Everyone grieves different. There's no blueprint. My mom passed roughly 15 years ago. I wasn't a blubbering baby about it, I had to cinch up and keep it together and be strong. My pops was there, my brothers, sister, extended family....
It did hit me at different times. Over years. Like I'd hear a song, and be brought to tears. Or just have thoughts of missing her and be sad. I had a few dreams where she was there and I'd wake up crying. It was probably about 6-7 years after where I had a dream. My mom was sitting in a chair and I was asleep and in the dream I woke up and looked at her but because she was sitting in a chair I was able to acknowledge I was dreaming (in my dream) and of course she spoke to me, but I was like "this is a dream, you're not here
" and she was like "I am here, I'm watching you." And I was like "
if you're real, then tell me something only you would know..."I won't tell you what she told me, but it truly was something only she'd know, and it was deep, like not a favorite memory that I shared which would be at the forefront if my mind..probably something I wouldn't have even been able to tell if I wrote an entire book of my experiences with her."
I don't know if y'all have kids, but if you do and you ask them something like "what's was your favorite part of going to the zoo today (and you went with them)" you know the entire experience but it's random what they tell you and your like
.Anyway, I was shocked in my dream, and she told me she was there...she is there. I believed it, and I believe it. She said of other stuff but anyway. I woke up, crying...but felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me, and I haven't felt lonely ever since. I miss her but there's no pain associated with it. Haven't cried since.
I'd say it gets better, because imo it does. But everyone is different. My lady lost her dad when she was 12, it's been over 2 decades and she still cries over/about him probably 4-6 times a week. She's a very emotional person.
