As screwed up as our education system is, I don’t blame you for having skepticism.
But I think the lack of focus on social skills and character building is part of the reason why our schools suck. The curriculum has been stripped of any meaningful instruction or authentic learning experiences and replaced with kill and drill worksheets and testing to line the pockets of big businesses.
In the past, a lot of character lessons were embedded in our education. Literature and books studies were linked to moral issues, personality traits, decision making. We had character 101 classes and all of that was related to sex education, making good choices, how to interact with peers, the opposite sex, peer mediation. Our guidance counselors would do monthly lessons on being respectful to one another in facilitating relationships, understanding compromise and integrity in dealing with others. But a lot of those lessons were funded by grant based programs to facilitate socio-emotional learning. Now they don’t touch on ANY of that in schools at a time when kids are the MOST vulnerable in the digital age and decreased interaction with parents, and support systems.
These problems won’t go away because they are linked to larger social issues. When you have large numbers of unhappy youth, it doesn’t bode well for society because the infrastructures we take for granted are supported low-key by those individuals...
Or maybe I’m making too big of a deal out of this.
Yeah, the social anxieties these types experience transcend body types, although taking care of yourself can definitely help. Regardless, I’ve known dudes who get in shape and get money and STILL can’t make a meaningful connection with a female. In fact, they will get angry if a chick ends of liking a dad bod dude over him.
There’s some illusive quality they keep missing about their personality that makes others uncomfortable.
The videos about the friends of incels breaking down their problems were most insightful about some of these issues.
One guy said his friend looked fine and was actually a cool dude, but he would constantly be a yes man to girls hoping that doing things would translate to attraction. Then he’d get angry if it didn’t work.
One guy said he considered women to be slot machines and if he put enough nice tokens into them, he should get a prize. One femcel chick mentioned having similar perspectives.
I think they are illuminating some fundamental misunderstandings about human interaction.
Yeah I think there are things people can do to compensate for looks within reason. I also think this culture of judging people numerically based solely on looks compounds a lot of social anxieties and creates many of these issues. Because there are so many unquantifiable aspects to attraction that get obscured by trying to distill it down to a 1-10 scale. You miss a lot of people’s appeal by not being willing to see how they are in their own zones.
Could you explain a bit more?
Yeah, I used to take a couple of classes that were crosslisted with economics and sociology. It was fascinating for them to breakdown the idea that we have to constantly convince losers to buy into the system so those at the top can maintain their quality of life. There’s more but I don’t remember a lot of it. Has a lotta implications for society which is why I think this is important.
Very cool! From a behavioral analyst perspective, I’ve seen social skills training and applied behavior analysis work WONDERS in the lives of children and adults with socio-emotional, behavioral and communicative deficits. In absence of a societal emphasis on this type of training we see more and more in need of it.
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