This isn't what the data says though. According to census and Pew data, "high value" men marry high value women. If you're a doctor making 100k, you're more likely to marry a lawyer/attorney/engineer making similar money than an unemployed woman looking to be somebody's SAHM. That's simply not what most well off guys want.
Economically it's called assortative mating. When I go to our corporate Christmas party and talk to my bosses/CEO/etc, they're all married to women who make six figures. Their children are enrolled in every after-school sport or program imaginable. They're involved in social clubs where job status determines whether you get in or not. They're doing everything possible to ensure their kids go to the best possible university at 18. I'm not saying you can't find a doctor, lawyer, etc whose wife doesn't work or has a minor job. My dad is in the medical field and makes six figures, and my mom didn't work when I was a kid. I understand these couples exist, my point is that they are not the norm.
The issue isn't black parents raising their daughters to be high value women. The problem is they aren't raising their sons to be high value men. So when black women reach that success point at 28-30 they look around and don't see many black men at the same level. This isn't an exclusive black thing either. A lot of culture coddle their boys while being harder on the girls and it's generating a lot of men who cannot operate in the modern world.
And I COMPLETELY agree and appreciate you saying that, because very few brehs on here want to admit this.
What I will say, though, is that if you’re a pretty Black girl, you do have guys who are serious about locking you down. But if you still don’t have a family that teaches you WHEN to cash out, you can get in trouble.
I’ll be honest, my family didn’t really stress me because of my looks. The only time my family REALLY stresses me is if I gain some weight

because deep down they feel like my face is my calling card (of course knowing how to keep a home, cook, etc). But I also come from a very supportive family, so my stress level would literally be 0 if I didn’t have a mom who is…a handful.
But our girls still aren’t being taught when to get married. There’s a conversation that isn’t happening in our households with daughters AND sons. I can admit that. The difference is sons grow into men who can do what they want as long as they are successful. We can’t actually have kids forever, so if we want that, we need families who help guide us to “having it all”, but at different times in life.
It’s different for us, but people don’t want to say that.
That being said, yea, in other racial/ethnic groups there are more men ready for family life by 28/30. We aren’t getting the bulk of our guys out of trade school, uni, etc and prepared to take a wife. In other cultures it’s understood you need a wife/family to be seen as a responsible man in society.
Culturally, we’re like 10 years behind everyone else.