Keep It Real: Have any of you ever practiced COLORISM?

[The Gentleman]

No it isn't lol. Granted I'm the product of one but seeing a light skinned couple is like seeing Bigfoot where I'm at.

There are many lightskinned couples.

 

[The Gentleman]

This no diff from manosphere dudes whining about women liking thugs

Like if a woman like thugs and u not one she doing u a favor


Just like if a colorist dude only like light women he doing her a favor

Why are u so obsessed with making a colorist dude like darkskinned women?


Just like dudes be obsessed with making women who like thugs love squares

It makes no sense.


There plenty of men who like dark women

And the over whelming number of dark women get attention from men when they with women of all complexions



This whole complaint is from dark skin women who wasn't chosen who want to force black men to only date them.


They never cared if white Hispanic or Asian dudes date light or dark women

But when black men have choice the sky is falling.


Colorism is white supremacy based practice on black people

U got to talk about all colorism not just when it comes to dating to truly deal with the problem.



These women need to understand there will always be men who desire light skin and Hispanic women etc

But that don't stop dark skin women from getting theres

I think you are one of the few that get the point.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

It is not ignorant. You don’t have a choice. You cannot force people to like you or to find you attractive. This is coming from a male who is very dark skin. I’ve heard it all and sometimes I still do.

I definitely understand that people have to find a way to move beyond trauma. But at the same time, nobody should be exhausted or irritated by people calling out the bullshyt.
Because it gives others courage to share and understand these dynamics. Anybody tired of the conversation should take a break from it. Otherwise, nobody is gonna just shut up and grin and bear it in the face of sheer ignorance.
I know dudes who had their eyes opened by some of the experiences they heard people describing. Can’t get em all, but a lot of people are becoming more aware that the shyt is embarrassing.

 

[Kenyan West]

Not exactly.

As a light skin breh, I prefer by far caramel to dark skin women. But I never went out of my way to speak negatively about light skins. I just don't prefer them. If me and a light skin chick clicked, then I'd mess with em no doubt.

Maybe that's colorism, maybe not.

 

[GilSho]

Nope, I'm light-skinned (I'm still a dark nikka) but I've always found beauty in all complexions. As a matter of fact, I've probably gravitated towards dark-skinned women the most. A thick, midnight toned woman is probably my ultimate weakness.

I also try to make it a concerted effort to specifically give dark skinned black women (non-sexually laced) compliments about their features eg skintone, hair, lips etc

There are a lot of our women out there have never been told before they're beautiful or pretty by a man before.

 

[TripleAgent]

No. Black is beautiful.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Why do people lie, get defensive, deflect about this issue? We have ignorance in our community as it pertains to skin tone.

Get over it. And yes white supremacist media has brainwashed a lot of blacks, especially black men b/c color connotations are engendered.
It only impacts black women more b/c beauty is such a huge part of female identity based on the fukked up world we live in. Thus dark skin gets added to the list of reasons why people call black women masculine. Like the surrogate internet daddy Heaven Scamuels did.

Telling people they just ugly or need to get over it is stupid, when we also need to tell the ignorant self-hating fukks that they are mentally screwed too.
But really a lot of this is about changing culture and society and we aren’t the only community dealing with this.

U cant make someone who not attracted to u become attracted to u

Fact is u have to go find people who like u and there's plenty

This is a issue for women who have a ego and feel they owed something for existing


U got to compete like every one else


Some will like u some won't


But u shouldn't want a person who doesn't like dark women and only dates light


They letting u Kno what it is

Don't always mean they a koon tho

Lightskin women are black too

 

[The Gentleman]

I definitely understand that people have to find a way to move beyond trauma. But at the same time, nobody should be exhausted or irritated by people calling out the bullshyt.
Because it gives others courage to share and understand these dynamics. Anybody tired of the conversation should take a break from it. Otherwise, nobody is gonna just shut up and grin and bear it in the face of sheer ignorance.
I know dudes who had their eyes opened by some of the experiences they heard people describing. Can’t get em all, but a lot of people are becoming more aware that the shyt is embarrassing.

So by Constant complaining and accusations you’re going to force Black men who aren’t into dark skin women into dating them? What about women who are not attracted to black men? You are going to force them date black men now?

 

[Estarossa]

I used to refuse to take lightskin women seriously… now I’m in a relationship with one with the goal of marriage.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So by Constant complaining and accusations you’re going to force Black men who aren’t into dark skin women into dating them? What about women who are not attracted to black men? You are going to force them date black men now?

Why are people sharing experiences cast with such a defensive light? If what is said has no effect, who cares? At least we get to acknowledge the wrongness of the phenomenon. 1 + 1=2 will never be unnecessary to hear.
Besides which, it’s cathartic for those affected by it. That’s all. And sharing starts small cultural shifts which grow with each generation. These changes start subtly but are very powerful.

 

[Hazel Brown]

Not exactly.

As a light skin breh, I prefer by far caramel to dark skin women. But I never went out of my way to speak negatively about light skins. I just don't prefer them. If me and a light skin chick clicked, then I'd mess with em no doubt.

Maybe that's colorism, maybe not.

Is caramel not light skinned?

 

[Unolove]

only gf ive ever had was light skin

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

U cant make someone who not attracted to u become attracted to u

Fact is u have to go find people who like u and there's plenty

This is a issue for women who have a ego and feel they owed something for existing


U got to compete like every one else


Some will like u some won't


But u shouldn't want a person who doesn't like dark women and only dates light


They letting u Kno what it is

Don't always mean they a koon tho

Lightskin women are black too

No you can’t. But you can observe and analyze a phenomenon and it’s origins to help those impacted by the ignorance. And it’s good to dig deeply into the psychology of it. Many dark-skinned people have been made to feel like it’s something wrong with them. Like they just ugly.

NOPE. By establishing the psychology behind self-hate, we learn all kinds of interesting things that can help generations avoid these pitfalls in the future.

 

[The Gentleman]

Why are people sharing experiences cast with such a defensive light? If what is said has no effect, who cares? At least we get to acknowledge the wrongness of the phenomenon. 1 + 1=2 will never be unnecessary to hear.
Besides which, it’s cathartic for those affected by it. That’s all. And sharing starts small cultural shifts which grow with each generation. These changes start subtly but are very powerful.

That bullshyt. Nobody likes people who whine and complain all the time.

 

[The Gentleman]

No you can’t. But you can observe and analyze a phenomenon and it’s origins to help those impacted by the ignorance. And it’s good to dig deeply into the psychology of it. Many dark-skinned people have been made to feel like it’s something wrong with them. Like they just ugly.

NOPE. By establishing the psychology behind self-hate, we learn all kinds of interesting things that can help generations avoid these pitfalls in the future.

There’s nothing wrong with them except we live in a world where people generally don’t like dark skin.

It ain’t changing so you’re gonna have to deal with it. Your best bet is to be the flyest dark skin person you can be.