I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships

BaldingSoHard

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Imma call it down the line OP sounding like a woman, in that he wants it both ways, just break up with her and keep FWB, OP is one of those types that's meant to die alone, as @MajesticLion said OP has sociopathic tendencies and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't waste the time of others. @BaldingSoHard talking about she knew I didn't want a relationship and moved anyway. ALLLLLLL WOMEN do that you tell them what you want and they essentially think it's up for negotiation, so they capitulate short term while trying to wear on you long term so you give in. That's why you're supposed to deny the opportunity in the first damn place by either stopping seeing them or telling flat out you'll never be more than what you are. I've seen this movie a million times and it has two endings.

Either you capitulate marry her she eventually feels neglect and eventual resentment and divorces you with or without kids

OR

You break up with and she tells everybody who'll listen that you used/manipulated her

Take the second option, you didn't manipulate/use her but you did go full obtuse, because at 40 I'd expect a breh to know how women work more or less

Gotta shyt or get off the can OP
:francis:

Good shyt. I definitely have sociopathic tendencies, as made clear in this thread.

You right.
 

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To be clear, she doesn't need "fixing", and I'm not gonna tolerate anybody in this thread trying to shyt on her.

What I meant was that when I came into her life I made everything better because I'm carefree, smart, handsome, I have a little money which gives her room to be flexible with what projects she takes on in her business, our body PH is aligned so she never has vagina problems (she tells me this is rare), I have no kids or ex-wives, and I cook all the meals.

So she went from living the life of an average New Yorker (waking up at 4 am in a room the size of a closet to drive to the subway, then walking 6 blocks in the snow to get to a job she hates, etc...) to running her own business from my Scottsdale home that we designed together and I'm paying for, etc....

Basically, she's going through "Be careful what you wish for because if you get it then there won't be anything left to wish for". It is the epitome of first world problems, but there it is.

So when I say all her happiness comes from me, it's because my (our) lifestyle is the lifestyle that women dream about, not because she sits around the house waiting for me to entertain her.

I just wish we didn't live together... :(


My comment wasn't shytting on her. If someones happiness revolves around their significant other that's not healthy. What you just described is a lifestyle change not a codependency type of situation as previously stated.
 

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My comment wasn't shytting on her. If someones happiness revolves around their significant other that's a not healthy. What you just described is a lifestyle change not a codependency type of situation as previously stated.

Fair enough.
 

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Good shyt. I definitely have sociopathic tendencies, as made clear in this thread.

You right.

I can relate because I do as well, but I simply avoid/isolate my self from people I don't care about from jump (most people) to avoid them claiming I manipulated them or used them. I'm not trying to be everyone or anyone's friend. If people are like minded great we can do something but if not I'm not trying to compromise with like 95+% of people on anything of significance. Set boundaries early, enforce them, and when they're violated don't argue or reprimand, just get ghost

:francis::francis::francis:
 

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Having someone rely on you for their happiness fukking sucks
That's the problem right there
A lot of females so fukked up mentally and emotionally
They NEVER been happy
Don't know how to make themselves happy
Don't even know what will make them happy
Yet expect a man to be the sole provider of her happiness

And not only that

They want YOUR happiness to only come from them
And hate to see u happy when it doesn't involve them :mjlol:
 

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As an introvert who likes personal space, peace and quiet, I'd suggest it as a de-stresser for both of us. I'm all for people in relationships still having "me time" and doing things by themselves. People don't know how to be in a relationship yet maintain their own identities.

I dated someone who didn't understand this and it was exhausting to always have to be around him. I'm content with entertaining myself without bothering others, he couldn't do/understand that. I felt confined and had to let him go. My peace was worth more to me than having a man but being unhappy.

I don't do clingy/needy people. I'm not your mama or your therapist. Work out your issues then talk to me.
You took the words outta my mouth

this is why i tell my lady to find a hobby. Something that occupies her time and works her creativeness so she wont be all under me .
 

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Exactly. This breh gets it. My girl is a gem. She's low key and not annoying, but last night just watching her put dressing on her salad had me wanting to strangle her. That's how I know this is an irrational mental thing on my part.

I need a fukking day off.
Shorty was eating her salad, looking at breh like :takedat::noah::queen:

Meanwhile breh was fantasizing about
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:mjlol:

No, but you gotta end this relationship. Live the single life and just smash broads, fukk what society thinks. :yeshrug:

If a woman uprooted her entire life to live with you she is expecting marriage, if you didnt want that, this relationship should've ended years ago.
 
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