Long Distance Relationships

[MikelArteta]

That's not too far.

Agreed - one person will eventually have to move closer.

toronto to kingston ontario

dating a girl in buffalo would have been a shorter distance.

 

[Desirous]

toronto to kingston ontario

dating a girl in buffalo would be a shorter distance.

Kingston is a boring drive.

 

[Diondon]

Have you been in one? Hell No

Do you believe in them? Nope

What's the key in order for them to actually work?

I find that people have such varying opinions on this topic...just curious what most of you think. I know people who have had great experiences (leading to marriage etc) and some bad ones as well (just like in regular relationships, of course).

 

[MikelArteta]

Kingston is a boring drive.

very
a boring city as well

 

[FukyourFort]

was in one recently for a year with a girl I met in college from Cleveland ohio. it was cool when I was seeing effort but that started to slow down along with other things so I left. it can work if the communication is onpoint

 

[Desirous]

was in one recently for a year with a girl I met in college from Cleveland ohio. it was cool when I was seeing effort but that started to slow down along with other things so I left. it can work if the communication is onpoint

True. I think both have to make equal effort to see one another often and eventually someone will have to move...can't stay long distance forever.

 

[FukyourFort]

True. I think both have to make equal effort to see one another often and eventually someone will have to move...can't stay long distance forever.

yea that's true. she was eager about moving to Canada at the start but later on I could tell that started to change. I love Cleveland since its my hometown but job wise and living wise it would be better to live here.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

1. Have you been in one?

2. Do you believe in them?

3. What's the key in order for them to actually work?

I find that people have such varying opinions on this topic...just curious what most of you think. I know people who have had great experiences (leading to marriage etc) and some bad ones as well (just like in regular relationships, of course).

1. I am currently in one. 3 years before I moved away, 3 years long distance.

2. Yes, but I will admit it is NOT for everybody and I probably wouldn't do it again.

3. The key I believe is having some sort of foundation to hold the relationship down. Also having a unified goal in mind of where the relationship is going helps to remind you what you're attempting to hold on. And of course trust is #1, you will have people telling you the other person is probably out hooking up with others so the only way to not go crazy with that possibility is trust.

Lastly, as you mentioned can't stay long distance forever.

I'll be honest I've came close to cheating on my girl but I haven't .

 

[Shameonyou]

it only works if they were a couple in short distance for a long time and are established in a relationship....starting a relationship long distance is a gamble with these scandalous bytches runnin around

 

[PimpHandStrong]

I don't think they work for young people. Their hormones... they're still figuring out who they are in life and what they want. They're enjoying their youth. They're learning to control their emotions. I feel like younger people don't handle conflict well. All of the little issues that arise in a relationship, I think can be heightened when you're emotionally under-developed and dealing with someone who isn't around all of the time.

Relationships take a good amount of work, time, trust and love. And patience, in my humble opinion. And I think a long-distance relationship probably requires a certain level of wisdom, too.
Not every missed call means they are cheating on you. Not every argument means they don't still love you, even though you might be laying there at night dwelling on it in an empty bed.

But I to believe in them. I believe they can work. But people have to make it a habit to try and keep in touch regularly and often. To speak honestly about what they feel. And see each other regularly. Even if it's just a long weekend or something every few weeks. If they can get through the first few months, I think it becomes like any other relationship.

That's my opinion, though.
I'm sure I'll be called a simp.

Church.

 

[JuvenileHell]

Naw I'd rather not...falling in love online is cool and all but nothing can beat physical intimacy...it's only so far Skype chats can go.

 

[Malta]

I thought about it after I left Brazil, there was a woman I had been with for 5 months while I was there but logistically it wouldn't have been possible to keep the relationship going after I got back to the US. That's the only other woman I can realistically say I would have married, so I guess it's on a case by case basis.

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

They're amazing! You got a nikka sending you shyt and calling and you can have side nikkas dikking you down.

Win win Boo.

fukked up

 

[Remote]

I thought about it after I left Brazil, there was a woman I had been with for 5 months while I was there but logistically it wouldn't have been possible to keep the relationship going after I got back to the US. That's the only other woman I can realistically say I would have married, so I guess it's on a case by case basis.

That's kind of sad. I mean it's great that you felt like you would have married her. I think it just sucks that it couldn't work out.

 

[Malta]

That's kind of sad. I mean it's great that you felt like you would have married her. I think it just sucks that it couldn't work out.

Not really, it worked out in the end, I'm with someone I love very much and had I kept that relationship going long distance I wouldn't have pursued her.

What would have sucked would be trading all the time I've spent with my woman, vs buying calling cards to keep a relationship going with someone 5000 miles away.