I Got dumped for the first time in my life, what's the protocol?

[MikelArteta]

Never give closure
Disappear like a thief in the nkhjt

By not giving her closure. I'm a master at that and I've seen how that shyt drove a couple of my exes crazy

 

[The Mad Titan]

The problem is ish aint always good, and women will spit venom calm down and then be like oh snap?! "wtf was I thinking, why did I do or say that" But whats said can't be unsaid and they always roll with the punches, the funny thing is those emotions be so strong that they will KNOW they are making a mistake or going in too hard and just can't help it.


It sounds like both of you handling things badly tho, she should have hit you with a serious conversation and let you know that she has been thinking about leaving if things don't change. And you shouldn't be bringing your work home into your relationship.


Hormones combined with emotions are too strong tho... I use to get bodied by ladies that were extremely hormonal. I've had a chick tell me that was PMS'n to please not take anything she say's to serious for a bit and that if she starts crying and gets all sad and confused its nothing wrong with us. I remember my 1st experience with that I was like this is crazy this chick is crying and saying nothing wrong, mad and wants me to hold her all at the same time. The next day she was At that point I realized just how powerful emotions and hormones working together are.


Women do irrational things they are emotional creatures , way more so than men. Nothing wrong with that, but if you care for someone you gotta realize you can't throw em in the bushes every time some ish comes up.


In OP cases it sounds like she wants to see if there is better out there but still cares for OP.

He can throw her in the bushes and cut his loses.
Try and setup talking with her again and see if they can work something out
Or stick around be a friend and hope yall work things out at some point.


I dont advise the 3rd choice.

 

[Sane]

2015 the year of the #HOH movement

If you really like her give her you side of things, tell her you feel etc. And if she responds positively then see where you can go from there. If not, make peace, say your goodbyes and leave on good terms. Then it's probably best not to keep in constant contact, allowing for you both to move on and get over each other.
You can then join the rest of the coli in bitter singledom

 

[MikelArteta]

My gosh breh, when a woman dumps you it's over, don't fight for her, don't play these games, don't call once more to get it off your chest.

Its over. When you get fired from a job do you beg and plead? Do you call them and text? No you get in with your life.

Stop clinging to the cliff of hope of someone wants to be with you they wouldn't dump yoi

 

[JahFocus CS]

My gosh breh, when a woman dumps you it's over, don't fight for her, don't play these games, don't call once more to get it off your chest.

Its over. When you get fired from a job do you beg and plead? Do you call them and text? No you get in with your life.

Stop clinging to the cliff of hope of someone wants to be with you they wouldn't dump yoi

Best advice in this thread.

 

[MikelArteta]

women will tell you fight for her, bla bla but ask any woman here if they ever got back with an ex they dumped ask em , once a woman has gone cold on you and no longer views you as valuable its done its over

all you can do is leave with your dignity intact

 

[The Mad Titan]

My gosh breh, when a woman dumps you it's over, don't fight for her, don't play these games, don't call once more to get it off your chest.

Its over. When you get fired from a job do you beg and plead? Do you call them and text? No you get in with your life.

Stop clinging to the cliff of hope of someone wants to be with you they wouldn't dump yoi

You might, if you really need the job.

Man you can't have this attitude with every single situation, you'll literally be single forever. I mean over all I agree with you, but sometimes if its worth it you gonna have to put in work. Take a L or compromise... but only for those that are WORTH it. The problem is people don't know when to let go and they latch on to random boyfriends and girlfriends that they really don't plan on settling down with anyway.

Dont play games but get to the bottom of what the problem is, that might take time apart. But its good to get to the bottom of what the problem is, and if you not getting solid answers cut it off.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

@karim why are you so afraid to move on

Thats the real issue here

 

[karim]

@karim why are you so afraid to move on

Thats the real issue here

i'm not afraid to move on. i mean, shyt hurt and she was a good girl, so if it was up to me, we would work out our issues. but she said she grew cold, and as @Emperor_ReinScarf said, once a woman has grown cold on you, you better leave that shyt alone. so once she said that, i was fully prepared to drink away the pain and cut her out of my life. however, hitting me up an hour after she left doesn't really match with the growing cold part. bytches who try to string you along hit you up after a couple of weeks to see if they still hold power over you, that's not what she did. that doesn't mean i'm trying to chase after her. i mostly feel sorry for treating her wrong and don't want to be an a$$hole again. as i said, i'm probably not used to being the one at fault. So far, I always had a reason to be mad and punish the girl by dumping her, than ignoring her and finally rejecting her once she came crawling after me.

