“If your man is only protecting and providing you’re still a single mom” - AceMetaphor

[Treblemaka]

You nikkas man....

When has nikkas who are married with children not raise their kids. Where are all these married nikkas who dont take care of their kids at? This is fukking goofy. nikkas just be talking just because you can.

Imagine breaking your back and risking your life for your family only to be told you aint doing enough. I see why these young nikkas are opting out and laying flat.

Being around is not the same as being active ESPECIALLY in this generation. Many kids spend more quality time with their phones and consoles than they do with their parents, that's a problem. Many male children feel more comfortable talking to their mom about something their they're father, that's a problem.

This ain't 1950 where most men are providing the majority of the household income especially in the black community.

If a man is in a household where salaries between the man and woman are comparable and both are required to pay the bills but she's handling most of the household responsibilities and the children then naw that man ain't doing enough.

And if he's butt hurt about hearing that then he better find a therapist to figure out why he's so soft.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

You nikkas man....

When has nikkas who are married with children not raise their kids. Where are all these married nikkas who dont take care of their kids at? This is fukking goofy. nikkas just be talking just because you can.

Imagine breaking your back and risking your life for your family only to be told you aint doing enough. I see why these young nikkas are opting out and laying flat.

Bruh I'm beyond tired of women acting like they do EVERYTHING. Every man I know with kids spends just as much time with their kids as the mothers do, IF NOT MORE. They cook, clean, all that shyt. These women are trying to guilt trip men into doing EVERYTHING while they lay up and reap the benefits. We really need to have a narrative about how lazy and sorry these new women are now a days. I'm divorced and could not care less if I ever get married again cause these women suck and are nothing, but a drain.

 

[Treblemaka]

Yeah I will vehemently disagree with this. Men are not women and women are not men. You need different things from men than you do women.

You lost me at nurture but you didn’t state toughness discipline confidence. Mothers nurture by nature men lead and you can lead and not nurture. Children need a father figure that’s a leader and a mother who is a nurturer.

It all still comes back to accountability and duty.

I agree that both sexes are not the same and roles in child rearing should be different.

But most men are not natural leaders and never have been, both now and historically. Discipline is not a function of masculinity or feminity it is a function of consistency and effort not gender.

Men (and women) have to give male and female children what they need to be successful in both example and in teaching and that require having a relationship with those children beyond "Do what I say".

 

[IVS]

STFU

Ery nukka on the internet think they a fuxn relationship guru. STFU

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Bruh I'm beyond tired of women acting like they do EVERYTHING. Every man I know with kids spends just as much time with their kids as the mothers do, IF NOT MORE. They cook, clean, all that shyt. These women are trying to guilt trip men into doing EVERYTHING while they lay up and reap the benefits. We really need to have a narrative about how lazy and sorry these new women are now a days. I'm divorced and could not care less if I ever get married again cause these women suck and are nothing, but a drain.

I vividly remember coming home from work one day and making myself a sandwich and my ex at the time was staying over night. She got mad and started a argument because I didn't make her one after sitting in the house ALL day, just chilling on her phone and watching tv..

I kicked her ass out after that

 

[Mike Nasty]

ALL day, just chilling on her phone and watching tv.

and they'll be dead serious about "why do I have to do everything?"

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

I vividly remember coming home from work one day and making myself a sandwich and my ex at the time was staying over night. She got mad and started a argument because I didn't make her one after sitting in the house ALL day, just chilling on her phone and watching tv..

I kicked her ass out after that

I'd come home from work(I'm paying all the bills mind you) and she had sat in the house all day and the place wasn't clean and no food ready, NOTHING. I'm tired of these sorry ass hoes acting like men are the problem out here, men never asked for this shyt women did, THEY need to adjust not me.

I'm tired of being told it's never enough, like bytch I'm an ATM AND a therapist now, on top of having to be a janitor and raise the kids, and everything else. Men need to check out and leave these women to rot.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Being around is not the same as being active ESPECIALLY in this generation. Many kids spend more quality time with their phones and consoles than they do with their parents, that's a problem. Many male children feel more comfortable talking to their mom about something their they're father, that's a problem.

