If You're the Breadwinner...

[Lamar Givens]

You just created an argument for yourself to respond to... I never said Men only cheat with women who are more attractive than their partner... I literally never made a case for any of that....

MY ENTIRE POINT and KS point is that if you WANT A MAN THAT IS DESIRABLE, BE PREPARED TO COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN NO MATTER WHAT...

The main point he is ALWAYS trying to beat into women's heads are that they will have to COMPETE... This is a concept that women dont understand, which is why fat women and baby mommas keep calling into his show confused....

Exactly! Just look at most top tier athletes wives. Even after having a baby they get right back into tip top shape. I rarely see top athletes with wives who have let themselves go.

Look at Ayesha Curry. After having 3 babies her body is back in tip top form.



Though, in my opinion I doubt Steph would cheat on her she but she also knows that attractive women are going to come at her husband and she gives him no reason to find disgust in her body because she got comfortable and let herself go.

These athletes wives stay on code

 

[Roid Jones]

Exactly! Just look at most top tier athletes wives. Even after having a baby they get right back into tip top shape. I rarely see top athletes with wives who have let themselves go.

Look at Ayesha Curry. After having 3 babies her body is back in tip top form.



Though, in my opinion I doubt Steph would cheat on her she knows that no matter who you are human beings notice other attractive human beings.

Yeah but she has personal trainers and chefs

 

[sayyestothis]

Why would u cheat on your wife just because you make more money?

Why would you cheat on your wife at all..

These convos are stupid. Be loyal and move on.

 

[Consigliere]

With great power comes great responsibility.

Or just because you can exploit your power dynamic doesn’t mean you should.

A big part of manhood IMO is learning not to INTENTIONALLY hurt others due to your size, strength, lack of emotions, or own personal trauma. When you chose to destroy it should be as purposeful as your choice to build.

 

[Lamar Givens]

Most people aren't built for monogamy, that includes men and women.

Women want a man that's physically attractive, with a good job, charisma, and personality, but the problem is they are going to be competing with other women for that same type of man. Most men with options are not going to have eyes just for you, and if there are any type of problems in the relationship that behavior is generally magnified.

Most women think they understand the psychology behind a man's actions; however, most really don't.

Most men do not have the discipline to consistently turn down the advances of women they are physically attracted to. For a lot of women the act of sex is emotional, affectionate, and part of a deeper connection. Obviously, women are not a monolith, but the aforementioned is the case many women. For men, sex is is just a physical fulfillment of an urge no different than eating a meal you've been craving or going to to the bathroom. It's just a means to an end of fullfilling a need or want and it speaks more to a man's level of discipline than anything.

Men don't think like women and the motivations for certain behavior is not the same. I believe that has a lot to do with hormones and physiology.

I'm not going to say all men cheat, but I would venture to say 70-80 percent or men have cheated, are cheating, or will cheat at some point. I'm not condoning it, but I don't necessarily think it's the end of the world either. I think communication is key and working at your relationship daily is very important.

A lot of people invite this type of behavior into their relationship through their actions. Obviously, no one puts a gun to your head and makes you cheat it's a decision guided by discipline or lack thereof, but a lot of men and women both invite that drama in by not being realistic in their expectations and upfront with their partner.

You call it having discipline but in reality it’s called “lust of the flesh.”

Men and women both struggle with lust, especially those with high libidos.

Also, this entire argument about men not being able to control themselves because of the need to spread their seed is also a false narrative.

No one needs sex to survive unlike our need for oxygen, water, and food.

Just call it what it is.

I’m a lustful person who will connive, manipulate, take advantage, mislead, etc in order to bust a nut by any means necessary, no matter whose life I may destroy in the process even if it’s my own.

 

[Scott Larock]

...does that give you the green light to cheat? Saw this KS video and he tells the woman that since she has a HV man that he's entitled to cheat and she should get over it. Thoughts?

I don't think so but then again most people will put money first over the rest so for those folks it will be hard to rationalize with them.

 

[Lamar Givens]

Yeah but she has personal trainers and chefs

Yea, Chef Curry!

 

[1LurkerChick9]

Exactly! Just look at most top tier athletes wives. Even after having a baby they get right back into tip top shape. I rarely see top athletes with wives who have let themselves go.