 

[MikelArteta]

i'm not afraid to move on. i mean, shyt hurt and she was a good girl, so if it was up to me, we would work out our issues. but she said she grew cold, and as @Emperor_ReinScarf said, once a woman has grown cold on you, you better leave that shyt alone. so once she said that, i was fully prepared to drink away the pain and cut her out of my life. however, hitting me up an hour after she left doesn't really match with the growing cold part. bytches who try to string you along hit you up after a couple of weeks to see if they still hold power over you, that's not what she did. that doesn't mean i'm trying to chase after her. i mostly feel sorry for treating her wrong and don't want to be an a$$hole again. as i said, i'm probably not used to being the one at fault. So far, I always had a reason to be mad and punish the girl by dumping her, than ignoring her and finally rejecting her once she came crawling after me.

women have no qualms of keeping good guys on the shelf or you being a emotional tampon or text buddy, te warm fuzzy feelings are gone up to you to accept the downgrade or not

 

[MikelArteta]

You might, if you really need the job.

Man you can't have this attitude with every single situation, you'll literally be single forever. I mean over all I agree with you, but sometimes if its worth it you gonna have to put in work. Take a L or compromise... but only for those that are WORTH it. The problem is people don't know when to let go and they latch on to random boyfriends and girlfriends that they really don't plan on settling down with anyway.

Dont play games but get to the bottom of what the problem is, that might take time apart. But its good to get to the bottom of what the problem is, and if you not getting solid answers cut it off.

IF A WOMAN DUMPS YOU, SHE DOES NOT VALUE YOU, THERE IS NO REASON TO FIGHT FOR SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT WANT YOU!

why is this so hard to fathom? if a woman values the relationship and values you as a person gasp SHE WONT DUMP YOU.

a woman just doesn't wake up and decide to end the relationship, its a process thats why when they go cold they've already thought about every situation

 

[Blackout]

My gosh breh, when a woman dumps you it's over, don't fight for her, don't play these games, don't call once more to get it off your chest.

Its over. When you get fired from a job do you beg and plead? Do you call them and text? No you get in with your life.

Stop clinging to the cliff of hope of someone wants to be with you they wouldn't dump yoi

 

[Rawtid]

i'm not afraid to move on. i mean, shyt hurt and she was a good girl, so if it was up to me, we would work out our issues. but she said she grew cold, and as @Emperor_ReinScarf said, once a woman has grown cold on you, you better leave that shyt alone. so once she said that, i was fully prepared to drink away the pain and cut her out of my life. however, hitting me up an hour after she left doesn't really match with the growing cold part. bytches who try to string you along hit you up after a couple of weeks to see if they still hold power over you, that's not what she did. that doesn't mean i'm trying to chase after her. i mostly feel sorry for treating her wrong and don't want to be an a$$hole again. as i said, i'm probably not used to being the one at fault. So far, I always had a reason to be mad and punish the girl by dumping her, than ignoring her and finally rejecting her once she came crawling after me.

Son, she is lying. If she was over it she would NOT be hitting you up. As you admitted you were emotionally unavailable (monosyllabic) and her feelings got hurt so she broke it off hoping it would get you to change your behavior. If you really think it's something there yall should talk and figure out the issue. You already admitted that the stuff you did wasn't right so start there. If you don't think it's worth it, then move on.

 

[The Mad Titan]

IF A WOMAN DUMPS YOU, SHE DOES NOT VALUE YOU, THERE IS NO REASON TO FIGHT FOR SOMEONE THAT DOES NOT WANT YOU!

why is this so hard to fathom? if a woman values the relationship and values you as a person gasp SHE WONT DUMP YOU.

a woman just doesn't wake up and decide to end the relationship, its a process thats why when they go cold they've already thought about every situation

Thats not the case here tho mang, she didn't just wake up and was like this dude is trash. Over a time she came to the decision that she wanted out of the relationship, and he was like woah yeah I been messing up... You can only value someone or something as long as its there to value, and dude had done checked out weeks ago. When a chick really goes cold on you they aint texting you in the next hour or day after things go down.



Like I said its on both them, she shoulda really stepped to him and been like "I'm really thinking about leaving" and he shoulda been more aware of how things were going in their relationship.



I get what you saying, and I agree...but you can't treat that like law dawg. Sure, she didn't value how things were going but was she suppose to at that point? How long would this have continued if she would have just stood by hoping that he realized what he was doing?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

i'm not afraid to move on. i mean, shyt hurt and she was a good girl, so if it was up to me, we would work out our issues.

On top of that, it was a long distance relationship

Let me tell u something about long distance relationships. Unless u are willing to put in 200%, they don't work. Any relationship where the primary mode of communication isn't face to face communication is That includes relationships where the people are both local, but the chick wants to text/IG/whatever the fukk kids are doing these days all the time

That u were in a LDR w/no prospect of marriage and I'm assuming no real time together, and are still hopeful for reconciliation after getting dumped, kinda says to me chicks aren't choosing locally and u are just going with whatever u can get. I would address that and throw this whole situation to the side. Regardless of what she says or does, she felt negatively enough about the situation to end it, rather than bring up the issues to try and work them out. Even if u got her back, next time shes not feeling it she will dump u again, or even worse just cheat on u and resent u for her lack of resolve. Its not worth it