loner thread

[Jasonmask]

nah I'm not nervous around girls. but I do feel like rejection does fukk me up after the fact. it compounds the problem once I'm home alone

That’s normal. Rejection sucks. Men are supposed to brush it off but sometimes it’s not that easy. You see how women deal w/ it. Some girls still resent me for curving them in HS or middle school lol

 

[Pedro Negro]

You don't need friends to travel, breh.

Some of the best trips I've ever taken have been solo.

 

[nonexist]

You don't need friends to travel, breh.

Some of the best trips I've ever taken have been solo.

I just can't seem to do that but I will try next year for sure. will maybe go to America or France or some shyt

 

[Joe Budden]

@nonexist I’ve been posting a lot on the coil since me and my girl broke up a few weeks ago. Funny thing is, I also started therapy and medicine like a week before the break up.

I feel great and in control. Have you considered therapy? Sorry if you already answered this.

I’m naturally an introverted person due to my hobbies not really needing anyone else. I get enough socialization from work and occasionally I’ll hang with friends.

It’s more than enough for me.

 

[Arcavian]

you threw yourself a pity party with this thread, now what are you going to do to change your situation

 

[nonexist]

you threw yourself a pity party with this thread, now what are you going to do to change your situation

keep trying

 

[Mandarin Duck]

@nonexist this is exactly what I was trying to show you earlier. You are in these streets holding interactions and bedding women when there are men in this world who cannot do any of that.


On top of that you already have a social network from church. There is hope. I think your model just needs to be tweaked a little bit, but it's not bad.


You may just be having a perception issue, instead of experiencing the realized event of being a loner.



Even tho, I think u mentioned in another thread that you had made peace with your life, i apologize for using you as an example @Mandarin Duck.

If he's got a social life and had a gf before he don't need to consider himself a loner.

There's still hope.

There's no reason you need to turn out like me.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Once they learn of my depression and fukked up family and how smart I actually am, it's game over

I feel you on this. Unfortunately in our community, intelligence is not revered as it should be, and instead, those of us who are intelligent are even dare I say, looked down on.

Our women are taught by society that men are supposed to be aggressive brute creatures instead of being intelligent with finesse and tact.

And then when you do run into women who are impressed with your intelligence, a lot of them are also insecure with it at the same time. One time I talked to this chic I met while out skating (years ago) and she and I traded numbers and were getting to know each other. It was all going so well, or so I thought.

Then one day she blurted out that I make her feel stupid. I said, huh? And she told me that every time she talked to me, she could tell how intelligent I was, and it just made her feel stupid.

We didn't communicate much after that.

With that being said, I had to learn to go for women that were "in my lane". There are some brothas on this site that can go get with any chic. That's not me. I have a specific lane open to me - intelligent, career-driven women.

I've met other types of women who are attracted to me physically but once we start talking, we have nothing in common so it doesn't go anywhere. So now I just stay in my lane.

Dude. Believe me. The social skills of a cold approacher are light years beyond the avg person.

Literally the only completion you have in society are battle hardened used-car sales men. Just imagine if you used those same skillets in your professional, academic, and Interpersonal lives. @Neo The Resurrected ONE please chime in here. I know you also do CA heavy.



So from what I gather, you feel bad about your cold approach super powers and you would like to do boring warm approach or social circle game. Am I right here, @nonexist ?

The bolded is true, and is actually advice my old boss gave me when I was younger and was struggling with women. I was a great salesperson, I could go anywhere and to anybody and strike up a random conversation to make a sell. But I was terrible when it came to approaching women.

And boss was like, "It's literally the same concept. If you can approach a random person to sell a service, why can't you approach a random woman to sell yourself"?

It blew my mind at the time and I used that advice to improve my skills almost over night. It's kinda the reverse of what @CopiousX is saying, but I'm agreeing that it's the same skills.

If you're good at selling, you should be good at cold approaching women. If you're good at cold approaching women, you should be good at being a salesman. These are important skills and you are among the top percentile of men that can do this, because not many can. Especially nowadays.

 

[nonexist]

I feel you on this. Unfortunately in our community, intelligence is not revered as it should be, and instead, those of us who are intelligent are even dare I say, looked down on.

Our women are taught by society that men are supposed to be aggressive brute creatures instead of being intelligent with finesse and tact.

And then when you do run into women who are impressed with your intelligence, a lot of them are also insecure with it at the same time. One time I talked to this chic I met while out skating (years ago) and she and I traded numbers and were getting to know each other. It was all going so well, or so I thought.

