Keep It Real: Have any of you ever practiced COLORISM?

[Houston911]

@Matt504 to be fair, a lot of coli bruhs skipping black women all together and going straight to white women

 

[JasoRockStar]

You'd be hard-pressed to find any brothers who will come in here and openly admit to this just like you would struggle to find dark skin women who DON'T have a story where they've been mistreated because of the color of their skin.

OR maybe they just have a different experience from you. Have you considered that?

 

[Matt504]

Why put this on the shoulders of black men when most of the world is into skin color. That’s what racism is prejudice towards someone’s skin color.

And here’s another thing; what if a man just prefers lighter skin women point blank. Why must he hide it appease Women he’s not even into?

No one is putting this on the shoulders of Black men nor is anyone suggesting that women can't also practice colorism. Threads like this can be more productive without the defensive reflexes.

 

[Max Power]

Lol I knew I would get some flack for this. Whenever I heard dark skin women's experience with colorism I would pretend not to hear it either. But its real.
However, as I've stated in the og post a lot black women practice colorism too.

Most of them are lying.

Women are extremely talented at that.

A woman will get rejected for being fat and belligerent and think it's due to her melanin content.

 

[High Art]

Of course women and girls practice this colorism thing. When I was growing up you should have seen how women react to a light skin straight or curly haired guy with green eyes.

And let’s not talk about the girls that went out purposely to get pregnant by like Light skin guys with good hair.

Of course I’m a grown man now and I understand it is what it is. You’re not going to see me complaining about it for the next 50 years.

Right? It's one of those things I accepted and kept it moving.

 

[The Gentleman]

The world has a bias towards lighter skin. And that rings true amongst all races of people. You go to any corner of the globe and you'll see the darkest people are usually the most mistreated and economically disadvantaged. And we as black people who're in the diaspora have been completely indoctrinated to have a preference for lighter skin. It should really be no surprise to see dark skin people with self esteeem issues.

This is why the blame should not fall on the shoulders of black men. In most cases of white people created these constructs.

 

[TreySav]

Conversations on colorism always turn into a pointless race to the bottom between Black men and Black women. These types of conversation should focus more on the way the white power structure pushes for the standardization of white passing peoples on tv, movies, social media, politics, magazines, and other forms of media


You deal with colorism by confronting the white supremacist infrastructure behind it

 

[The Gentleman]

Right? It's one of those things I accepted and kept it moving.

There’s always somebody that likes you out here. Deal with them and keep it pushing.

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

This question is for the dudes and the ladies.

Have you ever discriminated against the opposite sex because wthey were too dark or light?

I can't recall one moment in my life where I've passed a women up because of her complexion. Personally I'm a dark skin breh and have gotten play from all types of women. However the ones that did pass me up due to my complexion were usually other dark skin women or brown skin women. And they were very explicit about it.

From what I've seen a lot black men are colorstruck. I use to deny that was the case but its true. I've spoken to a lot of ds women and they all have had experiences where black men have derogatory comments about their complexion. Even more concerning is the amount of black male celebrities who've publicly humiliated ds women for no reason. Its sickening to me and can kind of understand why so many ds women in particular are swirlers. We have to do better. I can't think of a more ignorant reason not to date someone.

Nope.

Dark skinned sistas and pale redhead/blonde white women liked me the best when I was single, so that's who I stuck with.

Brown skinned women (light skinned sistas, Latinas etc) weren't checking for me and I wasn't really checking for them so....

Don't have anything against non-white lighter skinned broads. Lots of good looking ones but never met one where our personalities meshed well. Hard to explain tbh.

 

[Matt504]

OR maybe they just have a different experience from you. Have you considered that?

Of course I have, what I'm suggesting is the vast majority of men will say they haven't practiced colorism when the vast majority of dark skin women would say they have experienced this. What I'm predicting an extreme incongruence that can't be explained away with "maybe 0% of the people responding have ever practiced colorism"

 

[The Gentleman]

Nope.

Dark skinned sistas and pale redhead/blonde white women liked me the best when I was single, so that's who I stuck with.

Brown skinned women (light skinned sistas, Latinas etc) weren't checking for me and I wasn't really checking for them so....

Don't have anything against non-white lighter skinned broads. Lots of good looking ones but never met one where our personalities meshed well. Hard to explain tbh.

I tell a lot of Nigggas here that they will have a lot more success with white women than they will with Latina or even some light brights. They not trying to hear it though.

 

[Hazel Brown]

It’s real.

 

[The Gentleman]

Of course I have, what I'm suggesting is the vast majority of men will say they haven't practiced colorism when the vast majority of dark skin women would say they have experienced this. What I'm predicting an extreme incongruence that can't be explained away with "maybe 0% of the people responding have ever practiced colorism"

It’s real.

And so is death.

 

[Hazel Brown]

And so is death.

Check my update thank you.

 

[Lonj]

Conversations on colorism always turn into a pointless race to the bottom between Black men and Black women. These types of conversation should focus more on the way the white power structure pushes for the standardization of white passing peoples on tv, movies, social media, politics, magazines, and other forms of media


You deal with colorism by confronting the white supremacist infrastructure behind it

Exactly. All this "black men do this, black women do that" is pointless wheelspinning. I guess it gets the puters putin though.