Ladies: What do YOU do to KEEP a man once you have one?

[Rawtid]

-Stay looking the same as when he met me, and continue to have the same personality that he fell in love with.

- Be open and responsive to his interest and likes

-Be there for him as a person to give advice or just a listening ear

-Strive to better myself so that I can become an even better girlfriend.

-Be his cheerleader in life, and push him to do better for himself.

There is much more to do to keep him happy, but that is all I have for now.

This is a great list, but I guess my question is why wouldn't you do those things for anyone you care for? If you replace girlfriend with any close relationship (parent, child, nephew, etc), I would do those same things for them as well.

Those are just a given to me. Just because I don't put my man on a pedestal, doesn't mean I don't care about him.

 

[Romey Rome]

Most of them feel they are entitled and see no need to ever make improvements.

i hate them all. a vagina n a pretty face doesnt equal the effort a man puts in to be with her. i hope nothin good ever happens to ur kind in the future

 

[BruhMayne]

He gets more than some half ass p*ssy and a pack of noodles on the stove after a hard day at work thats for sure .

I question the type of women ya'll come into contact with at times...

Just read the posts from the majority of women in this very thread

I cant even it knock it though

 

[#1 pick]

This is a great list, but I guess my question is why wouldn't you do those things for anyone you care for? If you replace girlfriend with any close relationship (parent, child, nephew, etc), I would do those same things for them as well.

Those are just a given to me. Just because I don't put my man on a pedestal, doesn't mean I don't care about him.

Both men and women got to be responsive during sex or someone is eventually going to think it's wack.

 

[Rawtid]

Both men and women got to be responsive during sex or someone is eventually going to think it's wack.

Who was talking about sex? Did I miss something no one mentioned sex so what are you even talking about?

 

[#1 pick]

Who was talking about sex? Did I miss something no one mentioned sex so what are you even talking about?

I was talking about sex

Naw, I feel you though.

 

[Tommy Knocks]

I genuinely take an interest in stuff they like so we have stuff to talk about. A guy I liked was really into cars so I started going to car meets with him and I'd bake him car related treats but I was always open to learn more.

we have a winner here.

 

[Romey Rome]

not u @Sharp but to the type of women who think like that

 

[Tommy Knocks]

Too many women hustle backwards and don't even know it. They look at a relationship as what can you do for me and never learn what makes a dude tick. That's why most women have no idea how to get a man outside of looking good and showing that the p*ssy is available.

.

It's also why coo chicks are always taken. They're always around guys, so they know how to make men tick. They understand the male mind. Many women either don't take time to learn it, or ask other females or read books written by females to get their information.

 

[Binary]

we have a winner here.

Lol it's the nerd in me, I always want to learn more so why not? It's a win win for me, he's happy and I figure out how to change oil lool.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

The better question is what a man would do to keep me? I'll remain the catch I am. I'm the one choosing and should be treated accordingly.

nothing. if he wants to go he can leave

bytches in here straight lying. You know damn well if your man left you'd be emotional as fukk talmbout "WHY HE DON'T WANT ME "

 

[villain]

SheWasFly is somebody's alias

I never understood why people had a hard time "keeping" a spouse...

so how long you been with your man for?

 

[SheWasFly]

bytches in here straight lying. You know damn well if your man left you'd be emotional as fukk talmbout "WHY HE DON'T WANT ME "

 

[↓R↑LYB]

I've been on Twitter lately and I see a lot of "I know my worth" posts and "If you can't take me at my worse then you don't deserve me at my best" coming from women on my timeline.

One chick (a friend of mine) posted something about how she felt that she "deserved" an athlete, lawyer, or doctor with money.

-She's in her 30's.
-She's not in great shape and isn't particularly attractive.
-She's VERY conservative (a virgin), not very witty and most basic humor goes over her head. When she used to go out w/ me, my ex, and my boys... I'd throw out low-key jokes about how she was going to get smashed that night and EVERYONE would catch them except for her)

I replied back "What makes you so marketable?"

She asked me if I was taking a shot (which I denied), but she never answered with what her great man-keeping qualities were.

My ex just told me that another friend of hers is dating a cage fighter now and so she's starting to work out. Before, she was dating this obese guy. I knew him personally and dude was cool but he was REALLY He used to go as far as claiming that he didn't eat vegetables.

According to my ex, this chick gained a LOT of weight while dating this guy and apparently, she was much more attractive and in much better shape before that.

Not the first time I've heard this though. I have a lot of female friends who kind of just fall into a complacent lifestyle once they have a boyfriend. Once they're in a relationship, they kind of just...coast and when it's over, they don't snap back until the next relationship.

Anyway, for the ladies in the Coli with boyfriends or husbands, what would YOU say is the BLUEPRINT for keeping a man once you have one because I'm starting to believe that most chicks that complain about wanting a relationship have NO idea how to keep one once they have it.

...and for the guys, feel free to chime in with what you think it takes for a chick to keep you interested/invested in a relationship.

First off, for having birds on your timeline

But to answer your question she gotta stay in shape, not be on some BS, and show she's making an effort. I'm mad low maintenance though. I'm the type of nikka to drive myself to the hospital when I'm on my death bed before asking someone for help. As long as she provides peace and contentment in my life, I'm gucci

 

[SheWasFly]

SheWasFly is somebody's alias

She most certainly is not. Sorry.