How do ya'll live with your parents after 22...

[Regine Hunter]

i'm doomed once i graduate.
seems like when your parents are from west africa, the rule is you stay in the house until you marry.



i may not ever marry.
again, i'm doomed.

 

[MikelArteta]

Buy a 500 sqfoot condo for 450k, rent a basement or live in a 4,000 sq foot house

 

[Family Lives Matter]

This must be what going on between my dad and little brother

I couldn't live with my dad I love him but dude gets on my nerves

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

It really depends

As soon as I started making my own money things immediately flipped with my pops and I. He can't deal with people who aren't dependent on him or don't get drunk with him and once I started making $$$ I was neither.

If I were smarter at the time I would have saved a lot more when I moved out. When I was home I was paying damn near $300 a month for the train and another couple hundred to "help my mom". I was out in 6 months. But once I was on my own I was an idiot. No student loans making good money not saving a dime

When I have kids Im gonna try and teach em how to save money and hopefully we will get along enough that they can live at home for a year or two while they work to get on their feet. I want my kids to move out of my house into buying their own.

Other thing is a lot of immigrant cultures are cool with kids living at home, but not to benefit the kids. Parents dont plan for their retirements and just expect the kids to support them into old age. shyt brings a lot of strife. I know doctors in their 60s asking their kids for money

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Buy a 500 sqfoot condo for 450k, rent a basement or live in a 4,000 sq foot house

Or move out of expensive ass Toronto. My friend bought a 2 BR/2 BA condo on a lake for like $130K and hes only like 30-40 minutes from the city here

 

[Silkk]

Been home visiting for like a week now, maaaaaan i could NEVER move back in here full time after being on my own

 

[LiquidMasterSwords]

Some of y'all had it much better than me. When I graduated from college, I went back home. Lived with my mom, older sister and her daughter (my niece). A week after I graduated my mom quit her job (because she didn't want to do it anymore after decades ).

I suspect that she expected me to find a good job and her ass would be set. But it Took me a few months to find a permanent job. Meanwhile all the temp jobs I had, all that money went towards paying the bills. I put a little to the side as savings so that I could get my own place. Other than that I was flat broke.

So one day my mom asked for some money (not to pay a bill, but for some ol reckless shyt). I said nah I'm broke I don't have it. She said "you don't have ANYTHING"? I respond well yeah I have money I'm saving so I can find my own place.

My mom EXPLODED! "We're struggling and YOU HAVE A SAVINGS!?" We got in a heat argument afterwards. My mom has never been good with money but at least she's always been employed, you know? But once she quit working she didn't change her spending habits. There was no way I could stay there paying her bills and not having a savings. I took all my shyt and moved in with my friend. Once he's lease was up we got an apartment and I've been good ever since.

My mom never got another job (this was 2012) but she's fine. Till this day I don't understand how as the youngest child, why are you coming to me for money? When I'm trying to get my life together after college. I have 3 older siblings, one 8 years older the other 15. Well established. Ask them nikkas.

Alright rant over. Thanks for reading lol.

 

[LadySimone]

Suck it up, better than being kicked out at 18 with $50 to you name

Black folks NEED to stop doing this.

 

[RoyalQ]

Im 22 and wish i could move out but florida is a bytch if you dont have decent money. My parents treat me like a child. They bytch about me going out after dark its winter and it gets dark by like 6, fukk i look like a teenager?

 

[LadySimone]

Some of y'all had it much better than me. When I graduated from college, I went back home. Lived with my mom, older sister and her daughter (my niece). A week after I graduated my mom quit her job (because she didn't want to do it anymore after decades ).

I suspect that she expected me to find a good job and her ass would be set. But it Took me a few months to find a permanent job. Meanwhile all the temp jobs I had, all that money went towards paying the bills. I put a little to the side as savings so that I could get my own place. Other than that I was flat broke.

So one day my mom asked for some money (not to pay a bill, but for some ol reckless shyt). I said nah I'm broke I don't have it. She said "you don't have ANYTHING"? I respond well yeah I have money I'm saving so I can find my own place.

My mom EXPLODED! "We're struggling and YOU HAVE A SAVINGS!?" We got in a heat argument afterwards. My mom has never been good with money but at least she's always been employed, you know? But once she quit working she didn't change her spending habits. There was no way I could stay there paying her bills and not having a savings. I took all my shyt and moved in with my friend. Once he's lease was up we got an apartment and I've been good ever since.

My mom never got another job (this was 2012) but she's fine. Till this day I don't understand how as the youngest child, why are you coming to me for money? When I'm trying to get my life together after college. I have 3 older siblings, one 8 years older the other 15. Well established. Ask them nikkas.

Alright rant over. Thanks for reading lol.

Now that I'm older I love my mothers stingy ass. She holds on to her money. She'll be at the 99cent store trying to haggle. Never spent crazy. Ever. Proud of her. Coming from Haiti not speaking English but she got savings of an unknow amount (she wrong for that) has homes that make her money and is soon to retire.

She ain't never had to ask her kids for stuff but she will for shyts and giggles.

 

[RoyalQ]

i'm doomed once i graduate.
seems like when your parents are from west africa, the rule is you stay in the house until you marry.



i may not ever marry.
again, i'm doomed.

Thats how haitian culture is for women. fukk that im out as soon as i graduate and find a nice job.

 

[Stacker Pentecost]

I moved out of my moms house at 17 and never went back for this exact reason. The fights were ridiculous. We get along much better now but we just had a fight last week and currently aren't speaking

The fight was about me possibly moving back home to help take care of my grandma. Not a good sign.

 

[RoyalQ]

Now that I'm older I love my mothers stingy ass. She holds on to her money. She'll be at the 99cent store trying to haggle. Never spent crazy. Ever. Proud of her. Coming from Haiti not speaking English but she got savings of an unknow amount (she wrong for that) has homes that make her money and is soon to retire.

She ain't never had to ask her kids for stuff but she will for shyts and giggles.

Right? Haitian moms wont buy you shyt but can send $3,000 to haiti in a hearbeat.

 

[LadySimone]

That's true, I'm just saying this standard idea of booting your kids out the house at 18 on some sink or swim shyt should be saved for special circumstances where people just can't get along or like you said no real support system. But in the future, if we talking about economics and building, family is where it should start. My uncle was already doing well enough, he had a different upbringing from my moms and his brothers and sisters even though they grew up in the same house (different fathers). But that cushion, without the shame and the petty bullshyt that people get into from time to time allowed him a solid foundation. Ain't shyt cool about flailing about out there in the world struggling if it's not absolutely necessary.

It's also expensive too.

 

[Stacker Pentecost]

I couldn't wait to move out of my mama's house. I had to move to Vegas to officially move out because I found a job that paid enough. At this time I was 23. It wasn't that my mama treated me like a child or anything. She just liked drama and hasn't grown mentally. Love her and will respect her but could never live under her roof again. This was my only option.

MY MOM

Every day this woman is fighting with someone, me, my aunt, my grandma, coworkers. Lady chill out