I Had To Uninvite My Father to my Wedding

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Thread is revealing..theres a lot of people with daddy issues here

I cut my dad off for probably 2 years after he called the cops on me for something that wasnt justified whatsoever. It spiralled me into a lot of bullshyt mentally and really damaged my psyche

Ive since recovered a tad and have a better relationship with him but im still very bitter and part of me knows ill never really be close to him again regardless of how much time passes

With that said, if he ever laid hands on my significant other thatd def be a wrap for him..regardless of the circumstance. I dont believe in hitting women at all unless they are literally trying to kill you and/or its a really big bytch (basically a man) trying to fight you

Id have no problem uninviting him to my wedding due to that and id even consider going as far as saying i wouldnt invite his side of the family at all. Gotta cut the cord clean rather than to hang onto bits and pieces
 
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Gold said:
Exactly the same for me. I would be talking to my American friends telling them stories about my parents and they would look at me like :mjtf:

And i would look at them back like ":dwillhuh: .... doesn't everyone's parents beat them with a cane?"
And they would still be like ":mjtf:"
shyt i used to be proud of it, cuz my parents told us to be proud of it. Be proud that we were raised right with punishment unlike those Americans. Raised right... what a fukking joke. :mjlol:



If ya'll only knew how many Nigerians need counselling and therapy cuz of how their parents did them :snoop:
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In Nigeria, they used to get whooped with everything so in their minds its not that bad.

That said, I would take those asswhooping times a million. I always thought twice even when I knew there was consequences to my actions.

The thing people must understand is they do so much good as well. If people only knew, they would use it in their own parenting.

I feel abuse is good. A child needs to be abused in some form or shape in terms of discipline. I seen my white neighbors not doing any and their kid was going into the world wild and crazy on drugs and cussin out police. Our black ass do that, graved!

As a Black child, you just got more to deal with. It's best your parents keep you on the right track. Success is not optional. It's mandatory.
 
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Gold said:
Thank you, i really appreciate this post.

Oddly enough we are meeting with a Minister today to see if we can just do the wedding on the low.
However, I REALLY dont wanna do this. I would punishing her family and my friends who cant wait to celebrate for the faults of my father. Her siblings are flying in, they can't wait, and then i gotta tell em "no wedding"

I feel like this is letting my dad win. Nah he needs a true L. A true 9ja L.

Getting beat up by your son is not an L for our people. You can just blame your son for being worthless or w/e.
But getting uninvited to your sons wedding...???? A 9ja man may kill himself over that shame.

My dad needs this L.

He NEEDS to feel this L.
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Well you know what's best. Do what you gotta do. I wish you all the best of luck.
 
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ReadOneBookAWeek said:
Judging by the divorce rate, most people have these amazing weddings and then terrible marriages that end in failure. Goes to show how meaningless that event is if your house isn't in order.
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Igbo weddings are extremely hard to end with divorce because you gotta go to both villages and get approval. Even married to an American, if its done right can be hard to end. The 1st gen is expected to keep up the tradition.

That's why the knock on the door is done.

I am pretty sure Yorubas have the same setup. @mastermind
 
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Hungerpain said:
Why are you scared to fight your pops OP?
You a grown ass man getting bullied.
His behavior would have been stopped.
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I had to fight my pops a year back as he said he would kill me in front my daughter so I closed the room door, then came you closing doors in my house, trying to burst through the door while shu n shyt...... I just wrestled he threw punches and shyt but it makes nothing better.........They use that shyt against you; my boy hit his pops, you not holy u going to hell

Parents play that honor and respect your parents card to the fukking ground, I feel OP pain, but God judge us on a right and wrong scale, if parents cant be respectful, threaten you or your family, then its fukk them, even Jesus had to tell Joseph to fall the f*** back, as God has his own agenda for us at times, and parents can steer you wrongly......:manny:


Prays for thread starter im there too.....:francis:
 
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phcitywarrior said:
It's a cultural thing. We have a belief that it takes a village to raise a child and that parenting never really ends to be honest.

Even my grandmother be getting on my Dad about things and my father is 50+ yrs with 3 kids. 2 of which have graduated college, are working and living on their own :russ:
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I agree with it tbh. But there's a level of respect a parent gains for a child has they become an adult. What OPs dad did shows a lack of respect on a human level, not even on a parental tip. I'm not even smacking a stranger's fiance, let alone my own son's
 
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Gold said:
He did too much. He just doesnt know when to fukking stop. A man born without tact. A man devoid of compassion. A man who will hurt the people you love to prove a point.

I cant have that energy at my wedding. Been dealing with it for 30 years
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Some family members you have to love from a far. My dad is not as bad as yours and his heart is weak. Yet he still remains a habitual line stepper. I'm there to help when needed but I don't bother with him neither.

Please keep God in your life and congratulations on the soon to be marriage breh.
 
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