I been looking for this thread all morning.
I had an epiphany Sunday that I'm kinda difficult and mean to my BF for no reason..
Gonna try this out ...
Good luck

I had completely forgot I made this thread. lol
I been looking for this thread all morning.
I had an epiphany Sunday that I'm kinda difficult and mean to my BF for no reason..
Gonna try this out ...
To be honest, I'm not sure you're gonna change if he allowed the behavior up to this point.I been looking for this thread all morning.
I had an epiphany Sunday that I'm kinda difficult and mean to my BF for no reason..
Gonna try this out ...
Don't be negativeTo be honest, I'm not sure you're gonna change if he allowed the behavior up to this point.
You gonna have to meet a dude who checks you on Day 1 that makes you goand you'll have to still be open to change at that specific moment.
Your current dude already let you disrespect him and be mean, you ain't gonna stop now![]()
I call it how I see it.Don't be negative
Yep.To be honest, I'm not sure you're gonna change if he allowed the behavior up to this point.
You gonna have to meet a dude who checks you on Day 1 that makes you goand you'll have to still be open to change at that specific moment.
Your current dude already let you disrespect him and be mean, you ain't gonna stop now![]()
Are you a toxic person? It seems like you may have experienced a toxic relationship and been poisoned by it.Yep.
Lasted 3 days.![]()
So what's funny. Over the weekend I just got up and got a glass for a breh. Didn't even ask. I didn't realize what I was doing or why I was doing it. shyt is like second nature now. lol
Update
So I just went back and reread this thread. Wow this was a great thread with super interesting dialogue. I can't believe it's been 3 years since I made this thread. This is so dope. The push back I got in this thread is hilarious. Anyway...
I have been on the same road since I made this thread. The benefits have been substantial. Now it's second nature and carries over to all my relationships. I would say I am much more likeable in general. I have acquired probably triple the friends and associates I had when I made this thread. I have like 4 seperate groups of people I kick it with regularly. It's been great and my social skills are through the ruff. I can win over damn near anyone.
Mr. Beautiful faded into the background but popped back up a year late. Breh completely changed his game up and was trying the whole courtship routine. I wasn't really interested at that point and never linked back up with him.
Mr. 4 years is now Mr 7 or 8 years lol. Breh still wants to take me out. Again, never had any type of sexual interaction with him nor Mr. Beautiful. He's had a few girlfriends in this time but I guess they never work out idk. He recently had a female friend ask me why I don't like him. I'm like 'girl it's been almost 10 years. The any potential fire has died long ago.' She claims 'He doesn't know how.' Girl bye. I'll keep riding the wave until I get into a relationship or he finally decides to put his foot down and makes me tell him I'm not interested. lol
Been a few dudes/dates in between. Nothing to right home about but generally happy with how they turned out even though I wasn't interested.
Got a whole situation now that is working out pretty well for me. Maybe I'll share it one day. It's been a whole adventure and I know with absolute certainty that if I didn't switch up my style I wouldn't be benefiting. One day...maybe.
All in all my experiment was well worth it and I have adopted the practices to the point it's second nature. The results have been nothing but positive. As you all may known I haven't lost a bit of my personality. I'm still as 'Blackpearl-ish' as ever but I have molded my personality to be more advantages to me with men and women. And as I stated before, gained a lot more friends/associates in the mean time which is dope.
I haven't been taken advantage of in the least. There is one sutuation I wasn't sure about but it turned out to be the biggest W ever. Again, maybe I'll detail it one day. It's a whole saga. Outside of that, it has been straight positivity.
I have found that instead of trying to take advantage men seem so happy to find someone who is 'cooperative' that they are usually ready to lock it down fast in addition to being generous.
In conclusion, I am super glad I did it. I helped me socially in a million ways and I will continue doing it and continue to get better as time goes on.
Thanks for listening.
I might try this. I rarely interact with men like that. Of course I’ll say hello and have casual conversations with them but I don’t even know where to begin, really
Let me ask you this when it’s all’s said and done, do you think this experiment can work for someone looking for marriage?