sounds like youMen are too scared to make demands.
It's a shame that some guys are scared to ask for a home cooked meal every night
But But But she's too busy to clean the house and cook![]()

sounds like youMen are too scared to make demands.
It's a shame that some guys are scared to ask for a home cooked meal every night
But But But she's too busy to clean the house and cook![]()

sounds like you![]()
I cape every once in a while but that broad better enjoy the kitchenim scared to ask my girl to stay in the house instead of goin out smokin wit her friendsI cape every once in a while but that broad better enjoy the kitchen

im scared to ask my girl to stay in the house instead of goin out smokin wit her friends![]()

I actually really liked @Rawtid 's response, and I'll piggy back off of it. To me, being in a marriage is a situation where there is a requirement of dependence. Being in a relationship doesn't carry that type of responsibility, but when you start living together there is pressure to duplicate that dependence and that is not a responsibility I want when I'm just getting to know you.
Ok the Christian angle. Well I have no choice but to respect if that's your religious beliefs![]()
nah i dont smokeShe should be inside smoking with you.![]()
It doesn't make sense to me to make that level of sacrifice for someone I'm not married to.Like I said before, cohabitating when you can already sustain yourself independently is mutually beneficial. You'd be saving twice as fast. And i dont see why marriage all of sudden makes palatable the sacrifices you'd potentially be willing to accept. Marriage is not some inseparable union in which the two of you are literally bonded together for life. You can get married, support his return to school, and he still leaves. You can build wealth with him and he still leaves.![]()
There's nothing wrong with personal time.I guess from a practical prospective, too, Rawtid made a more practical point about the dependence thing, and I share the same feelings. Maybe it's selfish of me, but to be honest I enjoy my solitude and when I get married I have no choice but to give it up.

nah i dont smoke
Once you've decided to marry a person, you've gone beyond "getting to know" a person. Certain levels of commitment need to be shown in certain time periods. You don't just go from getting to know a person to married. There transitions that are made that build to a climax.
If a woman got engaged why would she not move in with her fiancee that she's potentially walking down the aisle with in 6 -12 mnths?
What does she have to hide?
And don't give me that bullshyt milk analogy
This is 2014 not 1814. Women been poppin p*ssy.![]()
These dude can act crazy if they want and act like they don't understand but a lot of us have "friends" and "best friends" there are things you would do for your best friend that you wouldn't do for just a friend. The same applies to boyfriend and husband. That doesn't mean the friendship or marriage won't end but in the moment you still draw lines in the sand about what you'd be willing to do for that person.I actually really liked @Rawtid 's response, and I'll piggy back off of it. To me, being in a marriage is a situation where there is a requirement of dependence. Being in a relationship doesn't carry that type of responsibility, but when you start living together there is pressure to duplicate that dependence and that is not a responsibility I want when I'm just getting to know you.
How many times a week you see your dude if you have one? I live separate from my fiance but it feels like we live together. She used to be over my house daily and sleep over, get dressed for work etc and vice versa. Now since the baby, im over there almost daily, sleep over we see each other often. She is the main one that wants to not move in until we married. She wants to maintain that independence and also uphold her virtues as a christian womanI understand that, but I don't feel like moving in together one of those things.

