If a lady requires her mates to have a car and job then she is materialistic

[Sierra Mist]

But guys money doesn't matter. It should be about his character.

 

[BlackZilla]

The car part I can understand, but how is a woman wanting a guy with a stable job a bad thing? If anything that shows stability.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Ain't no point even debating with you. You obviously done watch too many movies.

Women crave security and one of the means to provide said security is to be financially stable. When that stability gets rocky so does the relationship. Now you can keep believing the fairy tales all you want to but it want change life and reality.

Now you go be happy with a female that you got to support financially and I will go be happy with a female that is on the same financial lane that I am and coming up

i like how you're trying to reduce my argument to childish reasoning. however, i would say yours childish in comparison simply because it's shortsighted, stubborn and you're ill-informed about my position in the matter. you're assuming since i'm arguing against the standard having any way of determining quality people that i think bums should try to get with women with cars and jobs (which is incorrect). you should look at my first post to get a real idea about how i feel about the whole situation. you're in here thinking i'm like "oh, i can be broke and she shouldn't mind" when i said clearly in my first post that having requirements like that only work when the woman is equally concerned about having that which she requires of others. you keep saying "fair tale" this when in reality, that's the only way shyt will work out for the best...

 

[Ain't That Something]

i like how you're trying to reduce my argument to childish reasoning. however, i would say yours childish in comparison simply because it's shortsighted, stubborn and you're ill-informed about my position in the matter. you're assuming since i'm arguing against the standard having any way of determining quality people that i think bums should try to get with women with cars and jobs (which is incorrect). you should look at my first post to get a real idea about how i feel about the whole situation. you're in here thinking i'm like "oh, i can be broke and she shouldn't mind" when i said clearly in my first post that having requirements like that only work when the woman is equally concerned about having that which she requires of others. you keep saying "fair tale" this when in reality, that's the only way shyt will work out for the best...

You don't have an argument. You trying to justify being broke and being in a relationship andI can't take that argument seriously

If I ever go broke and I'm not married dating and a relationship will be the last thing on my mind. As a man my 1st priority will be to get back on my feet and provide for myself. A man who is not doing that is not a man point blank period.

 

[screenname01]

Say a guy meets a chick with her own car and place. he has his own car and place too. They start dating for about a year and then the guy comes into a couple of million from an invention he patented. She's still making the same money as when they first started dating because she dont have no inventions or patents. So by her own requirements that means she's outta there right? Or does she deserve to share in the wealth?

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

You don't have an argument. You trying to justify being broke and being in a relationship andI can't take that argument seriously

If I ever go broke and I'm not married dating and a relationship will be the last thing on my mind. As a man my 1st priority will be to get back on my feet and provide for myself. A man who is not doing that is not a man point blank period.

did you even look at my first comment?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

you're discussing a different point all together. now you're talking about why should a man pursue a woman that requires these things of him. i'm talking about why the requirements make no sense. trust me, if a bytch told me i needed to do x, y, and z to get with her, i wouldn't mess with her personally...

She wouldnt have to tell you, she could just ask, and if you didn't fit the bill she would stop fukking with you. She doesnt have to get on her Gwen Guthrie "J-O-B" shyt. Why wait for a dude who doesnt meet the on paper requirements to get his shyt together if you can get a dude who already has it?

And how does wanting to date someone with a job not make sense? Do you not have any standards?

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

She wouldnt have to tell you, she could just ask, and if you didn't fit the bill she would stop fukking with you. She doesnt have to get on her Gwen Guthrie "J-O-B" shyt. Why wait for a dude who doesnt meet the on paper requirements to get his shyt together if you can get a dude who already has it?

And how does wanting to date someone with a job not make sense? Do you not have any standards?

i'm saying that having that be the standard on which you turn people away is silly because you can be a bum and still have a job. as for my standards, i believe in things being equal...

 

[winb83]

I think it's a stupid requirement because what if the only guy that will ever truly love you for you don't have a car when y'all cross paths?

that's ridiculous. there are billions of people in the world the fact that just one out of billions could love you is absurd. if that's the case what is the only woman in the world that would love you had herpes? should you be forced to abandon your standards?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

i'm saying that having that be the standard on which you turn people away is silly because you can be a bum and still have a job. as for my standards, i believe in things being equal...

Its much more likely that someone without a job will be a bum than someone with a job. And if you yourself turn people away who aren't equal with you in these things what are you crying about???

 

[screenname01]

that's ridiculous. there are billions of people in the world the fact that just one out of billions could love you is absurd.

How absurd is it? Why are you owed even one person let alone billions with a car and a job to love you for you and not just your car and job? Why do you think you deserve that? And why in the fukk is it so many single lonely people in the world with cars and jobs? Tiger woods is single. Pilar sanders is single. Vanessa Williams is single. Who the fukk is you nygga?


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[Shameonyou]

1. aint nothing with having standards...us men have it, women can have it to
2. if you as a woman feel that job=relationship consideration you arent the woman for me

relationships dont get built on the foundation of accomplishments...they are built on the foundation of respect loyalty and trust....a down for you type chick honestly would try to encourage you to get your situation in tact, and still date you at least emotionally.

there also would be levels of how fast the relationship goes. Yall wouldnt be going out 24 7, she would probably communicate with you through other means i.e. phone, email...little shyt that would keep the connection between two human beings intact.

the problem in society is, the women are too impatient, and usually equate a relationship as something where you use external materials to keep it fresh...which is backwards.


you as a man should want to have a job and a car just off the fact that no man should be grown without at least TRYING to get those two things.

however women who automatically turn down men because of those things arent desirable anyways, and are usually very lonely.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Its much more likely that someone without a job will be a bum than someone with a job. And if you yourself turn people away who aren't equal with you in these things what are you crying about???

for your first point, that's true. but to base your standards on something that has nothing to do with the quality of the person you're dealing with is retarded.

secondly, i don't turn people away who aren't equal to me. i believe that should be the standard to shoot for or the best to hope for, but it's not required. and, given this argument over what a woman should expect, i feel like if she expect these things from others, she should have them herself...

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

for your first point, that's true. but to base your standards on something that has nothing to do with the quality of the person you're dealing with is retarded.

secondly, i don't turn people away who aren't equal to me. i believe that should be the standard to shoot for or the best to hope for, but it's not required. and, given this argument over what a woman should expect, i feel like if she expect these things from others, she should have them herself...

Being able to hold down a job is definitely a reflection on the quality of the person.

Not even a job as much as being able to take care of one's self financially. Whether by a job, playing gigs, day trading, online gambling, whatever. I dont think its unreasonable to not want to date someone who will be dependent on me from day 1

And turning people away doesn't mean scoffing at them or turning your nose at them. Just not dating them. You are taking this way too personally

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Being able to hold down a job is definitely a reflection on the quality of the person.

Not even a job as much as being able to take care of one's self financially. Whether by a job, playing gigs, day trading, online gambling, whatever. I dont think its unreasonable to not want to date someone who will be dependent on me from day 1

And turning people away doesn't mean scoffing at them or turning your nose at them. Just not dating them. You are taking this way too personally

you must be joking. i was with you (or at least up for discussion) until you said that...