Long Distance Relationships

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Malta said:
Not really, it worked out in the end, I'm with someone I love very much and had I kept that relationship going long distance I wouldn't have pursued her.

What would have sucked would be trading all the time I've spent with my woman, vs buying calling cards to keep a relationship going with someone 5000 miles away.
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Oh awesome. If you found someone you love here, that's great man.
 
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Desirous said:
Not online relationships, but long distance
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Ahhh...I see, but my answer still applies no? I mean by long distance you mean different states, or even different countries...in that case you'll have to use stuff like Skype to communicate. But I see what you mean now, you don't mean falling in love with someone online, but more or less trying to deal with your significant other having to move far away.

In that case my answer is a bit different. Depends on where we are in the relationship...if I've already developed a bit of a bond with her then I will definitely try to keep the relationship going. If not then well I'll break it off.
 
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Raul said:
I don't think they work for young people. Their hormones... they're still figuring out who they are in life and what they want. They're enjoying their youth. They're learning to control their emotions. I feel like younger people don't handle conflict well. All of the little issues that arise in a relationship, I think can be heightened when you're emotionally under-developed and dealing with someone who isn't around all of the time.

Relationships take a good amount of work, time, trust and love. And patience, in my humble opinion. And I think a long-distance relationship probably requires a certain level of wisdom, too.
Not every missed call means they are cheating on you. Not every argument means they don't still love you, even though you might be laying there at night dwelling on it in an empty bed.

But I to believe in them. I believe they can work. But people have to make it a habit to try and keep in touch regularly and often. To speak honestly about what they feel. And see each other regularly. Even if it's just a long weekend or something every few weeks. If they can get through the first few months, I think it becomes like any other relationship.

That's my opinion, though.
I'm sure I'll be called a simp.
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I loved your post.
 
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Raul said:
I don't think they work for young people. Their hormones... they're still figuring out who they are in life and what they want. They're enjoying their youth. They're learning to control their emotions. I feel like younger people don't handle conflict well. All of the little issues that arise in a relationship, I think can be heightened when you're emotionally under-developed and dealing with someone who isn't around all of the time.

Relationships take a good amount of work, time, trust and love. And patience, in my humble opinion. And I think a long-distance relationship probably requires a certain level of wisdom, too.
Not every missed call means they are cheating on you. Not every argument means they don't still love you, even though you might be laying there at night dwelling on it in an empty bed.

But I do believe in them. I believe they can work. But people have to make it a habit to try and keep in touch regularly and often. To speak honestly about what they feel. And see each other regularly. Even if it's just a long weekend or something every few weeks. If they can get through the first few months, I think it becomes like any other relationship.

That's my opinion, though.
I'm sure I'll be called a simp.
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1. Yes. I live in Philly and she lived in Toronto.

2. I believe they can work with the right people

3. There's several factors:

- Two mature people who are serious about each other-this is needed because dating someone long distance is an undertaking in itself...not something for a casual situation

- A lot of communication-I had better communication with this woman than any woman I've dated in my city. We talked throughout the day, everyday. We talked during our morning rush hour every morning in traffic(we both started work at the same time), we texted throughout the day and Skyped every night. It felt like we lived close...we spoke to each other more than anybody else each day

- A consistent schedule-we spent every other weekend with each other. Also, long weekends and holidays. So, at least two weekends a month. People in these kinds of relationships need to make a schedule and hold each other to it because face time is at a premium.

- Disposable Income-consistent traveling is expensive, especially if you're dating someone that you can't just drive to in a 2-3 hours. Obviously, Philly and Toronto are not very close, but they're not extremely far either. About a 7 hour drive. I mostly flew or took an overnight bus, and she did the same...more flying for her though. Plus, its best to find travel deals and book ahead. Having a schedule comes into play here again because knowing what days to plan ahead for can save money. Trying to travel last minute is expensive.

I actually had a lot of fun during this long distance relationship. Due to our communication patterns, it didn't feel long distance since she was such a big part of my day. Plus, we both liked to travel, so that was cool for both of us. Not to mention, it felt like an adventure each weekend because we were both spending time away from home, yet, over time, each city became like a home away from home for each of us. We kept clothes at each other's place, so that cut down on the packing and we were tour guides for each other in our respective cities.

In reality, I don't think long distance relationships are really that much different than in-city relationships. Think about it...two young professionals are going to be busy most days during the week. And unless you live together, most of the time spent together will be on the weekends. No different than a long distance relationship in practice.

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My girl got accepted in peace corps in Peru so we broke it off..I didnt convince her to stay because I didnt want to ruin her dreams..we called eachother alot during the first 6 months..than it started slowing down..now I call once every 3 months..I've sent her granola bars, chocolate..stuff she likes..I prob won't see her for a few years..she's been gone a little over 2 years..but we're still friends..
 
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observe said:
My girl got accepted in peace corps in Peru so we broke it off..I didnt convince her to stay because I didnt want to ruin her dreams..we called eachother alot during the first 6 months..than it started slowing down..now I call once every 3 months..I've sent her granola bars, chocolate..stuff she likes..I prob won't see her for a few years..she's been gone a little over 2 years..but we're still friends..
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My best friend is in the same situation. It's almost harder, I think, when you start together then one person moves away...because you can grow apart and you're used to seeing each other a lot, and all of a sudden you never do.
 
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Raul said:
I don't think they work for young people. Their hormones... they're still figuring out who they are in life and what they want. They're enjoying their youth. They're learning to control their emotions. I feel like younger people don't handle conflict well. All of the little issues that arise in a relationship, I think can be heightened when you're emotionally under-developed and dealing with someone who isn't around all of the time.

Relationships take a good amount of work, time, trust and love. And patience, in my humble opinion. And I think a long-distance relationship probably requires a certain level of wisdom, too.
Not every missed call means they are cheating on you. Not every argument means they don't still love you, even though you might be laying there at night dwelling on it in an empty bed.

But I do believe in them. I believe they can work. But people have to make it a habit to try and keep in touch regularly and often. To speak honestly about what they feel. And see each other regularly. Even if it's just a long weekend or something every few weeks. If they can get through the first few months, I think it becomes like any other relationship.

That's my opinion, though.
I'm sure I'll be called a simp.
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