lol, so you're advising for chicks to break up and get ghost all for game?
I Got dumped for the first time in my life, what's the protocol?
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Doobie Doo
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Just so that you brehs can save your didn't read memes, here is the short version: This was probably the most functional relationship i've been in, how do I have a functional break up
For those interested in the long version, feel free to proceed:
My girl dumped me on new years eve. I'm not mad, I was caught up in shyt at work and neglected her, long distance relationships don't work like that. She wasn't mad either, she just said she couldn't deal with my monosylabic expression of emotions anymore, and realized the spark was gone when she saw me (classic emotional withdrawal if you ask me).
Anyways, I'm a bit flustered as to what the protocol is now. Normally, woman fukk up in some way or another, I give them the
and completely remove them from my life. I'm a firm believer in not taking your ex back or even dealing with them at all. Obviously, this works better when you feel like the other party is at fault. Unfortunately, I can't say that that's the case
She really was a good girl, who put a lot of effort in our relationship, and didn't get the same effort in return from me
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Anyways, she did some confusing woman shyt, and I don't know how to react. She told me not to simp after her () because that wouldn't work. She had to see for herself if the emotions came back (what makes you think I'll wait around until you find out
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Then, after she left, she send me a text saying she wasn't going to drive the four hours back home, because it was late, and would instead celebrate at a girlfriends house an hour from where I live. She ended the text with a kissing smiley. A couple of hours later, she texted me again, telling me that the party at her friends house was boring. Then she asked if I was going to the party we had planned to go to. I told her nah, I'm halfway through my liquor collection and will probably pass out at home
Anyways, I feel manipulated. Why would you text me after you broke up with me. Is this some old woman "If you truly love me, you'll fight for me and ask me to come back" shyt, despite her telling me not to simp? Is it normal to keep in touch if you break up a nondysfunctional relationship? I'm really not about that simp life, and I don't believe in staying friends with your ex. On the other hand, since I'm the one that messed things up, I feel bad about giving her thetreatment. What do I do, brehs and brehettes?
Here's the real protocol. Have as much unprotected sex as you can with various women. Contract a non fatal but permanent STD, so think along the lines of Herpes or HPV. Then sweet talk your ex back to your crib and have unprotected sex with her until she contracts your STD then dump her ass. NOw she will have trouble maintaining a relationship as good as the one ya'll have and you will always be able to hit that p*ssy.
But real talk the first thing I would do if a chick broke up with me like that is cease all communication with her ASAP. No texting, no calling, no email, no social media (unfriend the bytch) etc. bytches just gonna string you along for attention until she gets a new nikka. But chances are if she broke up with you on NYE she already has a new nikka cuz chicks love to have somebody by their side for the holidays to show off to family and friends. SO if a bytch breaks up with you during Thanksgiving, Christmas (How convenient, she breaks up with after you buy her shyt for christmas), NYE season she got something in the cut waiting. fukk her and move on. THe worse thing you can do to a bytch is pretend she don't exist.
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I don't think it's gender specific. Assuming you really liked the person, not hearing from them from a while will evoke some kind of emotion. For a man like yourself that chooses not to emotionally involve himself then it won't work.
Never give anyone closure , and never fight for anyone that discarded you.
If dude isn't treating you right and you really want to call yourself breaking up with him, then yeah it's no need to talk to him. He should call you, not you break up with him and text him right afterward. That's confusing to both parties. I don't think it's game, it's just how it has to be. I think a break of at least 30 days gives you time to really miss the person or forget about them. If you really miss them, then you can decide if it's worth trying to get back together.
so it's all about mind games and manipulation? y'all better peep game...
Only a simp returns to the trash he was discarded in.
Once a woman dumps me she will never hear from me again, I take my silence to the grave
Has nothing to do with emotionally involving yourself has to do with with respect and dignity for yourself
If a dude doesn't pine for you and hang around then you start to question did he really Care about me.
Once a woman dumps me she will never hear from me again, I take my silence to the grave
Has nothing to do with emotionally involving yourself has to do with with respect and dignity for yourself
If a dude doesn't pine for you and hang around then you start to question did he really Care about me.
That's what you want to get out of my comment. Reincar is weird that he goes about the business of dating but doesn't have an emotions behind it...most people aren't like that as it's stupid to me to be involved without emotion. If you are going to be the one to break it off with someone because you feel you aren't being treated fairly, then you need not contact them, imo.
i agree with the no contact thing. what i,m questioning is your reasoning behind it. you make it as if she should have not contacted him so that he can miss her (games and manipulation) instead of not contacting so that she can move on and keep her sanity.
I think she does. She used to drunk text me how much she liked me and missed me everytime she went out, to where i could tell she wanted to tell me she loved me, but was afraid it was too soon. Which is why i think that three weeks is really fast for all that to go away. My guess is, she was afraid she more into me than i was into her and decided to cut thinks off to protect herself.
That would be my normal reaction. But in this case I was the one to fukk up, I'm not going to let her string me along, but I don't feel liking punishing her either
She discarded you how are you punishing her?
I think she does. She used to drunk text me how much she liked me and missed me everytime she went out, to where i could tell she wanted to tell me she loved me, but was afraid it was too soon. Which is why i think that three weeks is really fast for all that to go away. My guess is, she was afraid she more into me than i was into her and decided to cut thinks off to protect herself.
That would be my normal reaction. But in this case I was the one to fukk up, I'm not going to let her string me along, but I don't feel liking punishing her either
I'm not of the opinion that breaking up with someone is forever, especially when based on what the OP is saying he's just going through a rough spot in life and it impacted his relationship. It's not like she was physically abused or he was cheating or anything...just poor communication/bad timing. So in this case or cases like it, it's good to have some separation and see how you feel after the break.
Any nudes?
By not giving her closure. I'm a master at that and I've seen how that shyt drove a couple of my exes crazy
Doobie Doo
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I think she does. She used to drunk text me how much she liked me and missed me everytime she went out, to where i could tell she wanted to tell me she loved me, but was afraid it was too soon. Which is why i think that three weeks is really fast for all that to go away. My guess is, she was afraid she more into me than i was into her and decided to cut thinks off to protect herself.
That would be my normal reaction. But in this case I was the one to fukk up, I'm not going to let her string me along, but I don't feel liking punishing her either
nikka just move on. Don't matter who fukked up, she broke it off now move on.