So, in that man's logic if his daughter is off work at 1am but one night she gets out early, tries to call him and waits outside and gets kidnapped and raped, is it his fault for not picking up his phone and being there on time? Is it her fault not staying inside the store? Are they to blame for the violent act committed against her?
His reasoning smells of some type of women-blaming and agenda bias. It's a little difficult to read him. Yes, you can and should take actions to protect yourself. But even if you are vulnerable, someone else is making the choice to hurt you in some way, despite your actions. You did not make that choice to get kidnapped, raped, mugged or whatever. The perpetrator did. If you are doped up on xanax and alcohol and wandering down a strange alley, you did not force yourself into a stranger's trunk. Someone made the choice to put you there.