She already told her husband her concerns, he ignored her cause you are his boy, so she let it out in front of everyone.
Either way, the relationship isn't healthy. Still away. Move on. Don't even entertain any more hang out talk.
I have a good one. What's really going on?
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Either way, the relationship isn't healthy. Still away. Move on. Don't even entertain any more hang out talk.
Only one way to resolve this:
this is supreme wrestling fukkery. I had to look this up to see if it was an actual storyline 
Op, I highlighted a few tell-tale signs which show that you have unhealthy expectations on how this relationship dynamic should go. I'm not a psychiatrist, but trust me you are expecting too much from friends/acquaintances.
You stated there's no room for you, and that you've wasted time and money with them. You stated several times how frustrated you are with the time you've invested into them.
This is not good. Two is company. Three is a crowd. There is only room for two adults in their marriage. Screw everything they said about spending time with the children, being a godfather, and babysitting. That was all said tongue-in-cheek and you missed the social cues. People say those things all of the time and would not be disappointed at all if the person they told it to only showed up once in a while, every other year or so.
If you had a wife and children, they would have more in common with you and it would also make sense for you all to see each other more often b/c the children could play together and your spouses could both vibe with each other. Even then, most people still would need space and time away from each other. People say stuff like the children miss you b/c they are trying to make the other person feel good. I don't tell people that shyt but my wife does and guess what, the children don't give a fucc about whoever she is telling it to. I guess that's how women act sociable.
Whether you realize it or not, you may be filling a void in your own life with their family. Its their family, not yours. Get out and live your own life and let them become acquaintances. That's all they can be to you now. As soon as your friend got married, and especially after starting his own family, you two began to have way less in common. Those are huge life changes and you didn't take that journey with him. Don't focus on his family at all. Remove yourself.
The fault is not all on them Bro. Without knowing all the details, just going off of what you shared, you have to focus on your own life. You will never get back the time, money, etc wasted on their family. Just get over it and move on.
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OP..
Perhaps it may be in your beat interest to leave them alone and give them their space.
Like you said, you don't need the headache especially considering you being confused about why your homies's wife is tripping...
My advice to you is to have a sit down with your homie and ask him what's going on. Ask him what did you do for his wife to act a fool on you.
Also, I wouldn't babysit nor hang out with them until you are given answers to your query.
Lastly, prepare for you and your homie to drift apart. It comes with the territory, man...
If you know in your mind & heart that you did nothing wrong, then you can have a clear conscious and sleep well at night. Don't let them get you off your square! You said that you got things going on in your life, so continue to handle your business.
Maybe one day, you and your homie can resolve whatever issue him and hisnl wife have with you, but if not, then shrug your shoulders and go on with your life.
BTW, I think that the wife is jealous of you. I believe that she feel threatened by you getting close to her kids which is why she said she was losing control. So, obviously she has some unresolved insecurities and is projecting them onto you.
Oh, I just
about something..
Does your homie have daughters? If so, then please be careful! I suspect that the wife is thinking that you will eventually molest their kids.
If you don't have kids of your own, then I highly suggest that you don't baybysit their kids anymore.
A lot of people have issues with grown men being around kids that isn't their own. People with daughters put people on high alert! Just be mindful of that and move accordingly...
Perhaps it may be in your beat interest to leave them alone and give them their space.
Like you said, you don't need the headache especially considering you being confused about why your homies's wife is tripping...
My advice to you is to have a sit down with your homie and ask him what's going on. Ask him what did you do for his wife to act a fool on you.
Also, I wouldn't babysit nor hang out with them until you are given answers to your query.
Lastly, prepare for you and your homie to drift apart. It comes with the territory, man...
If you know in your mind & heart that you did nothing wrong, then you can have a clear conscious and sleep well at night. Don't let them get you off your square! You said that you got things going on in your life, so continue to handle your business.
Maybe one day, you and your homie can resolve whatever issue him and hisnl wife have with you, but if not, then shrug your shoulders and go on with your life.
BTW, I think that the wife is jealous of you. I believe that she feel threatened by you getting close to her kids which is why she said she was losing control. So, obviously she has some unresolved insecurities and is projecting them onto you.
Oh, I just
about something..Does your homie have daughters? If so, then please be careful! I suspect that the wife is thinking that you will eventually molest their kids.
If you don't have kids of your own, then I highly suggest that you don't baybysit their kids anymore.
A lot of people have issues with grown men being around kids that isn't their own. People with daughters put people on high alert! Just be mindful of that and move accordingly...
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Disappear, lose contact
I get that and I don't need them in any way. I am not married they have been friends with and knew my past gf's they know with the recent move and all my goal is to meet someone to start a family.
A few things that kinda dragged me in 1) They would want me to vacation there and stay over during my time, named me god parents of the kids, they would stay at my place when they visited their parents, they made me in charge of their estate and if anything happens to them take care of kids...SOOO maybe i also felt an obligation to be in their lives with some sort of regularity. That and I was told to be....Other than those details I don't know what else to say...I was just shocked that the wife felt it was ok to say that shyt to me... I don't ever have to see them again to be honest kinda tunred off
Yes its two daughters ... again in the unlikely event that they pass why give me custody also why have me babysit if she thinks im a pedo? Nothing really matches up and it was a pivot in her mind real quick from what was said and previous actions so thats why I am posting for opinions perspectives. Maybe im looking for logic from a non logical person?OP..