Then one day she blurted out that I make her feel stupid. I said, huh? And she told me that every time she talked to me, she could tell how intelligent I was, and it just made her feel stupid.

We didn't communicate much after that.

With that being said, I had to learn to go for women that were "in my lane". There are some brothas on this site that can go get with any chic. That's not me. I have a specific lane open to me - intelligent, career-driven women.

I've met other types of women who are attracted to me physically but once we start talking, we have nothing in common so it doesn't go anywhere. So now I just stay in my lane.










The bolded is true, and is actually advice my old boss gave me when I was younger and was struggling with women. I was a great salesperson, I could go anywhere and to anybody and strike up a random conversation to make a sell. But I was terrible when it came to approaching women.

And boss was like, "It's literally the same concept. If you can approach a random person to sell a service, why can't you approach a random woman to sell yourself"?

It blew my mind at the time and I used that advice to improve my skills almost over night. It's kinda the reverse of what @CopiousX is saying, but I'm agreeing that it's the same skills.

If you're good at selling, you should be good at cold approaching women. If you're good at cold approaching women, you should be good at being a salesman. These are important skills and you are among the top percentile of men that can do this, because not many can. Especially nowadays.

nikka you spoke so much facts that I can't believe it.

I try my best with cold approaching, I'm not good at it at all but I try and keep going. I've only had one approach ever that turned into a date and then sex. too bad she lived far away

 

[nonexist]

when a very smart person has an argument with an average person, the average person tends to win public opinion more with his "rhetorics and arguments" because he speaks in the same way most other people think. even if the very smart guy ends up being right in the end based on empirical evidence or data

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

I enjoy my solitude.

It keeps the peace and keeps me away from drama.

This. As somebody who has a wife and son, I came to the realization that loneliness can be the best company overall. Folks need to realize that even though you have people in your life, you are still lonely due to the grim reality that no one can truly relate to you, besides the man in the mirror. This concept of "I need somebody" is outdated when it's forced.

Hell I felt that way living in this hotel room of mines, until I met a lady outside that carried a easygoing discussion. Sometimes the little things can truly matter, beyond the woe is me soundtrack. Anxiety is a bytch which I overcame involving people once I realize that I can't keep running away from my social skills. I need to be whom I truly am and guess what...it worked.

OP, you got to see beyond the sorry sapness that you are facing and change that mentality asap. Stop this pity shyt because in 2021, we getting p*ssy and you got a invite on the train to slam ass with the best of them.

Knock it off and live your life.

 

[nonexist]

This. As somebody who has a wife and son, I came to the realization that loneliness can be the best company overall. Folks need to realize that even though you have people in your life, you are still lonely due to the grim reality that no one can truly relate to you, besides the man in the mirror. This concept of "I need somebody" is outdated when it's forced.

Hell I felt that way living in this hotel room of mines, until I met a lady outside that carried a easygoing discussion. Sometimes the little things can truly matter, beyond the woe is me soundtrack. Anxiety is a bytch which I overcame involving people once I realize that I can't keep running away from my social skills. I need to be whom I truly am and guess what...it worked.

OP, you got to see beyond the sorry sapness that you are facing and change that mentality asap. Stop this pity shyt because in 2021, we getting p*ssy and you got a invite on the train to slam ass with the best of them.

Knock it off and live your life.

lol have wife and kid

enjoys solitude sometimes

ok bro you are lucky

 

[nonexist]

I can't even get a gf nikka and im 29

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

lol have wife and kid

enjoys solitude sometimes

ok bro you are lucky

My wife has fibromyalgia and my son has overkill amount of anxiety. It seems beautiful on the outside looking in, but the shyt can be a pain in the ass. Especially when you are trying to be a sane father and husband. Its not easy by any means. Chris Rock said it best:

Married and Miserable or Single and Lonely.

 

[nonexist]

My wife has fibromyalgia and my son has overkill amount of anxiety. It seems beautiful on the outside looking in, but the shyt can be a pain in the ass. Especially when you are trying to be a sane father and husband. Its not easy by any means. Chris Rock said it best:

Married and Miserable or Single and Lonely.

I know marriage can be hard but that companionship makes it worth it. I know I wouldn't be anywhere near as bad as I am right now emotionally if I had a companion. I'm tried of online dating or dating in general I want the one nikka