I am 35 and ready to have kids ASAP, its crazy

™BlackPearl The Empress™

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I told him to be responsible, vet the women he meets and be honest that he wants to be a father...

Am I supposed elaborate beyind that? I can't walk him thru it...

Our community looks how it does, not because of anyone alive today...
Why are you telling him to do it in the first place without any type of background?

More to raising children them just "vetting" a mom.

His posting history is all over the place.

Our community looks the way it does because we refuse to have real meaningful conversations about things that matter. Instead we just throw around generic phases like "be responsible" and call that good advice.
 

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Why are we acting like men have a biological clock? Take care of your finances, find a good woman that you can commit to then have a kid
 

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Are you married? You should really foster a long term relationship with a woman before having children. Are your finances in order? You shouldn't bring children into the world on impulse. Especially in these times. The Black community is in part where it is because we act on vibes and feelings and it's not just women. Waking up and wanting children means that you should be preparing to be the best father and person you can be not just putting inside a woman and hoping for the best.

So you want to create a single mother? A child is a bigger commitment than marriage.


OP listen to these men.
 
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I wonder how women feel at late 30s single and no kids

i feel decent. i mean, as we can see have kids is probably the most brainless thing a human can do (it just takes 10 mins of fukking) so i don't feel like i failed at anything. the only time it hits different is tax season. and for that reason i think about adoption. and then i do some retail therapy then it's back to feeling decent lol.

OP there are plenty of orphans out here that need parents :manny:
 
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also parents love to think about it from their perspective which i get is the easiest thing to do, and be on some "i don't regret it" vibe (i mean what else CAN you say and not get judged). but as someone who is only a child and not a parent, i still think of it from the child side. i can't count how many times i been hanging out with my dad and think to myself "i didn't ask to be here" :dead:

but it is what it is.

happy sunday yall
 

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:wow: thought I was going to be getting ready for marriage this year, did not happened as planned. Actively dating, low key prepared to get a woman pregnant and have my first child. It's so wierd. I went from being okay if I had a kid to my ex to yeah, need to find a chick to get pregnant ASAP :mjlol:. Of course get married. Trying to avoid crazies.
You only control 50% of your wants…like saying I want a job at google…you need to be allowed someone has to keep making decisions to go in your direction with you. It will benefit you if your words match reality
 
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