I got dumped, fired, and (almost) evicted within a span of three months

Gloxina

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minor setbacks for a major comeback :ehh:

1. fukk that dude
2. you could have filed for unemployment seeing that the whole accident thing was a misunderstanding. they probably would have paid the claim because it sounds like you had pretty decent performance and they fired you over some minor traffic incident that i am assuming you didn't even get cited for.
3. pay bill with the unemployment until you find another gig

ALL THIS! It’s totally going to be ok. Before you know it these incidents will be a distant memory.
 

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I know we OD talk shyt about gays on here, but me personally I don't have a problem with any human living their chosen life.

The Treh shyt gets spooky but because of deceitfulness and because of them trying to alter reality on some infinity stone shyt.

Snap. I am now a real woman..

Im doing this preamble because I don't think I ever read a poster being this real about being a gay black man. Didn't know we had anyone in that demo that posts here.

Here's the advice.

Things always work out.

For people who always work their things out.

There may be luck operating to help some, but you cannot depend on pure luck. You cannot think that you can be taken out by pure bad luck.

The thing you can control is your approach to life and your level of activity. Your tenacity. You desire to get where you're going.

No matter what.. IF YOU WANT TO BECOME POWERFUL AND RESILIANT.. you have to get up, get to work, climb up, push hard. Every day. Especially when you're down. Get BUSY. Wether looking for a job or looking for a partner. Wake up. Spent x number of hours on this. Then x number on that. Productive things.

Do not let how you FEEL stop you from DOING. Doing the necessary. Relentlessly.

Only then will your work manifest into your desired outcome.

Life has no purpose.

Which is the beauty of it.

Life has no purpose besides that which we assign it.

You get to choose your own adventure.
Whoa, this was real deep and insightful. Thanks so much, dude. Although I feel beaten up by life and at the end of my rope. I know I need to keep persevering and to keep my eye on ref prize. Some days I just want to lay in bed and sleep away my worries but that’ll solve nothing. As badly as I wanna drink, I can’t do that either
 

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Whoa, this was real deep and insightful. Thanks so much, dude. Although I feel beaten up by life and at the end of my rope. I know I need to keep persevering and to keep my eye on ref prize. Some days I just want to lay in bed and sleep away my worries but that’ll solve nothing. As badly as I wanna drink, I can’t do that either

On the drinking tip.

I have that problem.

It's very important to get serious about boundaries with your habits. If you are an alcoholic, you're GONNA drink. Just be serious about limits. Not drinking before this time of day. Not drinking more than x amount in a day.

But yeah. Do not just wallow in the booze. Force yourself to not drink before sundown. Or 5 pm. Or noon. Whatever will work for now, then continue to turn DOWN
 

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He was very much into the scene and an extroverted person while I’m more withdrawn/introverted. Dumped me over a text, not even a “let’s have a talk” type courtesy

I’m already black and gay, so the cacs and Mexicans at my job were already gunning for me.

I know coli brehs are gonna neg me and call me a fakkit. So I guess that means I already lost.

Life is full options, some are more apparent than others. One option for you is to go where you are Celebrated not Tolerated and to stop expecting to be validated where you are hated. Another option for you is to take this time and learn that you are just as worthy to be amongst the living as anyone else. This is your life and you have to learn that every "scene" in your life is directed by you. Every scene is starring you. Not your ex, not your coworkers, not your land lady, not some random coli nikka rage flirting with negs. They are a supporting cast if not expendable extras. This is just a season. You can recast the next one
 

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It’s still a month over due. Plus two hundred dollar late fees
Time to downsize into a roommate situation until you get back on your feet. Will the landlord let you make living arrangements to avoid housing court?
 

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OP you still alive and breathing. Don't get consumed by the negativity. Sit down and write down a gameplan and goals and get on your vendetta shyt. Success is the greatest weapon :blessed:
 

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Yall aint shyt up in here . (Harlem, just in case)


Do the best you can op and come up with a plan and keep at it
 

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Because of the constant tranny threads.

This is a safe haven for LGBQT at this point.


But, he didn’t really need to point out his sexual orientation :manny: it was really unnecessary
Outside of the “pause” and Dame jokes, this board is liberal when it comes to individuals being gay.

Most of us just don’t like the gay agenda that Hollywood constantly promotes, that uses black men as a conduit for it.

Besides that, no poster has ever been run off this board for being gay. Yeah they’ll get clowned, but nikkas get clowned for anything: height, salary, cars etc. Nothing is off limits.
 

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if you physically went to into a bank branch then they should have CCTV footage of you walking in and corresponding with a teller, I assume bank teller actions are timecoded so there should be some electronic entry to verify your claim. contact legal aid and see if they can threaten the bank to rectify the situation and reimburse you for expenses you incured for their fukk up. use chat-gpt to write the bank a strongly worded letter to fix the situation. look up your local tenant laws.
 
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