"Light Girls" Documentary on OWN

[christinasade]

So you let whites dictate who you find attractive and then call it personal preference? Whites also say black men are inferior intellectualy do you subscribe to it too.

Exactly, black dudes LOWKEY….LOWKEY NOW, don't have a mind of their own.

White men said light skin/biracial was OK and y'all bought it

They said white girls were okay y'all bought it

They said REAL black women were ugly, y'all bought it

Now their saying Asian bitces are cool and y'all buying that too.

If white said that cardboard boxes were the standard of beauty, y'all would Be chasing cardboard p*ssy

Riiiight now.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

There are black men who bleach. I can see it now:
Dark skin men being teased for being too dark, getting a longer prison sentence, bleaching.
Light skin men being seen as soft and not manly enough or black enough.

 

[Yup]

What does that mean though? Im light skin and i love chocolate women but i have seen more light skin women that i'm attracted too. Sometimes its a numbers thing

That's not what I am talking about. It transcends that.. it's the value that people place towards certain people of certain complexions.

My mom is lighter she knows the deal...she was favored and coddled growing up because of her complexion...it has nothing to do with beauty but perceived value.

I have seem beautiful darskinned women hve huge complexes beside average lightskinned girls. The myth that only 'ugly' darskinned fo through colorism is just that...myth.

 

[iBrowse]

Who was that c00n talking about "if you look at trophies, trophies are light"

What :smuggyralph:

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

That's not what I am talking about. It transcends that..

Right but can you explain what you mean clearly or not. I am a black man, i can't help make changes if you're not clear about what you want us to do.

 

[AntiVenom]

Breh, Its only the women who are below average that complain about black men deserting them.

Which is why no one takes this shyt seriously.

Lol imagine how black women feel when they read this site?

Then stop reading it. No one has a gun to your head.

Thought Yall was strong and independent and don't need no man for nothing

Thats the narrative any other time. Notice how it switches up when its convenient? Weve had to listen to that independent shyt for decades...I say we hold them to it. fukk em.

But who sets the beauty standard that you see on tv, movies, commercials, magazines, newspapers. etc. for decades?

I can guarantee you that is not a black man.

Shhh, that would make them have to address their white male savior's institutions that dont include them. Like thatll ever happen!

We get blamed for eveyting even though we face the same color issues from our women.
The main difference is menn that cry about it are told to shut up.

They dont want to hear it. They'd have to share the victim spotlight with black men? Nahhhhh, theyll tell you to shut up right in this thread just not to acknowledge that....while demanding that black men come swoop in and make them feel better about their insecurities. This is another reason why I cant take these whiners seriously.

 

[mrken12]

See this is the type of dumb shyt I mean. How the fukk you equating colorism, which is a very real issue that stems from white supremacy, to things like that? Stop it.

The whole topic is bullshyt. You don't tackle white supremacy with a bullshyt documentary about dark skinned black people vs light skinned black people. People who actually have matured don't dwell on that so called "issue" of colorism anymore. And we know damn well that most of the complaints about light vs dark always center about dating and relationships.

 

[christinasade]

Unfortunately, they are the inertia in their own madness...even they themselves prefer to produce lighter children with less apparent "black features."

But the discussion aint supposed to go there

If your talking biracial kids, most of them have black fathers soooo...

 

[AntiVenom]

The problem is women are not taking any responebilty for thier role.

Agreed. If women are the one's constantly seeking external validation....then they are only the source of their own misery. They need to start looking to validate themselves internal because no one else is obligated to do this. So until it happens they'll continue to feel bad....and thats really their own issue. Because no one can save them from their own insecurities. I say they should get therapy if they feel this way.

Right but can you explain what you mean clearly or not. I am a black man, i can't help make changes if you're not clear about what you want us to do.

Youre supposed to fall on your own sword and obligate yourself to go out of their way to massage their egos and heal their personal insecurities.....for free. They want their personal selfesteem problem to be YOUR problem to solve.

You are not getting blamed ...you are expected to take accountability for your part in this mess.

If someone puts my hand in the fire one time am I going to continue to blame him/her when I actively put in the fire knowing that I am getting burnt?

Most of us have no part in this. Save it for those who are actually saying derogatory things towards dark skinned people. Yeah, hold them accountable but save your whining for them and leave the rest of us alone instead of blaming all black men for this nonsense.

 

[mrken12]

Colorism is not petty bs or else we wouldn't be talking about the unemployment rate of blacks vs non-blacks or the marriageability of women of certain complexions. These things have ramifications that extends and bars people from certain circles. This ish is deadly and the more people downplaying thr more this stuff creates animosity.
@Phoenix_Knightly23 even pointed out...darskinned wonen are shown single with kids in commercials while their lighter female counterparts are married. This ish is deliberate and toxic.

Just proved my point. This always goes back to dating and relationships. White supremacy still is going to shyt on light skinned black people at the end of the day.

 

[Yup]

You might not be guilty of colorism, and black men and people as a whole are not in control of media, however, there is a segment of black men who are extremely color struck. And men have a monopoly over women when it comes to that, y'all are in control of what's deemed attractive and what's not in your communities. So black men shouldn't feign ignorance when it comes to this shyt, they should do they part in eradicating colorism within our community.

So should black women. I don't tolerate black girls mocking darskinned on black boys neither it just so happens black women are affected disportionately.

 

[filial_piety]

Right but can you explain what you mean clearly or not. I am a black man, i can't help make changes if you're not clear about what you want us to do.

I think the solution is fairly obvious and simple...

Every black man must find every black woman attractive...no matter how dark or light, skinny or fat, ...bad attitude or not...that way, they can never accuse you of being "colorstruck."

You'll elevate their self esteem regardless, because as well all know.. your physical preferences are the microcosm that defines their self-worth.

EVERYBODY wins at that point...and unless that course of action takes place...you will never be able to convince anyone (or even most of them) that you find a woman attractive because she isn't dark.

I don't care what anyone says...black men are critisized the harshest for what they find attractive.

You'll never be able to make any of them happy, unless you make ALL of them happy.

Otherwise, look for this thread to pop up in another 3 months

 

[Yup]

Just proved my point. This always goes back to dating and relationships. White supremacy still is going to shyt on light skinned black people at the end of the day.

It's not just dating and relationships and yes these are a part of the part of the problem. Representation/employment/promotions and yes relationships also play a part/sexual abuse....the list goes on.

 

[mrken12]

Exactly, black dudes LOWKEY….LOWKEY NOW, don't have a mind of their own.

White men said light skin/biracial was OK and y'all bought it

They said white girls were okay y'all bought it

They said REAL black women were ugly, y'all bought it

Now their saying Asian bitces are cool and y'all buying that too.

If white said that cardboard boxes were the standard of beauty, y'all would Be chasing cardboard p*ssy

Riiiight now.

All that bullshyt you said is flat out not true. Quit projecting your own insecurities on everyone else.

Most black women hated on Beyonce and Halle Berry until they got real popular and mainstream.

And white men said it's OK for black men to get with white women now? Just stop.

 

[Elle Driver]

What does that mean though? Im light skin and i love chocolate women but i have seen more light skin women that i'm attracted too. Sometimes its a numbers thing

And that's fine, you're clearly not color struck.

I don't find light skin men all that attractive either. But if its only light skin men left to choose from, I'm choosing.