Perhaps it may be in your beat interest to leave them alone and give them their space.
Like you said, you don't need the headache especially considering you being confused about why your homies's wife is tripping...
My advice to you is to have a sit down with your homie and ask him what's going on. Ask him what did you do for his wife to act a fool on you.
Also, I wouldn't babysit nor hang out with them until you are given answers to your query.
Lastly, prepare for you and your homie to drift apart. It comes with the territory, man...
If you know in your mind & heart that you did nothing wrong, then you can have a clear conscious and sleep well at night. Don't let them get you off your square! You said that you got things going on in your life, so continue to handle your business.
Maybe one day, you and your homie can resolve whatever issue him and hisnl wife have with you, but if not, then shrug your shoulders and go on with your life.
BTW, I think that the wife is jealous of you. I believe that she feel threatened by you getting close to her kids which is why she said she was losing control. So, obviously she has some unresolved insecurities and is projecting them onto you.
Oh, I just
Does your homie have daughters? If so, then please be careful! I suspect that the wife is thinking that you will eventually molest their kids.
If you don't have kids of your own, then I highly suggest that you don't baybysit their kids anymore.
A lot of people have issues with grown men being around kids that isn't their own. People with daughters put people on high alert! Just be mindful of that and move accordingly...
Mindfield333
Superstar
This can be complex but here’s my quick analysis: I honestly I feel like certain relationships with friends can either grow apart or fall off. Especially when they have their own families… plus the time. Like yes you guys were consistent over the years but dynamics change seeing someone weekly. Some people are more introverted and need a little more space without guests. I’d hit people up but I don’t necessarily have to be over. It’s different being 30+ versus younger. Plus since you’re not in actually in their relationship, how privy are you to shyt they got going on? There’s levels to the shyt you share with people. Just a quick perspective.
They probably were just gasing you up to get a free babysitter.
Once people are done using you, they toss you to the side. Also, someone else might of been in the wife's ear about you being alone with their daughters. Could have been as simple as her casually mentioning that you babysit for them and the person telling her that its no reason for a grown man to be watching their daughters. Might have even scared her into thinking you were a potential molester. Who knows? Its their problem, not yours. Its just best to stay away and focus on your life.
I never said that the wife feel that you are a pedo, but I am saying for you not to put it past her that you could be one in her eyes. People do get weird when single childless men are around their kids. I was just saying to keep that in mind..
I find it weird for someone to spazz out on someone unprovoked. You don't know what conversations couples have in privacy and obviously she has been peeping your relationship with her kids and feels threatened for some reason..
You did ask for advice and I just put in my 2 cents.
Aside from that, just fall back and tell the homie that you will catch him on the rebound.
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I appreciate you taking the time to comment. That is another perspective that she COULD think that way.
Yes, very weird to spazz out on someone unprovoked... thats why I havent been over there since Jan...They also havent come up to visit either even after they say the kids are asking about me and that they will come up and I tell them they have an open invitation .... Its funny in life sometimes you would never think something would be a possibility and then here we are....
I don't know you, but you seem like a good dude. I am just looking out for you and share with you to always peep game!
Anytime people flip the script unprovoked, then catch it and watch how they move around you. Also, some friendships are finite.
You may think that you have a lifelong friend and said friend thinking something else. That happens a lot. It happened to me. Just always be prepared to lose friendship. A true homie will always be your homie and isn't gonna bring drama into your life.
I wish you luck and hope y'all can come to some sort of resolution one day.
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
Check them them the deuces breh.
I knew girl since we were 15. She had her first kid at around 26. She made me the godfather and was a single mom. When the kid was around 2 she met this other nikka who had two kids and a baby mama. They hit it off and he started saying the things she wanted to hear about being wifed up.
I met him when I came into town and the nikka was IMMEDIATELY threatened. He started making ultimatums saying that me and her couldn't be friends. At first she said no then she relented and cut me off. About 5 years later she calls me crying telling me she's upset she chose her man (now husband) over me and how I will always be the godfather to her child.
I was like
on the phone. I asked her what this means going forward and she said she's cool with me being the godfather but doesn't know how her husband feels. I hung up the phone and hit the 
I don't have time for other people's drama
I knew girl since we were 15. She had her first kid at around 26. She made me the godfather and was a single mom. When the kid was around 2 she met this other nikka who had two kids and a baby mama. They hit it off and he started saying the things she wanted to hear about being wifed up.
I met him when I came into town and the nikka was IMMEDIATELY threatened. He started making ultimatums saying that me and her couldn't be friends. At first she said no then she relented and cut me off. About 5 years later she calls me crying telling me she's upset she chose her man (now husband) over me and how I will always be the godfather to her child.
I was like
on the phone. I asked her what this means going forward and she said she's cool with me being the godfather but doesn't know how her husband feels. I hung up the phone and hit the I don't have time for other people's drama
