all that sounds good but to think that a 50 year old jada smith mindset (mental illness) doesn’t stem from the same type of thinking in a 25 year old hoe phase mindset you buggin. young girls play with fire with that well im just doing me shyt because she building bad habits thats gonna tear down her own home if and when that time do come. it all starts from somewhere. MBJ is just another nikka in the long string of nikkaz its not like this is just a one off thing. just because a lot of women are moving like that don’t make it not a bad decision.What you originally said is just dumb as hell
Lmao and while I agree to be in a committed relationship that the other person thinks it is when you don't view it that way is unnecessary and the father son shyt weird you don't have to be alone in order to grow and there’s plenty of people out here it ain’t the end of the world if somebody doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with someone who is seemingly a good person at a young age. Life and happiness and peace isn’t all about relationships.
She’s only 25 years old.
Why settle down when you’re at that prime age ?
Have fun young lady and don’t let no old nikka take you out the game early
You’re right, but this is a cultural issue. If you sit in these Black households people aren’t TELLING their daughters this stuff. White & Asian parents tell you to go find a guy in an engineering program. Black parents tell you to be the engineer and not to get serious about a man until you have your own finances figured out because you shouldn’t depend on a man.
When I realized no one GAF about my major and career and kept telling me I’d make pretty kids I felt duped. Even men in my fam told me to “shoot for the big bucks”. I looked at the housewives in my family like “Hold up, none of them had to do that” LOL
The men with housewives were more concerned with my cooking skills, the men with career-wives or moms with high powered careers told me to ignore guys and keep my head in my books.
I literally have female cousins who are dentists, in finance, directors in non-profits, etc who are unmarried and the similarity is EVERYONE was told to forget guys until they had their finances in order. No hoing around, bad reputations, kids oow (well, 2 out of everyone), etc.
We have to actually guide daughters to marriage and teach them that there are other families raising sons who will be ready to take care of a family.
Lori is a different case all together. Beautiful rich girls play a different game.
And I COMPLETELY agree and appreciate you saying that, because very few brehs on here want to admit this.This isn't what the data says though. According to census and Pew data, "high value" men marry high value women. If you're a doctor making 100k, you're more likely to marry a lawyer/attorney/engineer making similar money than an unemployed woman looking to be somebody's SAHM. That's simply not what most well off guys want.
Economically it's called assortative mating. When I go to our corporate Christmas party and talk to my bosses/CEO/etc, they're all married to women who make six figures. Their children are enrolled in every after-school sport or program imaginable. They're involved in social clubs where job status determines whether you get in or not. They're doing everything possible to ensure their kids go to the best possible university at 18. I'm not saying you can't find a doctor, lawyer, etc whose wife doesn't work or has a minor job. My dad is in the medical field and makes six figures, and my mom didn't work when I was a kid. I understand these couples exist, my point is that they are not the norm.
The issue isn't black parents raising their daughters to be high value women. The problem is they aren't raising their sons to be high value men. So when black women reach that success point at 28-30 they look around and don't see many black men at the same level. This isn't an exclusive black thing either. A lot of culture coddle their boys while being harder on the girls and it's generating a lot of men who cannot operate in the modern world.
I keep forgetting that I’m apart of the real world and this is a superficial website full of nikkas that don’t go outside.25 isn't exactly young for a woman. Time flies like quick. She got 2 year tops. She's age 27, figure two years for relationship, then kids at 29.
25 is pushing it fertility wise. And then you gotta think what prime man wants a 27 yr old?
I keep forgetting that I’m apart of the real world and this is a superficial website full of nikkas that don’t go outside.
Let me excuse myself from this thread
Y’all so miserable on here
ExactlyThe way she moves with men are analyzed because she rarely talks in public. I guess the fascination with her comes in the way she's able to cut these dudes loose and not be fazed by it.
She’s basically saying she’s selfish.
She doesn’t know the concept of being in a partnership. She likes the idea of a relationship and the comforts/perks that comes with it. But she doesn’t want to work and/or sacrifice to ensure a long lasting/healthy survival