"If you make $80,000 you have no business marrying a woman that makes $35,000"

[KidJSoul]

WHEN YOU GET MARRIED
AND HAVE KIDS YOURE
GONNA REALIZE YOU WANT
YOUR YOUNG CHILDREN IN
YOU OR YOUR WIFES PRESENCE AT ALL TIMES.

I CAN TELL A LOT OF YOU
CATS HAVENT LIVED LIFE YET.

ALL THAT WORK shyt IS COOL
WHEN NO KIDS ARE INVOLVED.

ITS BEEN SET UP LIKE
THIS FOR CENTURIES FOR A REASON.

MARRIED WOMEN WORKING
IS SOME NEW shyt.

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That's a fair point

But there's a line between that and not caring about what your wife makes at all

 

[Ohene]

What is proximity in a relationship or even friendship perspective: successful people tend to be around successful people. There's also the social status aspect. You know who isn't perfectly happy dating a college dropout? Doctors who want a successful woman to trot out at the hospital benefit dinner, or the alumni dinner, or the host of other events these people go to. If you've been in those situations you've watched the "so what do you do" barbs that get slung by wives at these events. I've seen those not-so-friendly laughs and "good for you, I don't know how I'd stay sane at home with my children" bars first hand.

In short these aren't conclusions, it's a general fact on how marriage and dating practices of successful men and women. The upper middle class of this country is fueled by white suburban households where both parents work. Where two parents making six figures each are doing everything humanly possible to ensure little Bobby joins every club, plays every sport, and checks every box to ensure he gets into best best university possible. I'm not surprised Kevin Samuels doesn't understand this, as a gay man whose never had a heterosexual relationship, and lived much of his adult life broke shacking up with single women. But I'm surprised successful brehs like yourself are caping for this too. If you're an accountant...who are your white coworkers married to? Who is your boss married to? Who is the CEO married to? Overall in this country, the average answer is: someone who makes equal or near as much money.

lol nah those doctors dont want a successful chick to trot out...they just want a trophy who has social skills and isnt a ditzy idiot

i work in high finance and i doubt that most of my bosses are married to equally successful woman who are making 300K+

that shyt just aint worth the headache. my sister makes around that and so does her husband but thats not as common especially in our community

i want my woman to work but i dont need her to make 200K+. As long as she has a solid job, is financially responsible and does not pester me to spend like a fool I am fine.

 

[seabreeze80]

He right

 

[CHICAGO]

That's a fair point

But there's a line between that and not caring about what your wife makes at all

I SAID STAY AT HOME MOM
IN MY INITIAL POST.

NOW IF YOU DONT PLAN ON
HAVING KIDS, YEA SHE SHOULD BE WORKING.

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[BaggerofTea]

The breh is 100 percent correct

 

[Ohene]

My mom raised me to marry a woman in my similar circle money wise or career wise. She legit told me if I marry a “bad chick” that works at a KFC drive tru don’t even show up at her funeral.





my mom plays no games and doesn’t support that “men don’t care how much a lady” makes line.


This is my mother talking not my father and she’s actually the bread winner in the family. Mainly because she works 2 good paying jobs

interesting

my dad is the one who ALWAYS asked me what my girlfriends did for a living or were studying. i used to care a lot about it but not as much anymore because often times, the mentality and maintenance of the lawyer or doctor chick is wack / too much. Theyre rarely down to earth and usually like to maintain a certain lifestyle. Once they start messing with you a lot of them expect you to all of a sudden be the one financing said lifestyle. On top of that a lot of them prioritize their careers too much and that can take away from what two ppl are trying to build in the relationship

To me it is just a bonus but not a requirement.

 

[Jekyll]

Most men don't care

Most men are not that smart financially and don’t have much to lose in the first place.

 

[Ohene]

I will marry a woman I’m attracted to, makes me laugh and enjoy spending time with. I’m not gonna marry some miserable annoying stuck up bytch because she makes 100k a year.

simple bruv

 

[cyndaquil]

I will marry a woman I’m attracted to, makes me laugh and enjoy spending time with. I’m not gonna marry some miserable annoying stuck up bytch because she makes 100k a year.

You gonna marry a bbw

 

[richaveli83]

 

[King P]

If divorce is that real of an option, me and this lady have no business getting married. It's not a rental

It's always a real option whether you want it to be or not, because most divorces are initiated by women.

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

What she makes matters. It show's some level of drive/ambition that I find desirable and it keeps me from getting raked over the coals in case of divorce. Plus it is easier to build if you're both doing it rather than one person doing all the work while all the other can offer is words of encouragement.

This 100%.

If you're middle class or upper middle class on your own salary, marry a similar woman.

Once you hit a certain level (mid 6 figs, maybe low 7 figs/year), her money matters less but you gotta make sure she's educated and has demonstrated the right qualities. We've seen what happens to athletes that marry "models."

 

[Kski]

$80k ain’t even close to enough money to not care how much your wife makes — unless you content with just doing aii and not building for future generations

 

[horizon]

Yall gonna find yourselves fukking with bums not caring what a woman makes not me but yeah yall boys be cool tho

 

[Piff Perkins]

Yall gonna find yourselves fukking with bums not caring what a woman makes not me but yeah yall boys be cool tho

It's the weirdest fake alpha male shyt ever, completely detached from reality. "I'm the dominant head of the family, what you make is irrelevant" is such a laughable position to take and tells me you aren't in the dating game AT ALL. No disrespect but the views being presented are a crystal clear example of why and how black people are so far behind when it comes to financial literacy. Take away the racism, structural problems and white fukkery...and you've still got black men and women saying marriage doesn't matter, or "the money a woman makes is irrelevant." While your white coworker is literally building perfect credit off dual income with their husband/wife. What is wrong with you guys...

We're so stuck on this imaginary Kevin Samuels conversation on men making over 300k that we're overlooking the fact that this country's upper middle class is driven by people making....70k, 80k, 90k, 100-150k or more (depending on your location, of course). Those are the salary ranges of accountants, engineers, doctors, attorneys, financial planners, IT security, etc. The most lucrative professions. And if they're white (or Asian, or Indian, or black etc)...they're marrying each other on average. And when your combined income jumps to 200k+ suddenly you are in position to build perfect credit, prepare for your children's college educations, buy a home, get an Audi SUV, and all the other big boy shyt couples are doing while you...seek out your unemployed queen because she knows her place at the bottom while you're the head of the family. Madness.