How to stop being aloof and distant?

[Prynce]

I'm a very emotionally detached person irl and I've been called out on it by family and friends.

So how do I change from being a a$$hole to being that friendly extroverted guy

 

[MoroccanBoy]

Stop thinking you are better than others.

 

[DjBhaled]

What is the source of your emotional distancing?

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Can't really change your natural inclination just fake it at best

 

[Prynce]

Stop thinking you are better than others.

I agree.

 

[Henri Christophe]

you dont have to do anything you dont wanna do......... tell them to suck dikk


I'm naturally introverted and I do what I want cause I'm a grown ass man and nobody can tell me different.... stop caring about what people think, unless theyre paying you

 

[BlackAchilles]

You don't

Instead you learn to embrace it and go about in in a way which is honest and responsible

 

[Prynce]

What is the source of your emotional distancing?

insecurities, social awkwardness and just a general lack of interest in other people.

It's hard for me to have motivation to interact with people cause I simple don't care a lot of the times.
My Friend and my cousin called me out on it. I need to change that about me.

Many times I've had women or people in my face trying to get to know me and be my friend but I push them away with my aloofness.

 

[mortuus est]

well this is easy, you do the opposite of aloof and distant

good thing i get paid to post on the coli or i would of became a therapist IRL.

 

[BigMan]

stop being a self centered a$$hole thats thinks your better than people because you're not

 

[Prynce]

well this is easy, you do the opposite of aloof and distant

good thing i get paid to post on the coli or i would of became a therapist IRL.

lol ye but I don't have the motivation to do it most of the times

 

[Yehuda]

You don't. People have been calling me out on this for years and I haven't found a way to fix it. I don't know how it is for you but in my case I'm not even doing it on purpose my head just be in the clouds.

 

[MoroccanBoy]

insecurities and just a general lack of interest in other people.

It's hard for me to have motivation to interact with people cause I simple don't care a lot of the times.
My Friend and my cousin called me out on it. I need to change that about me.

Many times I've had women or people in my face trying to get to know me and be my friend but I push them away with my aloofness.

I used to be like that. It was a defense mechanism.

One way is to just be completely honest in your interactions. Once you have a base level of truth you are working with everything else rolls off that. It's a dishonest and deceitful way to live to push people away.

 

[Prynce]

stop being a self centered a$$hole thats thinks your better than people because you're not

there is truth to that tbh

 

[mortuus est]

lol ye but I don't have the motivation to do it most of the times

What do you have motivation for? can i ask what do you enjoy?