the expense of a child will be more than your added deduction/refund…Net loss financially if that’s your only reasoni feel decent. i mean, as we can see have kids is probably the most brainless thing a human can do (it just takes 10 mins of fukking) so i don't feel like i failed at anything. the only time it hits different is tax season. and for that reason i think about adoption. and then i do some retail therapy then it's back to feeling decent lol.
OP there are plenty of orphans out here that need parents
I am 35 and ready to have kids ASAP, its crazy
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King_Kamala61
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You clearly aren't black smmfhI CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY SOMEONE WOULDNT WANT TO REPRODUCE
ITS LITERALLY WHAT WERE WIRED FOR
SOME WEIRD SHIIT TO JUST LET YOUR LINEAGE DIE OUT IMO
This nikka is breeding childrenjust need onegirl I am dating is 6'1"...need a D1 baby from her lol
bourgeoisie tall freak
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i feel you. but then you have the whole "raise a child to be a decent human being" thing which i think will make up for it.
i love a good endeavor lol
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Me too. That lifestyle does not look appealing to me at all. And grow up to be cogs in the system and I don’t want to force them into that lolim sure having kids is some amazing shyt, and i would never knock it. raising a son has to be some ill shyt as a man
but without kids, ill be retiring in my 40s, and i still don't know one dude with kids that i actually envy. not one
murksiderock
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We can respectfully disagree. I'm not under the impression that I gave him bad advice and I didn't think it necessary that I provide a play by play breakdown of preparing to be a father for him...
Wondering how many dudes that are so over the top pro kids actually live with them full time in here
Can you explain why would this matter that guys don't full time live with their kids? I don't believe you guys have children, correct?
Do you not want kids?i feel decent. i mean, as we can see have kids is probably the most brainless thing a human can do (it just takes 10 mins of fukking) so i don't feel like i failed at anything. the only time it hits different is tax season. and for that reason i think about adoption. and then i do some retail therapy then it's back to feeling decent lol.
OP there are plenty of orphans out here that need parents
I still don't understand why people feel any pressure or would call themselves "failures" for not having kids. I think its fine to not want any. I just disagree with the posters who have this fearful rationale for not having them...
There is never a great time to become a parent, if one's measurement is the state of society or another person's yardstick. You can plan appropriately and with seemingly the right person, and go from there...
A child not gonna save you more then 5k on your taxes, food, clothes, diapers, time, activities, babysitter, medical for 12 months $$$$$$$$$
Unless you 1099 yourself and say raising your child is a contractor position then you can deduct everything lol
bourgeoisie tall freak
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i tried to go back and delete that part... tmi lol
i don't need a babysitter, as i work from home. medical on company insurance. i feel like a lot of all that other stuff is basically baby shower gifts for the first year or so.... but yeah i feel you.
Why would that not matter tho? It's easy to talk about all the good aspects about being a parent if you don't have to experience the not so good aspects 24/7/365.
**Nobody can plot their life out 100% and anything can throw your shyt off so I'm not saying anything is wrong with anyone's situation but that is a pretty big detail to account for here.
bourgeoisie tall freak
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just judging off my actions and the fact that i haven't had one by now although i've had plenty of offers and chances... i would say i'm neutral about it.
i think they are cute and something to do so i wouldn't mind having one, but i'm not going to force it at all
and yes i am scared of physically having a child. i be thinking i am going to die giving birth since i am old now
and then what it does to your body...that's one part men don't have to think about.
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prince_peoples
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I’m 38 years old, and went through the same thing as you. So I had an emergency baby
And had my first child with earlier this year
shyt been amazing, but I got lucky I had options of decent woman who were willing to have my child.
And had my first child with earlier this year
shyt been amazing, but I got lucky I had options of decent woman who were willing to have my child.
Bigen King
All Star
You 35 that time for having kids has passed you up if you aiming at women in their 30’s. If you can scoop up a nice 25 yr old it could work but the majority of women over 30 is high risk to get pregnant.
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Brolic
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Yinny
Sweet and Sour Patch Mom
When I was just a few years ago I was fine, kids and even dating fr weren’t on my radar. Enjoying my hobbies, flexibility, free time and working -it didn’t feel like a void, I think the main thing that comes is “will I or won’t I” for timing. Even that tbh isn’t as critical considering women can have healthy children even into their 40s-with that said do we want to muster up the energy it takes to keep up with them/can you really trust that your male counterpart will actually be a partner in raising the kid. Men don’t typically invest the same time, energy etc into their kids whether they marry, stay together or split.