Ladies: What do YOU do to KEEP a man once you have one?

[Ohnoits]

Most of the people posting in this thread don't sound like they've ever been in serious long term relationships with ADULTS.

 

[Schmoove]

The better question is what a man would do to keep me? I'll remain the catch I am. I'm the one choosing and should be treated accordingly.

 

[Zach Lowe]

The better question is what a man would do to keep me? I'll remain the catch I am. I'm the one choosing and should be treated accordingly.

 

[Yinny]

Typing from a phone sucks.

 

[SheWasFly]

If you think putting forth an effort in a relationship is a bad thing you've
got the idea of a relationship wrong.
This is exactly how people date for months to years and when it's all
over they don't know sh1t about each other, except for the traits that started to nag them near the end of their already doomed relationship.

Which is why I said this :




Well what else could it be ?
If you WANT someone around wouldn't you try to see what is causing them to drift away in the first place and correct things to keep them around ?
If you DON'T WANT someone around then why do anything beyond something casual or even make attempts at making the relationship "serious" ?

The little things in a genuine relationship isn't "going out of your way" unless of course it isn't really a relationship where the feelings are reciprocated, in that case the person is most likely doing something will go unappreciated.

A lot of people seem to avoid doing things for fear of losing out, as if they're putting to much effort into someone they genuinely feel for or they feel it's "wrong" and emasculates them in same way.


No one goes into a relationship knowing exactly what makes their partner happy and this is what I mean by effort, if a person goes into a relationship planning on doing the very least they can, chances are the relationship will reflect that and won't amount to much.

To Clarify :
No I don't mean going out of your way to please some total stranger (buying dinner,giving it up the first night, etc.)
No I don't mean doing anything and everything to keep around someone that clearly doesn't want to be around.
And No I don't mean doing things completely out of character or things you wouldn't be comfortable with just to keep someone.

There's a difference between doing the ridiculous and unreasonable things to save a failing relationship and doing the expected to keep a healthy relationship,healthy or doing things to make sure it starts off well.

Im not reading all of that but the expected? Lol. I'm 22, fukk I look like being a homemaker. I'm concentrating on myself and advancing in life, I need a man who's doing the same and not expecting me to do a damn thing for them.

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

@Sierra Mistnot looking for basically a mother who lets them smash

uhh we are though

 

[the bossman]

-Stay looking the same as when he met me, and continue to have the same personality that he fell in love with.

- Be open and responsive to his interest and likes

-Be there for him as a person to give advice or just a listening ear

-Strive to better myself so that I can become an even better girlfriend.

-Be his cheerleader in life, and push him to do better for himself.

There is much more to do to keep him happy, but that is all I have for now.

 

[ThaBoyBam]

From the beginning a guy will know who I am, I'm not gonna change because we're in a relationship. I don't feel I need to do a damn thing to keep a guy, being me is enough.

Love it when women talk tough. A nikka eat that puss from the back and dikk you down, you'll be making tacos too lol.

 

[SheWasFly]

Love it when women talk tough. A nikka eat that puss from the back and dikk you down, you'll be making tacos too lol.

Cooking isn't something extra, you need to eat to survive.

 

[HelgaPataki]

uhh we are though

You know damn well if your man left you'd be emotional as fukk talmbout "WHY HE DON'T WANT ME "

can't co-sign. last time i was dumped i took it like a champ. the most i did was laugh about it to some friends because the reason he dumped me was funny.

if ever i'm sad about a break up it isn't because the guy was some great catch that i'm mourning the loss of, but because i built him up to be some great catch that he wasn't so i was sad that this fictional person was now gone. i no longer feel sad and if i do it isn't enough to change my behavior. now if he wants to leave

 

[SouthernBelle]

Honestly, I do it by being the same person I was that initially attracted you. I don't do things in the beginning that I can't and wouldn't want to maintain indefinitely. A lot of people get relationships by pretending to be something they are not. I decided a long time ago that I'm not going to pretend to be a certain way just attract someone (because eventually who I truly am will show); therefore, I allow someone to like me for who I am in the very beginning and I don't have any issues. I've dated four guys in my adult life (4.5 year relationship, 1.5 year relationship, 1 year relationship, and one in progress/beginning stages), and they would all have similar (not exactly the same) descriptions for how I am in a relationship.

The longest one tried to do a romantic comedy move and profess his undying love for me so that I wouldn't move away for my phd program . The other two still want me back. The current one's good friend drunkenly professed (we were all partying for his bday) that I gave him faith that he could find someone because I make his friend so happy (I take that with a grain of salt though because it is his friend). In other words, I'm just me.

 

[ThaBoyBam]

Cooking isn't something extra, you need to eat to survive.

Too shay

 

[Pazzy]

it's NOT like women are the ones that are doing the pursuing. it's the other way around. they really don't have to do sh!t because they know that there's guys outthere live their lives to kiss their ass where they'll do anything.

 

[killacal]

it's NOT like women are the ones that are doing the pursuing. it's the other way around. they really don't have to do sh!t because they know that there's guys outthere live their lives to kiss their ass where they'll do anything.

Your a virgin why are you in a relationship thread :foh::foh::foh:

 

[Pazzy]

Your a virgin why are you in a relationship thread :foh::foh::foh:

what does sex have to do with this? shut your dumbass up.