Just lost my dad to lung cancer…how do you deal with losing a parent?

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Sorry for your loss fam. R.I.P. to your pop dukes. This shyt is hard and life will never be the same. Just be strong.

I lost mine the day before father's day this year and shyt still got me fukked up. shyt was soooo unexpected cuz it happened at a time I was already going through a lot of difficult shyt. My pops was my best friend and my real life hero. We did damn near everything together.

As for coping. I cry everyday and was doing counseling, but that hasn't been helpful at all and it stopped this week.
Imma keep you in my prayers breh. Keep ya head up this shyt is hard as hell, but I know we’ll all will be good in the end.
 

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Sorry for your loss. The pain never goes away, in my experience. I found talking about them, with anyone, is the only thing that dulled it the first few years. After that, it's just kind of a dull pain that always lives in the background and will get sharp sometimes. One of those things you have to make a conscious decision to be stronger than, or it'll just eat you up.

I lost my Mom 14 years ago and today my kids were sending a Thanksgiving video to my father in law...and my initial thought was to send one to my Mom too. shyt stung. Things like that will always happen.

Again, deeply sorry for your loss. shyt sucks, for real. Only advice I can give is to keep their memory and their story alive.
 

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This is the worst feeling I have ever felt. My pops taught me everything on how to be man and how to do right. I was by his side all the time nikka was my best friend…how do you cope with this shyt ???
I'm truly sorry for your loss, and I pray for your strength and comfort. You and your family have my condolences.
 
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I lost my granddad and my great grandmother within the space of a couple months back in 2016. I was very close to the both of them and they were in their 90s and definitely weren't cheated of time on this earth, but it still left an emptiness in my soul that has yet to be filled. But I'd rather feel that feeling of loss than not feel anything at all. It's kinda like that saying, is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all?

Man, the loss is a part of the human condition. We're supposed to feel it. It makes us who we are, who we need to be. OP, your father imparted himself to you and you will always have that. Always. He's physically gone but he will be with you forever.
 

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i dapped the post i didnt click the laughing option...i dont know why that came up
calm down
Idk ur posting habits, but if that is the case i apologize for jumping to conclusions. With this dap menu i can see how that could happen.

My bad man. I thought u was a cac cacking. ill go edit my post, have this rep as a token of contrition. Sorry.
 

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its cool....im not heartless and definitely not a cac
Yeah i jumped the gun. My bad. Sadly i have seen this type of scumbag shyt genuinely and unrepentantly occur more than once. I can tell u are being real because the actual scumbags only double down and revel in their scumbaggery.

Sorry man. And i apologize to OP to.
 

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My MIL has stage 4 lung cancer and some other shyt too. It moved into her bones and back. Crazy shyt. She’ll probably be gone next year if she makes it through this year.

I don’t know how my wife will take it. fukk cancer, man. My deepest condolences to you OP.
 

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This is the worst feeling I have ever felt. My pops taught me everything on how to be man and how to do right. I was by his side all the time nikka was my best friend…how do you cope with this shyt ???
I lost my mom to lung cancer in 2016. I lost my dad in 2018 while I was deployed overseas. Some days it's like I just lost them and it's been six years for mom and four for dad. As a matter of fact 18 Nov 2018 is when I lost my dad.

I said all that to give credibility to what I am about to tell you. Everyone grieves differently. If you run you will only cry tired.

Don't run from it, run to it. For a long time I did not accept or embrace the hurt I had from losing my parents. It only made the process longer.

Embrace the memories and allow yourself to grieve. Grieve to yourself but also find someone that you can talk to. I don't know you but if you need someone to talk to PM me.
 

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I lost my mom to lung cancer in 2016. I lost my dad in 2018 while I was deployed overseas. Some days it's like I just lost them and it's been six years for mom and four for dad. As a matter of fact 18 Nov 2018 is when I lost my dad.

I said all that to give credibility to what I am about to tell you. Everyone grieves differently. If you run you will only cry tired.

Don't run from it, run to it. For a long time I did not accept or embrace the hurt I had from losing my parents. It only made the process longer.

Embrace the memories and allow yourself to grieve. Grieve to yourself but also find someone that you can talk to. I don't know you but if you need someone to talk to PM me.
Much love bro I appreciate that. It’s nice to see that we can all come in here and share how to deal with the pain. Just seeing all the fellow brehs posting in here has helped a lot.
 
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