"If you make $80,000 you have no business marrying a woman that makes $35,000"

[feelosofer]

I been telling telling dudes on the coli for years to stop dating/marrying broke women because they look good. You should marry some thats making somewhere in the neighbor hood of what you're making. Unless you're making 250k or more year most you dudes can dead the fantasy of a stay at home wife and a 2-3 child family.

 

[CrimsonTider]

He’s only saying get a prenup. He’s right. Everything is transactional nowadays. Yall dummies are letting pride get in the way of logic. Alot of people date down anyway because that’s the only way they can control their woman but the whole time you’re just setting yourself up for the kill in divorce.

prenup

 

[Atlrocafella]

I said preparing, and it’s not something that’s outright said, it’s more a subconscious thing.

if I’m prepping a prenup, Worried about how much my wife makes, etc... you already going in with backward thoughts about things possibly going bad.

again, this doesn’t apply for everybody

If you don’t go in with a pre-nup, you’ll be a slave to a relationship that you can no longer mentally maintain solely because you don’t want to lose assets. The Relationship can become toxic, sexless, draining but you’re stuck because “it’s cheaper to keep her”.
I rather be on the other side with my peace of mind knowing that IF shyt falls apart, my life won’t have too, and I don’t need to stick around for something that no longer keeps me happy.

 

[Rawtid]

If you don’t go in with a pre-nup, you’ll be a slave to a relationship that you can no longer mentally maintain solely because you don’t want to lose assets. The Relationship can become toxic, sexless, draining but you’re stuck because “it’s cheaper to keep her”.
I rather be on the other side with my peace of mind knowing that IF shyt falls apart, my life won’t have too, and I don’t need to stick around for something that no longer keeps me happy.

Aren’t your parents married? Where did you get such a shyt view of marriage?

 

[jerzboy]

If you don’t go in with a pre-nup, you’ll be a slave to a relationship that you can no longer mentally maintain solely because you don’t want to lose assets. The Relationship can become toxic, sexless, draining but you’re stuck because “it’s cheaper to keep her”.
I rather be on the other side with my peace of mind knowing that IF shyt falls apart, my life won’t have too, and I don’t need to stick around for something that no longer keeps me happy.

That "if" is what I mean by going in 'preparing' for divorce... lol

Edit: you go into marriage with any bad “if” thoughts ur subconsciously preparing for that divorce and not focused on fixing whatever issues may arise. Your thoughts should be positive to go all in “fooorrr evvvv ahhhh”

 

[CrimsonTider]

High dual income is not the only way to build wealth. If a wife is holding down the fort and the kids which gives you the time to concentrate on striking a large business deal you're still building wealth

If a wife is helping renovate or manage properties while you work on the next you're still building wealth

Folks can play different roles so long as they're working towards same goals

STFU

 

[Atlrocafella]

Aren’t your parents married? Where did you get such a shyt view of marriage?

Yep, my parents are still married. We talking this modern era of marriage. I don’t trust these women

 

[Atlrocafella]

That "if" is what I mean by going in 'preparing' for divorce... lol

Edit: you go into marriage with any bad “if” thoughts ur subconsciously preparing for that divorce and not focused on fixing whatever issues may arise. Your thoughts should be positive to go all in “fooorrr evvvv ahhhh”

You can’t force anyone to stay, you can be as positive and want to fix as much as you want, but if the other person has checked out and ready to go, there’s nothing you can do.

 

[jerzboy]

You can’t force anyone to stay, you can be as positive and want to fix as much as you want, but if the other person has checked out and ready to go, there’s nothing you can do.

agree, this thought goes for both sides. Most people don’t get this and I’ve seen the bad results play out in real life, as I’ve also seen the positive with both young and old couples. People get married fir the wrong reasons.

edit: I’ll say this, from the young folks I know that are married, my wife and I knew which ones would be divorced and which would still be running strong. You can see the folks prepping for divorce before the ceremony. Again, nothing is perfect and who knows where my other friends that are still married will be, but you get the sense it was going to run strong

 

[Claudex]

@Rawtid you read this yet?

 

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This makes no sense at all. Zero! If your make 80k eventually you will make six figures future for sure. You mostly likely will be a HNWI or UHNWI in the near future or in the future.

There is mountains and I mean mountains of data that show for a HNWI or UHNWI what only matters is a college degree.

I am married and a HNWI could care less what my wife makes, as long as she college educated and pretty and be a good mother to my kids.

There is absolutely no data behind his claims at all!

 

[Claudex]

You can’t force anyone to stay, you can be as positive and want to fix as much as you want, but if the other person has checked out and ready to go, there’s nothing you can do.

That's really the problem, it takes both parties for the marriage to actually take place, but it only takes one side of the duo to effectively kill it.

That's what they call terrible odds.

 

[JQ Legend]

I think the issue is the phrasing of it and that men don’t care about it the way women want them to care about it. A woman’s salary is a relevant consideration, but an unattractive fat woman making 6 figures isn’t going to get the same boost a similarly situated man would.

I’d also argue that a decent number of women go out of their way to make men discount their salary. If she expects me to pay 90% of the bills, what good does her salary do me? It’s not like we can get a bigger house or pay it off quicker if she’s not contributing

This some real ass shyt

What difference does it make if a woman makes good money if the man still gotta pay for majority if not all of the expenses?

I get what a lot of y’all saying bout dual incomes but y’all assuming this would lead to the man and woman splitting all expenses when the women dapping y’all posts wouldn’t agree with those arrangements in their own relationship/marriage.

 

[WaveWhisperer]

If you are successful and going places in life and decide to get married or do a long term relationship for the right reasons (dynasty, legacy, seeds) you better be damn sure the woman has a decent career/education or has made sacrifices in her life to establish something.

If you a six figure six certs man and you wifing fast food employees because of light skin and fat ass, you failed. Even if she cooks, cleans, and gives you "peace of mind". You can get all that from a woman with a career.

 

[Leao2005]

I don’t see what’s wrong with his statement