“If your man is only protecting and providing you’re still a single mom” - AceMetaphor

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

I grew up with both parents present and my father was the best man i’ve ever known.

Most of the black fathers I know are present and in their children’s lives helping to raise them, care for them, nurture them, etc.

This bullshyt narrative that the majority of black fathers aren’t spending time with their kids doesn’t reflect reality.

Now could there be a conversation regarding men evolving into better romantic partners for women due to progressions in expectations within society? I’d say yes, but people forget that the relationship between man and woman and parent and child are TWO DIFFERENT things. A man could not be the best romantic partner and still be a great father. The rearing of children should be separate from that conversation

This is the problem, women always lump the two together and they feel like if you not a good romantic partner you aren't a good dad because women really only care about themselves not their kids.

 

[SNG]

I vividly remember coming home from work one day and making myself a sandwich and my ex at the time was staying over night. She got mad and started a argument because I didn't make her one after sitting in the house ALL day, just chilling on her phone and watching tv..

I kicked her ass out after that

As you should. A lot of women’s bare minimums is they p*ssy and not shyt else. Then they want to argue where the good men at. But at the same time I still blame men for driving them to this. nikkaz will do all the lying and simping just to fukk and forget.

 

[bubba scotch]

Facts although it should be worded differently. Women have been saying this for years and it's why they initiate

Yeah initiate the divorce then separate the same kids from them making it worst.

Shut your goofy ass up.

The coli where a bum ass dad is better than a step dad

 

[bubba scotch]

Shut yo bytch ass up

Reminded you too much of your bum as pops huh. It's okay to cry breh

 

[MostReal]

panderer

 

[TheGreatMTB]

If a dude is paying all the bills it's only natural that a woman will lead the child-rearing. It sounds from the comments like that's what they're talking about here. If you're a stay at home mom, your job is to be a mom while he works insane hours to provide you that luxury.

If you're going about 50/50 working jobs (which most people do) then this makes sense, but even then saying a woman is a single mother doesn't make sense. You're still getting support, just not the amount of support you prefer and might need to raise a balanced kid.

 

[YouMadd?]

I vividly remember coming home from work one day and making myself a sandwich and my ex at the time was staying over night. She got mad and started a argument because I didn't make her one after sitting in the house ALL day, just chilling on her phone and watching tv..

I kicked her ass out after that

You date inconsiderate losers. My girl works and finishes before me and my dinner is ALWAYS READY. All the people disagreeing with me in this thread get shyt treatment from their women it seems, or y’all divorced.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

You date inconsiderate losers. My girl works and finishes before me and my dinner is ALWAYS READY. All the people disagreeing with me in this thread get shyt treatment from their women it seems, or y’all divorced.

nikka this shyt was over 10 years ago

She was a 22 year old spoiled chick who looked up to thots and had simps ass nikkas do and pay for everything and I definitely wasn’t that.



And Idgaf what your white chick does bruh.. I was damn near married having the same thing you described happen with my last chick

 

[Regular Developer]

This guy is usually a panderer* but I actually agree with this.

If you have children with your wife it's your job to raise them too. Your son needs his father's influence, your daughter needs her father's influence. You should be nurturing and growing your children together.

It's not just a woman's job to raise the children you both made together.

I mean it makes sense. Those kids are about half your genes. They're going to need to learn how to utilize the things they inherit from you/your side of the family and you have the experience.

 

[Treblemaka]

Yeah Ok. When somebody come through the window let him grab and nurture the kids while she go check out whats going on. That way they share the load equally.

Black men are the only men that are told they should be more submissive and listen. Get in touch with their feelings. Give everything and ask for nothing. They basically want Black men to be wives with Wallets. fukk outta here. Go hit your own self from the back bytch

Any man worth a damn isn't going to have a problem with securing his house AND pouring into his children as much as possible. He's supposed to do that.

What's submissive about spending more time with your children?

Whats wrong with getting in touch with your feelings and mental wellness?


Too many of us are weak. Anytime we hear anything that we don't like we get incendiary, start name calling, and flip out like the stereotypical irrational women we can't stand instead of being sober minded and addressing the topic.

Kinda like what you're doing in this thread.

 

[YouMadd?]

I have a relative where the husband basically checked out of family life, not because of anything his wife/kids did but because he had some personal issues that led to depression and his coping mechanisms basically don't leave him enough emotional energy to give anything to his family. He's still working

Listen if you are a sole provider you will always be lacking in the nurturing department since you’re working so gotdamn much. You got a good chunk of a generation that has never been raised where a man is leading. You expect these men to all of a sudden have these qualities? Majority of these men have been lead by women and the the women raised by these same women were lead by them also. The black community needs to look at this and take this into account on a how they move as a family unit. There’s two many pointing fingers on what should be done and how to move. I’ve seen both men and women in ideal situations where a man is providing making money and the relationship still got fukked up.

This is a good point. Black Americans have to move very intentionally as a family unit and usually that is driven by the father’s leadership. But in order for the unit to work, both mother and father have to sacrifice

 

[Professor Emeritus]

they feel like if you not a good romantic partner you aren't a good dad because women really only care about themselves not their kids.

If a dude is paying all the bills it's only natural that a woman will lead the child-rearing. It sounds from the comments like that's what they're talking about here. If you're a stay at home mom, your job is to be a mom while he works insane hours to provide you that luxury.

If you're going about 50/50 working jobs (which most people do) then this makes sense, but even then saying a woman is a single mother doesn't make sense. You're still getting support, just not the amount of support you prefer and might need to raise a balanced kid.

Child rearing is far more than an 8-hour job, especially during the first 4 or so years. How would you feel if the mother did 100% of the child rearing work while the father was at work, then the father did say 50-60% or more of the work when he got home?

 

[YouMadd?]

Any man worth a damn isn't going to have a problem with securing his house AND pouring into his children as much as possible. He's supposed to do that.

What's submissive about spending more time with your children?

Whats wrong with getting in touch with your feelings and mental wellness?


Too many of us are weak. Anytime we hear anything that we don't like we get incendiary, start name calling, and flip out like the stereotypical irrational women we can't stand instead of being sober minded and addressing the topic.

Kinda like what you're doing in this thread.

Exactly, they don’t realize it takes STRENGTH to communicate feelings, to empathize, to be vulnerable. It’s not strong to block that shyt Out. It’s actually EASY to avoid emotion. Taking the easy way out is weak.

We have posters getting pissed off over different opinions. Im sure these traits translate well in their interpersonal relationships

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

I mean if you love the bytch, isn’t that supposed to be a natural thing? Empathizing is literally just acknowledgement. If this is a huge sacrifice for you then so be it, but good luck finding a feminine women who doesn’t want this. Most extremely feminine women need this at the very minimum. Now I’ve met whores who don’t need any emotionally coddling and masculine women too. So go for them I guess.

I bolded "her" because in my experience it's not a two way street. A lot of women say they want the man to open up and communicate, as the post I was replying to suggested, but really they just want you to listen too and empathize with them, with no reciprocity.

 

[Haliax]

Whos ready to start WW4 (3 wouldnt be enough for these women even if we win) maybe lose. That way our underdog story would be more impressive.