Look at Ayesha Curry. After having 3 babies her body is back in tip top form.



Though, in my opinion I doubt Steph would cheat on her she but she also knows that attractive women are going to come at her husband and she gives him no reason to find disgust in her body because she got comfortable and let herself go.

These athletes wives stay on code

If you have the resources to keep your wife in tip too shape, shouldn’t be a problem for her to stay on code

 

[Lamar Givens]

If you have the resources to keep your wife in tip too shape, shouldn’t be a problem for her to stay on code

We as black people have to stop with this resource non sense.

Weight is lost in the kitchen by eating healthy.

The same price of junk food can get you high quality healthy food if a person uses common sense.

Hell, a bundle of collard greens can be bought for less than $5 and they are packed with all types of healthy nutrients.

Prison inmates show us all the time that with a little ingenuity you can make and find a myriad of ways to work out for FREE!

Don’t want to hear the excuses!!!

What resources did Ayesha need to get up and take her azz out walking which costs nothing

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

If you have the resources to keep your wife in tip too shape, shouldn’t be a problem for her to stay on code

This is laziness. I been working out at home for the last month watching youtube videos and been getting in shape by being consistent and eating healthy. You're making excuses babe.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

This is indeed the case. But feelings get hurt when it’s done to them. Studies are already showing that increases in female income is also correlated to increase in infidelity levels. A lot of cheating isn’t just shallowly based on lust or opportunity.

There’s psychological reasons behind it too. It’s about power for a lot of people and validation. When you contribute more, you tend to take your partner for granted, pride sets in, you feel like you running shyt so you don’t have to stay faithful to somebody who is beneath you when something better comes by.

Both male and female nature can be used to justify promiscuity. Female hypergamy, male reproductive impetus...but like you said...self-control is where you draw the line, particularly if you trying to build something.

Its just as hard for women to tamp down on their desire to fukk the next best thing or not entertain attention from other desirable dudes, as it is for men to control themselves around new p*ssy.

So given this reality, either both need to be willing to put the work in or you don’t need to be in a relationship.

smh. Just now seeing this.

Wow. This is really what yall think.

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

Get your woman a Peleton bike for Christmas Let's keep it a buck, a lot of women are in their prime years (19-30) no kids and still fat. When you see an older woman who's clearly out of her prime in good shape, it makes a lot of younger lazy women look bad, really bad. I know a female who's in her mid 30s, (not born in American, from Frankfurt. German-Vietnamese chick) no kids who is in exceptional shape, I see a lot of younger dudes holler at her because she still got it. It's the mindset for me.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Now you are refusing to acknowledge what I'm saying. Like I said yall don't wanna know how men truly think if it goes against what you want to believe.

I hear you. But I think you are just posting things to be contrary.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I hear you. But I think you are just posting things to be contrary.

Nope. I'm posting what I know to be true.

 

[TNC]

Sir he told her to create an arrangement so that he can continue to step out on her. What are you talking about?

It's sad that as men you guys have to be graded on a morality curve.



As if having a title from an immoral liar is better than happiness and piece of mind.
He told her to accept immoral behavior because he said sorry.

For all ya'll know he could fukking a dude or her best friend. Without know the full extent of the situation he has no business telling to get over it.

Ma'am, what he said was a suggestion of what she COULD do, based on the information she gave him. If you noticed, his conclusions and responses evolved as she gave more information towards the situation and insight to who she was as a person.

And just so you know, I'm not seeking to fight with you, but your responses really seem to show that you didn't fully understand what KS was saying. I'm attempting to help clarify....


Most men are as faithful as their options, its unpleasant to hear but its the truth. There are outliers but for the most part, that should be a reality everyone should accept. Part of being a wife is making sure you remain the best option for the man so he doesn't have to give any outside women his attention. And if you want a better than average man, then you better believe other women will want that too AND will seek their target.

Look, marriage and relationships can be and usually are HARD and take a lot of work. Cheating is bad, but its far from the worst thing that could happen and if he messed up one time... is that not forgivable? If he was out here knocking down everything, then yes that would show he doesn't really respect her, but one time? Your vows should be stronger than that and if they aren't, then ya'll weren't fit for marriage in the first place.