“If your man is only protecting and providing you’re still a single mom” - AceMetaphor

[LadyJ2]

Maybe get your lazy ass kids to help out and you won’t be so stressed? A lot of these kids don’t do shyt.

In my house EVERYBODY helps out including our youngest who is only 9. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, yard work, trash, etc. No free rides around here. And we don’t wanna hear shyt about being tired from school or sports or whatever.

I will snatch up everybody’s phone/tablet and turn off the Wi-Fi think I’m playing!

A family is a BUSINESS and like all businesses everyone has their part to play. Even when our kids were little they had to pick up and clean up and SHUT UP.

Parents first, kids last has always been our motto. If it wasn’t for us they wouldn’t even be here. Y’all letting toddlers ruin your marriages smh.

 

[Umoja]

Someone needs to bottle him before goons kick his ribs in.

 

[YouMadd?]

You boys move like women. It’s quite telling. I can tell some of ya’ll didn’t grow up with strong men in your lives.

Okay so we agree! That’s literally what I said and You got defensive. It has come full circle and you saying the same thing I already said, that you got offended by

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

Well this is a perfect way to eliminate a bad partner IF she isn't fulfilling needs that you've communicated to her while you are fulfilling her needs then you sir are in an imbalanced relationship and she probably doesnt care about you.

Seems like the people in this thread who disagree with me, get treated like shyt by the women in their life. Couldnt be me...

If you leave every woman who acts that way then you will never have a woman lol. And the younger generations of women are worse, more self absorbed than ever. Which is why you see studies that say 60% of men in their 20s would rather sit at home watching porn than deal with them.

Men need to self soothe and be emotionally independent Imo

 

[YouMadd?]

If you leave every woman who acts that way then you will never have a woman lol. And the younger generations of women are worse, more self absorbed than ever. Which is why you see studies that say 60% of men in their 20s would rather sit at home watching porn than deal with them.

Men need to self soothe and be emotionally independent Imo

lol speak for yourself my guy. Attracting and keeping women around is not a problem for me.

“never have a women”. I don’t comprehend.

If you are operating from a place of scarcity, I could see why that would be a problem though.

I spent most of my adult life trying to avoid serious relationships. In the past 7 years I’ve given two women the chance to be serious, and I’m still with the second one. I move very intentionally.

 

[BrothaZay]

You are who this post is about lil bro. You think you can just work and not help with shyt for your kids. you fukked boy

I can

 

[jay83]

They should have a tournament of the best grifter. Melanie king, Derrick Jackson, this dude, Mtr, dbz tournament style.

 

[Umoja]

Child rearing is far more than an 8-hour job, especially during the first 4 or so years. How would you feel if the mother did 100% of the child rearing work while the father was at work, then the father did say 50-60% or more of the work when he got home?

The problem with this setup is that I would want to do as much with my kids as possible. On a personal level doing 50% or even 100% if I could manage it wouldn't bother me.

If I am to talk about it from a "what is fair point of view" that is not an even trade once the children are in school. 100% of child rearing between 9 to 5 requires less work than a 9 to 5 where you're actually expected to work.

If I was to focus on what is fair, I would expect my wife to get a job and that we both share the joy of raising children.

 

[Ineedmoney504]

YoI can

You could before these simp videos. You goofed

 

[WheresWallace]

 

[Professor Emeritus]

I'm not saying the father shouldn't be involved in their child's life but if you're a stay at home mom that's the job you signed up for. You exchange the stresses of a normal job to raise a child, and most stay-at-home moms I know live relatively stress-free lives. They swear they're stressed out to hell but when you watch them you struggle to see what they're talking about.

Breh, every parent I know of a 0-4 year old child is fukking stressed out and sleep deprived to a degree that isn't matched by hardly any job outside of the ones with purely insane working hours. And that's talking about TWO parent households, not even single parent. The 24/7 attention and constant intrusions on every aspect of life that come with raising a little kid are unparalleled. Suggesting that's just the job the mom signed up for, and not what the dad signed up for, is begging the question.

I have no idea what single parents you know who are living "relatively stress-free lives" unless they're paying a ton in childcare, their kids are much older and taking care of themselves, or they're basically practicing child neglect.

 

[Professor Emeritus]

If I am to talk about it from a "what is fair point of view" that is not an even trade once the children are in school. 100% of child rearing between 9 to 5 requires less work than a 9 to 5 where you're actually expected to work.

But that's "once the children are in school". Doesn't apply at all to the period before that, which is the much more stressful period.

If I was to focus on what is fair, I would expect my wife to get a job and that we both share the joy of raising children.

I think this is ideal, and I wish the American workplace would facilitate it more. I have a good friend who is a radiologist and he managed to get down to 25 or 30 hours/week so he could co-parent. I have a relative on my wife's side who quit his job in favor of a work-for-home job so he could co-parent. Unfortunately, there are a lot of careers where they refuse to let anyone work less than full-time hours.

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

lol speak for yourself my guy. Attracting and keeping women around is not a problem for me.

“never have a women”. I don’t comprehend.

If you are operating from a place of scarcity, I could see why that would be a problem though.

I spent most of my adult life trying to avoid serious relationships. In the past 7 years I’ve given two women the chance to be serious, and I’m still with the second one. I move very intentionally.

Breh im happily married. I don't have a problem attracting women either. I just don't look to them for emotional support.

 

[The Burger King]

Threads like these and some of the responses in here shows that society really doesn’t care about men’s mental health like they claim to.

A man (especially black) is expected to be perfect and if the woman FEELS like he’s not up to par, he’s less than and needs to try harder.

So now you have men out here getting stressed the fukk out and dying earlier than they should’ve from health issues or blowing their own brains out.

Then all of a sudden it’s “men should open up”.

But when we do open up (podcasts, forums, etc.) we are told we are being whiny, effeminate little bytches.

And the cycle continues.

 

[Budda]

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