If you marry a woman without her completing a 1 year probationary period consisting of...

[Stringer Bell]

@Kind Gentleman

You fail to see the depths of your actions. enjoy the surface tension because soon TLR's cup shall runneth over.

I'm giving you a chance to apologize to the people you left for dead just to have a failed exposal under your belt.

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

I know exactly what you meant. Stand by your words. You're saying....if you a grown man with a sh*tty $10 an hour job, you look foolish tryna get a woman to submit to you. Even the other dude below you said: "Yea, if you want a woman to submit, you gotta be a boss financially".

So what, a broke nikka can't have a good steak dinner too nikka

On top of your shyt doesn't ONLY mean money It means being on top of your shyt

Yea a nicca making 27k deserves a steak dinner If he is a thorough dude with principals, leadership, morals and good character, you know, a MAN Im not sure what box you're trying to put me in but you can miss me with all that

 

[Nintendough]

By who?

By nobody, hopefully.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Are yall really trying to act like this isn't a thing in Black households as well? I don't think it's a "cultural" thing, I think it's a household/family standards thing.

Um, friend, no matter the race, thats a cultural thing. One of my Nigerian lady friends i once asked if Nigerian women cook, She wrote back to me * an african woman that does not cook is an abomination* so yes i think it is cultural. Maybe its just a city girl thing for a woman not to cook and think shes a man.

 

[Rawtid]

@everyone in the thread. Why get married at all? I legitimately don't see the point.

Marriage to me means we agree to be legally recognized as a union with the purpose of building a stable foundation for ourselves and our family. Yes you can build wealth, live together, start businesses, have children and all that without being married but considering yourselves as one entity is not something that can be mentally done without marriage, imo.

As far as the "point" of it? That is going to depend on the person. Some people don't care nor want to considered a union. I just don't see the point of being in a relationship without marriage being the end game. Just dating and shacking up forever seems pointless. Why make the sacrifice?

 

[Elle Driver]

By nobody, hopefully.

Watch yoself.

 

[Malik]

On top of your shyt doesn't ONLY mean money It means being on top of your shyt

Yea a nicca making 27k deserves a steak dinner If he is a thorough dude with principals, leadership, morals and good character, you know, a MAN Im not sure what box you're trying to put me in but you can miss me with all that

My bad....when you said "you can't be a bum nikka" I thought you meant a broke person with no money. I must have got it wrong then.

 

[Arishok]

@everyone in the thread. Why get married at all? I legitimately don't see the point.

A lot of it has to do with legal benefits to be honest. There's a lot you would want to do with your partner (especially someone you have kids with) that you can't do because how the law views certain relationships.

 

[mcdivit85]

Can we be realistic and acknowledge the fact that being dependent on someone and building a life/family/etc together is a burden? When you get married, you make the decision to take on those major responsibilities together forever. You don't make those vows when you're in a relationship, or what's the point of marriage??

I feel like I am being realistic,. I just don't think its realistic to think that you can make a marriage work if your privacy is so important that having a husband is counted as an encumbrance. Which is what I thought you meant. So, thank you for the honesty.

With that said, I agree with what you're saying in terms of the commitment marriage entails. HOWEVER, if the person that you're making those "vows" to is not worthy of being lived with and/or decreasing some private time before marriage, then what automatically changes following a ceremony?

Peace

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

I feel like I am being realistic,. I just don't think its realistic to think that you can make a marriage work if your privacy is so important that having a husband is counted as an encumbrance. Which is what I thought you meant. So, thank you for the honesty.

With that said, I agree with what you're saying in terms of the commitment marriage entails. HOWEVER, if the person that you're making those "vows" to is not worthy of being lived with and/or decreasing some private time before marriage, then what automatically changes following a ceremony?

Peace

It's not that they aren't worthy, it's that I haven't made the decision to live that type of life with you. That decision is made when I decide to marry you.

 

[ebonykiss]

Not fully, women are protected by courts and feminist guilt trips so they don't have to worry about getting taken to the cleaners.

Yah but its still important for women to see how you and your man interact in that kind of environment, as soon as you get engaged I think you should try living together for a bit, not saying anyone has to sell their own apartment/home just yet , but you definitely need the practice

 

[mcdivit85]

Privacy isn't something I'd want to sacrifice for someone I'm not married to.

Out of curiosity, are you willing to "sacrifice" anything for someone you're not married to? And you tone makes it seem like this is a dude you're just dating instead of the man that you're making concerted plans to marry.

Just like you may say there is a difference between a boyfriend and husband, is there no difference between a boyfriend and a fiance?

Peace

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Yah but its still important for women to see how your and your man interact, as soon as you get engaged I think you should try living together for a bit, not saying anyone has to sell their own apartment/home just yet , you definitely need the practice

Practice for what?

 

[Chris.B]

Living under the same roof
Operating in full WIFE duties and functions(girlfriends and wives aint the same)
Showing full submission
A checklist of personal requirements and grading her



You lose. After you've been together decide to marry, this needs to kick in immediately. Men lose the hardest in court due to feminism so ya girl will be forced to pay a fee for "freedoms". Engagement periods should be her proving ground, she shouldn't feel like she made it.





If she says no then she is showing early signs of being combative, thats a strike.


If she says her family and friends don't approve then that's a strike too. You're more important than her daddy, momma, sister, brother, cousin, play aunts and homegirls. If they opinions are so important she should be fukking them instead.


Any signs of unwillingness on her part to put a down payment on a union that can ruin a mans life at the drop of a woman's dime can't be trusted.



Thank you based OG's for knowledge and the ones who went through that so I wouldn't have to.

You could've passed for my Gawd if I didn't believe in Jesus

 

[InDePickWest]

Yall act like marriage is something you have to do. Stop complaining about it theres tons of women willing to sit on your face and throw something on the stove before she dips out. If suddenly, the majority of women are unfit for marriage, what happens to the men?


fukk outta here, yall aint victims and what kind of man blames all his problems on women. Seems like you boys need to look in the mirror.