***Hypothetically Speaking***
We treat marriage like a consumer product and not a commitment, that's my issue with the long "exploratory" stages.
The fact of the matter, something can happened the day after her honeymoon that can "test" the state of the relationship. All that time seems to be about looking for a reason not to get married.
Marriage is too often about; I don't want this hardship in my life and it can be fixed by getting rid of this person. The main reason I'm #GMB.
At best, you're just trying to make sure the person you're with isn't a psycho, has medical issues, has severe money issues, etc. Then there's stuff like you're thoughts on sex, school, religion, politics, etc, etc. In between that you're meeting each other's family and social circle.
Not of that, IMO, should be taking years and years to deal with. It causes two problems;
- Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment and if you're of the mind divorce is the answer, then you may as well get married, then divorce rather than waste each other's time pump faking. Ya'll could've moved on to other people after 2 years.
- Time is very real. If your committing two years to multiple people for marriage, maybe that's fine when you're 22, 25, 28. But, as you get older, you're demands become more strict and you're less likely to make changes for that other party because you've built a life as you get closer to 30, then to your 40's. Most people aren't easy to change as they get older.
Again ***Hypothetically Speaking*** I don't look at time as an asset in terms of finding a wife, it's more time to fukk around and not be bout it.
We seem to be harsh on adults procrastinating on every thing, but, marriage. Y'all gonna be married for the nest 40 years, there's only so many things that you can try to get right before.
The reason I find it hard to argue against Kevin is; people start whole families with "strangers" aka have a kid, but, we've got such strict measures for marriage, that we have all these people with 8, 9, 10 year olds who've NEVER been married.