’m trying to breh, it’s just an involuntary reaction

No disrespect but fukk all that shyt my nikka. You only got one shot at whatever the fukk this thing we call life is. Don’t compare yourself to anybody and have the highest level of respect for yourself. Trauma is there until you make peace with whatever happened. Acknowledge you took the L in the past and put it behind you. Tomorrow is a new day. fukk that frail shyt. Hook off of a nikka on GP. fukk that bytch. Slay that whore. And treat your wife and kids right when you get there.

 

[Rozay Oro]

No disrespect but fukk all that shyt my nikka. You only got one shot at whatever the fukk this thing we call life is. Don’t compare yourself to anybody and have the highest level of respect for yourself. Trauma is there until you make peace with whatever happened. Acknowledge you took the L in the past and put it behind you. Tomorrow is a new day. fukk that frail shyt. Hook off of a nikka on GP. fukk that bytch. Slay that whore. And treat your wife and kids right when you get there.

Besides being promiscuous, I’m fighting for that

 

[StackorStarve]

Besides being promiscuous, I’m fighting for that

Pause bro. The word promiscuous just sounds gay. I don’t need to know about that. You saying you been traumatized. So im saying stop being a hoe for lack of better words and acknowledge your losses so you can move on. Only reason I’m even saying shyt is cuz I had to slap the shyt outta my nephew for being a bytch. Life will not spare you

 

[SunZoo]

Yes I am but when I have feelings for a girl and she reciprocates. It’s tough, I really tried to give up but this one girl gave me hope. Only to crush me. I want a child

This is lust my guy, it may not look like it but it is and probably very intertwined with your religious values and fitting squarely within them.

Not to say it's abnormal to want a child but why? Question you desires, even the ones that seem pretty standard. We all have traumas and things that throw our nervous systems out of whack that inform what we seek externally, which is what lust really is.

Just because you aren't "promiscuous" doesn't mean you aren't looking outside yourself to fulfill a void/lack. If I sat a woman and a child in your lap right now you wouldn't know wtf to do with it either, so where is the want coming from?

Waiting for THOSE things to fall in place puts you in purgatory.

 

[DamienWayne]

I stopped being promiscuous. I want an actual relationship but my nervous system is a detriment to making that happen.

Hmmm I feel you . It does get old . Was thinking that recently about settling down