Is going through a woman's social media a requirement when vetting?

ApolloStark

All Star
Joined
Aug 14, 2012
Messages
2,114
Reputation
275
Daps
8,703
Reppin
NULL
@Eric Brooks is giving y’all so much free game he should be charging you for.

I’m just glad I hung up my jersey. :hubie:

Word, nikkas dropping gems in this thread

Ain't shyt I ain't already know, but nice to hear it validated

Interesting though if you browse the "does a girl's bodycount matter?" threads nikkas go out their way to suggest it doesn't/leave that topic alone. Yet the vast majority here suggest going through their social media is necessary, when surely both avenues are confirming essentially the same thing
 

Jazzy B.

Superstar
Joined
Aug 8, 2013
Messages
17,147
Reputation
2,871
Daps
62,091
Women play characters on social media especially Twitter.

A decent looking woman will also have far more male followers than females followers (if you think otherwise you’re delusional)

The only thing you should look out for is anything that crosses the line such as say anti black or anti black male language.

The rest shouldn’t bother you until you’re in an actual relationship. Once you are you can establish the boundaries at the start. Then you should be going through her phone anyway.
 

Uachet

Superstar
Supporter
Joined
May 25, 2022
Messages
6,675
Reputation
6,003
Daps
39,549
Reppin
Black Self-Sufficiency
@Reality already made a solid post on this, so I will just join in and say:

friday-ice-cube.gif
 

Manolo

Superstar
Joined
Mar 10, 2017
Messages
2,163
Reputation
1,121
Daps
12,795
Reppin
Brooklyn
A girl that has like 1200 followers while following 300 people is definitely entertaining a lot of men, or at least marketing herself to a lot of men at the same time. I don't play with that if I'm looking to date a woman seriously.
I actually think this about girls who follow too many people and not too few. Like whenever I see a girl following 1,000-2,000 people I assume she’s entertaining many people. But a smaller following count makes me thinks she’s more selective

What about following 300 people vs 1200 followers makes you think she’s entertaining a lot of men? I don’t disagree but can you elaborate?
 

Ezekiel 25:17

Veteran
Joined
Jul 17, 2018
Messages
35,576
Reputation
2,510
Daps
127,203
@Zoe
Ahh, but if you’ve asked for her IG you’ve already put yourself in the place of a fan :ufdup:

Which is exactly why I don’t ask. I’ve literally told chicks I don’t want their IG. Bc 99% of her interactions on IG are thirsty nggas gassin her head up. By becoming IG friend you are signaling you’re part of the circus

To keep it a stack y’all sound like you’re a) insecure, and/or b) making the cardinal mistake of believing a bytch hype. Talkin about scouring hundreds if not thousands of followers, lookin at the dudes and girls. :heh: You shouldn’t need to see her Ig. Interact with her and you’ll find out everything you need to.

Also somethin y’all ain’t mentioned….social media has changed the game. Follower count is damn near like salary to them. A bytch will act funny and think she got more pull than she really do just based on you havin a light follower account. Again, don’t enter the circus


Damn this makes a lot of sense. :ohhh: So if she don't give the number it's best to keep it moving?

But what about dudes who got a poppin IG profile?
 

Sleepy Floyd

Superstar
Joined
May 25, 2022
Messages
6,251
Reputation
1,807
Daps
25,884
Reppin
E.P.A., California
Fellas, always vet these women when you can via social media

This chick at my job been flirting with me and saying I would be a good boyfriend for her and shyt...little does she know I found her socials...she got a whole OnlyFans. And on her Snapchat story dudes are asking her "when you take your break? Can you give me head like last time?" "Hey I'm on break can you give me head again"

:deadrose:

No wonder I never see this bytch during break

I didn't tell her what I found, I just declined

I'm not saying y'all need to stalk a woman's social media, but the things she posts tells you exactly who she is. Especially if she's reposting TikToks or short videos about relationships and the videos be about toxic shyt like sleeping around until they're given a title in relationship

These females be telling you they're for the streets without even realizing it.

If she's a narcissist her social media will make it very clear as well.

Also if you've been dating her she might start posting subliminal messages directed at you.

My FWB is always posting on her socials that she has a hard time finding a man that's at as high a level as her, that men are intimidated by her, and she reposted a vid that said if a man is tired of a woman acting single, then he needs to put a ring on it
:mjlol:

The whole reason I put her in the "sex only" zone is because it's clear as day that she's not relationship material.

EDIT: i cut her off

She just reposted a TikTok to her page talking about how a strong, independent woman needs an alpha male, a real man who doesn't want a submissive woman.

:mjlol:

Some dudes commented on her shyt saying stuff about there's nothing they like more than having a submissive woman. She replied, "the opposite of me 😉"

And yet she complains about being single. Every day she posts more and more absurd videos and statuses to her socials



Also look at her friends list/followers.

One chick that I bushed had multiple Facebook accounts each with over 4,000 friends, all dudes. Massive attention whore
 

High Art

👑King of Africa👑
Supporter
Joined
Mar 11, 2022
Messages
8,371
Reputation
4,368
Daps
44,791
Reppin
Myself and my own.
There's some gems in this thread. I'll add that there should be a strong measure of consistency between how she presents herself and what she posts online or how she comes across. Inconsistencies indicate she is playing a character somewhere or in all places. Regardless of what, if she is playing a character, that is a red flag period.
 

Braman

Veteran
Bushed
Joined
Mar 11, 2022
Messages
15,972
Reputation
3,738
Daps
63,656
Damn this makes a lot of sense. :ohhh: So if she don't give the number it's best to keep it moving?

But what about dudes who got a poppin IG profile?

Depends. If she insists on not giving her number and wants to stay on the app until y’all meet, understandable. Women do have a legit concern for giving their number.

But if she doesn’t want to give the number and insists on IG, red flag

But typically women don’t even offer the IG. The onus will be on you to not even ask for it
 
Joined
Mar 11, 2022
Messages
631
Reputation
61
Daps
2,176
I also have a burner seeking arrangements account to scout them too. I've matched with multiple women that had accounts on there. Instant bushes.
Smart man!!! A lot of brothas don't want to believe how much trickin black women do on these sugar baby sites.. I honestly believe the whole sugar baby/prostitution culture is why a lot of black women's std rates have gone up.. But if you let black women tell it, there's a secret league of down low black males burning every body lol.
 
Top