I Had To Uninvite My Father to my Wedding

[The God Poster]

He's one of the few posters who's shared a lot on here and people ALWAYS use it against him. Plus he put his face up before I believe.

I don't care what you guys want it's not in his best interest to say too much. People here retain information and use it for ammunition when they are mad at a poster.

Stop

Unless somebody that emotionally unstable.
I disagree but I'll respect your pov.

It's just he feels very open to discuss what someone did (which was wrong ) but doesn't want to share why they were mad. It's a red flag imo

 

[Neuromancer]

There is a level... there is a line... there is a boundary.

If you let your parents cross these with 0 repercussions, they will never respect those boundaries.

I hate it csme to this, but God knows I gave that man every opportunity to stop.... but he just couldn't help himself.




Coli parents out there, don't be your kids number 1 adversary.... do better thsn my father did


Edit: TL;DR he put his hands on my fiance

My dad had to whip.his dad's ass and kick him out his (my dad's) apartment cause he did something similar to my dad's then girlfriend. Don't feel bad.

 

[Neuromancer]

He did too much. He just doesnt know when to fukking stop. A man born without tact. A man devoid of compassion. A man who will hurt the people you love to prove a point.

Your dad sounds like a supervillain. That's kinda psychotic bro. Hurt people love to prove a point?

 

[poppastoppa]

Its more to this story. If this is his nature then he most likely beat up on your moms at some point in the past, and you knew about his Ikeish ways. Tell the full story breh.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Stop

Unless somebody that emotionally unstable.
I disagree but I'll respect your pov.

It's just he feels very open to discuss what someone did (which was wrong ) but doesn't want to share why they were mad. It's a red flag imo

oh you don't know this place well friend

ask @rosie93 what the coli did to him.

 

[Neuromancer]

As a man who misses his father every day, I can't imagine the man being alive but separated by some bullshyt he did.

 

[I AM WARHOL]

There's no going back from this in a Nigerian household tho . Is your wife Nigerian as well?

As a Nigerian, first of all I know my dad would NEVER raise his hand to my wife or any woman in my life cause I'd check his jaw. My dad is a typical yoruba man but we've gotten to the age of a mutual respect. He knows I'm too americanized to take that .


Honestly your dad doesn't respect you. That's the biggest problem. You shouldve punched him in the face. Still invited him to the wedding. The physical blow would smooth over way easier than the display if your dad not being in your wedding. You know how our people are. The chatty pattyness of his absence will ruin your day. Plus do you plan on just never being around your Dad? At the end of the day this is running from a problem that hasnt been resolved imo.

 

[raoulduke187]

bros over ho's

in this case dads over ho's bruhbytch will turn on you at the drop of a dime like all women do

 

[peppe]

I respect his decision, put hands on your soon to be wife is

 

[Gold]

repping everyone in this thread, it may take awhile cuz it keeps telling me to slow down.
I talked with my father yesterday. Although he apologized... tha'ts not enough.

When a man reaches his 60s... chances are he will never ever change. That's probably who he is till death

 

[Gold]

bros over ho's

in this case dads over ho's bruhbytch will turn on you at the drop of a dime like all women do

She had the perfect oppurtunity to breh


Her dad is big in the Imo community.... i mean big big. I don't want those Imo State problems, they outnumber us where I live...

 

[PrnzHakeem]

I'm 9ja but raised too Americanized so I don't tolerate the manipulation and narcissistic tendencies parents be trying.

For your dad to physically harm ya fiance? You should've knuckled up with him TBH. African kids will let their parents ruin their lives out of tradition and "respect for elders" .

I'd tell you to keep your dad away from your wedding, but it seems you leaning towards letting him continue to ruin your life. Good luck with that.

 

[Obreh Winfrey]

repping everyone in this thread, it may take awhile cuz it keeps telling me to slow down.
I talked with my father yesterday. Although he apologized... tha'ts not enough.

When a man reaches his 60s... chances are he will never ever change. That's probably who he is till death

You right, he's not gonna change. Leave him off the invite list. He'll need to come to terms with that on his own. But don't do no emotional shyt like trying to fight your dad. Even if you win, you still lose.

 

[ThaBronxBully]

Come up off them flaws

Yoooooo

 

[Gold]

Your husband won't protect you from physical assault.

Wow.

I love you like a play cousin Wave, but I can't believe what I'm reading.

Damn dude.

I'm actually somewhat happy i wasn't there when it happened.
My dad barks alot but he is a tiny man. It doesn't even look like we could be related.

If not for literally 75% of my family physically stopping me... I dont know what i would have done to him.

I mean, we got in a physical fight over me buying a house without "consulting him"
I almost pushed him down the stairs... well I did but i wasn't trying to, it was an unfortunate event. This is not how I want to live my life.

I dont wanna go into detail about all the fights i've had with my father. Just suffice to say that if I got ahold of him in that moment, i would have probably unleashed years of pent up anger and abuse.