I Had To Uninvite My Father to my Wedding

[The God Poster]

DID HE NUDGE HER, SLAP HER, CHOKE HER, PUSH HER, PUNCH HER?

YOURE BEING TOO VAGUE.

WHY DOES HE DISLIKE YOUR WIFE?
IS SHE ADOS?



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Exactly. He said his pops was mad at something he did. He hesitant to say what tho, I can only imagine something grimy for his father to have that type of response.

The fact OP so vague says alot

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Idk how can you forgive that, or it would take a long time.

Let your dad smack your wife brehs

Your husband won't protect you from physical assault.

Wow.

I love you like a play cousin Wave, but I can't believe what I'm reading.

Damn dude.

Man I really don't fck with you at all. I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt as a 9ja man but that's done.

From your wife going to some smut carnival in Brazil to your pops smacking her ass, it's clear you don't command any type of respect.

My thoughts after reading the whole thread

Not sure how the wedding can go on after this incident and I'm surprised the woman is still going along with it unless she ain't tell OP yet that the wedding is canceled.

This is why you nip toxic relationships in the bud before you're ready to get married and start a family. It sounds like OP should have cut his father off YEARS ago. But he's been afraid of his pops like everybody else and just let's him linger around like the boogeyman. But now he wants to act like he ready to fight and his dad like negro please, I been doing shyt like this forever since you were a little boy.

I also wonder if his father beats his mother 99% of men don't just hit their son's fiancee out the blue as an old man and that's the only time they ever hit a woman.

 

[Benefited]

Mannn....hold this neg, vague ass

Exacty,all I got is that pops smacked his girl,then here he comes with a response of "he laid his hand on her". Did he smack her or "lay hands on her". I don't have time to keep going through this pages. If your pops smacked your wife and you didn't do shyt about it,that is no longer your wife. And if I was her brother or father I would have a problem with you and pops. You not marrying my sister,and pops is getting his ass beat.

 

[whatthatthangsmelllike]

fukk this thread

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Some parents learn boundaries the hard way

And it's often at the expense of their relationship with their children

 

[Biscayne]

4th oldest, 2nd to marry. My brother acquiesced, and let my father destroy his fiance. She demanded they move after the wedding.

Well im not him, god forbid

Is this Igbo tradition?

 

[Professor Emeritus]

Crazy that people were already telling OP what to do with his life without even knowing what went on.

There are definitely lines that can't be crossed, and boundaries that have to be set. Shooting your shot into a woman doesn't give you infinite privileges in that child's life. He has to build his life with his wife first, not with his father first, the father can be a part of his life with his wife only if he shows that he will be a positive factor in that life.

 

[Biscayne]

I understand family dynamics not fear. I'm African...

I know grown men scared to tell their folks they don't wanna marry their pre-selected mate.

Already seen a divorce because of this and dude lost money... he never even consummated.

You can' let them dictate everything. They will...

 

[Roid Jones]

If you get along with him go talk to him

His father put his hands on his fiance, talking might be done, his father has to be the one trying to make things right

 

[Jean Jacket]

Stop assuming bytch ass nikka. Ion respect you at all. fukk you gon do about it p*ssy?

Argue over the internet.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I would literally kill my parents if they put hands on my spouse or seeds


Like no thoughts about it

Wait, the seeds thing is different tho... unless you told them your not spanking your children.

If I spank my kids, n I leave them with relatives, that means I trust their judgment, and empower them to discipline my kids within reason.

 

[Ugo Ogugwa]

Is this Igbo tradition?

No

 

[Eternally Jaded]

Exactly. He said his pops was mad at something he did. He hesitant to say what tho, I can only imagine something grimy for his father to have that type of response.

The fact OP so vague says alot

It doesn't matter what OP did, if his father was soo outta control that he put hands on someone else in his anger.

What type of rationale is that?

My wife pissed me the hell off, so I backhanded my daughter/son?

Clown behavior

 

[EARFQUAKE]

Listen, you have to tread on this carefully. DO NOT re-invite your father to your wedding. You have to send a message and, trust me, you'll all live if he misses it. My brother didn't invite any of us to his wedding. We didn't even know he got married until a year later. Mad disrespectful. But with time you learn to forgive. My father hated his father for years because his father used to beat his wife and kids. He changed his ways, especially after my dad introduced his first born, my oldest brother, to my grandfather. They had a heart to heart and though the hurtful memories were still there, they were still able to be cordial and even loving to each other. And obviously, this is a different culture so it will not go the same as your situation. Your dad is still human and you know him better than anyone. Do what's right for you, your family, and for your father.

As for your wife's family, they may or may not find out what happened, but you need to let them know you have things under control for the sake of keeping them out of jail and your father out a graveyard. I know if it were me, me and your father would have been scrapping right then and there.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Listen, you have to tread on this carefully. DO NOT re-invite your father to your wedding. You have to send a message and, trust me, you'll all live if he misses it. My brother didn't invite any of us to his wedding. We didn't even know he got married until a year later. Mad disrespectful. But with time you learn to forgive. My father hated his father for years because his father used to beat his wife and kids. He changed his ways, especially after my dad introduced his first born, my oldest brother, to my grandfather. They had a heart to heart and though the hurtful memories were still there, they were still able to be cordial and even loving to each other. And obviously, this is a different culture so it will not go the same as your situation. Your dad is still human and you know him better than anyone. Do what's right for you, your family, and for your father.

As for your wife's family, they may or may not find out what happened, but you need to let them know you have things under control for the sake of keeping them out of jail and your father out a graveyard. I know if it were me, me and your father would have been scrapping right then and there.

If my daughters future husband’s father put hands on her

He gotta let her fam know cuz they will find out. She gonna spill the beans to someone, not a good look to start the marriage off with secrets.