I got dumped, fired, and (almost) evicted within a span of three months

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Kerkum said:
So, my partner/boyfriend dumped me back in January. We were together for two years and he really blindsided me. He was very much into the scene and an extroverted person while I’m more withdrawn/introverted. Dumped me over a text, not even a “let’s have a talk” type courtesy. This in turn caused me to lose focus and make mistakes at work. I’m already black and gay, so the cacs and Mexicans at my job were already gunning for me. I was highest paid in my department. Made the mistake of wrecking the district van by cracking the taillight, backing into a pole. I stupidly didn’t report it, because I didn’t think I did damage until I made it back to central office. It was a hit and run and they let me go two days later. Just when I think shyt could get any worse, my landlord calls me saying she’s going to an attorney to start the process of eviction. Apparently, my last deposit into her account on the 1st of that month didn’t reach her account. Come to find out the bank lost the funds or put the money into a wrong account(?) and I didn’t retain the receipt when I went into the branch to make the deposit. I don’t bank with her bank, I just deposit my rent every month into her account. So now I’m down on a month of rent that should’ve been paid but she’s letting me make arrangements after I explained how precarious my situation is. My life is just spiraling and I’m hanging on by a thread. I know coli brehs are gonna neg me and call me a fakkit. So I guess that means I already lost. I just don’t see the point in continuing on living because I’m pretty much bad luck personified.
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Do you have anywhere to stay after getting evicted? That's most important. Hope your parents or someone similar is on your side. If you have the funds, take some time off to relax while you're out of work and single. Clear your head and itemize what's important to you.
 
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u are making things seem more negative than they are.
the bf thing was months ago & your manager isn't evicting u.
the firing thing sucks. you have a car, so go do grocery/meal delivery while u jobhunt.

suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.

besides, the bf sounds like a bad fit. do u really want him to think he has this much power over u that u can't last a few months without him? he's not all that
 
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I understand you are stressed out OP, you just lost your job and that sucks.

But guess what, a lot of us are dealing with adversity at this very moment like you. You aren't alone even if it feels like it.

A job is never worth a life. Green pieces of paper with dead White men on it are never worth a life. You will make it all back and then some.

And you shouldn't want someone who doesn't want you. You don't even recognize you are now available for someone who really wants to treat you right. That sounds like a good thing to me.

You can't be a hero without a crisis. Sit down with yourself, game plan and figure it out. That's your only option.

Think of the hard times you've had in the past -- you made it through.

The solutions to your problems are already inside you. You just gotta block out those negative whispers telling you lies and remember you the truth, you got this. Surround yourself with some good people and stay away from complainers while you get back on your feet.
 
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Life is a sin wave you'll have ups and downs...best of luck to you tho wish you the best
 
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Kerkum said:
So, my partner/boyfriend dumped me back in January. We were together for two years and he really blindsided me. He was very much into the scene and an extroverted person while I’m more withdrawn/introverted. Dumped me over a text, not even a “let’s have a talk” type courtesy. This in turn caused me to lose focus and make mistakes at work. I’m already black and gay, so the cacs and Mexicans at my job were already gunning for me. I was highest paid in my department. Made the mistake of wrecking the district van by cracking the taillight, backing into a pole. I stupidly didn’t report it, because I didn’t think I did damage until I made it back to central office. It was a hit and run and they let me go two days later. Just when I think shyt could get any worse, my landlord calls me saying she’s going to an attorney to start the process of eviction. Apparently, my last deposit into her account on the 1st of that month didn’t reach her account. Come to find out the bank lost the funds or put the money into a wrong account(?) and I didn’t retain the receipt when I went into the branch to make the deposit. I don’t bank with her bank, I just deposit my rent every month into her account. So now I’m down on a month of rent that should’ve been paid but she’s letting me make arrangements after I explained how precarious my situation is. My life is just spiraling and I’m hanging on by a thread. I know coli brehs are gonna neg me and call me a fakkit. So I guess that means I already lost. I just don’t see the point in continuing on living because I’m pretty much bad luck personified.
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My brother, you may feel like the storm is beating you but that's just when it's about to break.
When you're going through hell, the smartest thing to do is just keep going and push through.
Push through and I promise that in a few months, you'll look back and see that this was just a rougher spring cleaning that set you up for a bright summer.
Trust me breh. You are not alone and you're not forsaken.

Keep your head up
 
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