This ain't 1950 where most men are providing the majority of the household income especially in the black community.

If a man is in a household where salaries between the man and woman are comparable and both are required to pay the bills but she's handling most of the household responsibilities and the children then naw that man ain't doing enough.

And if he's butt hurt about hearing that then he better find a therapist to figure out why he's so soft.

Yeah Ok. When somebody come through the window let him grab and nurture the kids while she go check out whats going on. That way they share the load equally.

Black men are the only men that are told they should be more submissive and listen. Get in touch with their feelings. Give everything and ask for nothing. They basically want Black men to be wives with Wallets. fukk outta here. Go hit your own self from the back bytch

 

[HARLEM AL]

Keep that same single mom energy when it's time to pay the bills then

"Oh, Thats different"

 

[SNG]

I’m torn in this one. It isn’t as dramatic as women being classified as married “single moms.” However I do know the oldschool way of doing things was the man just needed to protect and make the money and when it comes to handling the kids they were hands off.

I think in 2023 that model has been updated because we see the result of what that old model brings, a lot of piece of shyt kids and unhappy women. So the new model has to involve the father being more mentally and emotionally active.

In 2023 what makes you stand out as a good partner to your women is having good communication skills, and having empathy, which are not something a lot of men can do nowadays. Most men just leave it to the mom for these tasks.

Women have access to money and safety in 2023 without men, but they’ve never had access to the type of men I described above. If you can provide, protect, lead, and exude empathy and communication skills in 2023 you’re a 10 as a man. It takes work to put those two together because making money very much involves shutting g the emotions off. Being a protector requires more a$$hole tendencies. So it’s a balance.

Listen if you are a sole provider you will always be lacking in the nurturing department since you’re working so gotdamn much. You got a good chunk of a generation that has never been raised where a man is leading. You expect these men to all of a sudden have these qualities? Majority of these men have been lead by women and the the women raised by these same women were lead by them also. The black community needs to look at this and take this into account on a how they move as a family unit. There’s two many pointing fingers on what should be done and how to move. I’ve seen both men and women in ideal situations where a man is providing making money and the relationship still got fukked up.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I'd come home from work(I'm paying all the bills mind you) and she had sat in the house all day and the place wasn't clean and no food ready, NOTHING. I'm tired of these sorry ass hoes acting like men are the problem out here, men never asked for this shyt women did, THEY need to adjust not me.

I'm tired of being told it's never enough, like bytch I'm an ATM AND a therapist now, on top of having to be a janitor and raise the kids, and everything else. Men need to check out and leave these women to rot.

Honestly, its one reason why I never married

shyt like that

In hindsight, I shouldn't have wasted my time on her like that. There were other women that wanted to be with me for whatever reason. She was a habitual line stepper... I chose poorly


But thats not the only reason though. Watching my dad go through his second divorce and still dealing with that bullshyt now at like 60 is another reason. Completely turned me off to ever really marrying especially to someone who has kids.

Safe to say, my preferences and with the females I seem to mostly attract, shyts not looking good

 

[ScottyG]

Dog…. they exist. Usually they are more well off demographic where this happens. You’re a good dad probably, but there are dads out there that are shyt despite being providers. It’s okay to admit that without getting upset or offended. Probably a very small subset of men that are bad at this shyt.

This white boy stays writing a simp soliloquy

 

[Windows 91]

Another black podcast talking about relationships

Repped. Enough is enough. There have GOT to be more lanes than just dating and relationships.

 

[Ziggiy]

I grew up with both parents present and my father was the best man i’ve ever known.

Most of the black fathers I know are present and in their children’s lives helping to raise them, care for them, nurture them, etc.

This bullshyt narrative that the majority of black fathers aren’t spending time with their kids doesn’t reflect reality.

Now could there be a conversation regarding men evolving into better romantic partners for women due to progressions in expectations within society? I’d say yes, but people forget that the relationship between man and woman and parent and child are TWO DIFFERENT things. A man could not be the best romantic partner and still be a great father. The rearing of children should be separate from that conversation

 

[ThatTruth777]

Its like people treat men like they aren't even human. You just a utility that's suppose to dispense 'things"