Lori Harvey Explains Why She Dates on Her 'Terms': 'I Almost Got Married Very Young'

[Chrishaune]

lol.

There's no excuse. She already had guys that wanted to marry her.

It ain't cute.

 

[JamesJabdi]

A beautiful woman like her don't live in reality....she still got some of her youth and always been the center of attention in every place she stepped into. she been told from early age she the most beautiful girl ever....she has the options to choose between alot of diffrent wealthy succcesful men and can't make her mind up. she dosen't understand that her beauty will fade and the older she gets the less attractive she will be and that a new bad broad is around the corner.

Thats why fathers should be in their daughters lives and guide these women because they out here having no clue about life.

 

[Booksnrain]

Her life her terms. This means when she really settles down it will be for the right reasons. People want her to rush into settling down and I don't know why when the divorce rate is insane. Take your time, date with purpose and intention but if that relationship fizzles out it's fine to brush yourself off and keep it moving

Alladat!

Good for her! Learn who you are and what you want b4 locking yourself in. People want you to do stuff on their timeline without any regard for what’s best for you.

NOPE. Take your time. Stack money. Learn yourself. Get in a good sexual, financial, emotional, mental, physical, space before jumping the gun. There is absolutely no reason to rush.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

this some crazy type of thinking

That's how high class men roll.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Women in 2022 even with the marriage laws stacked in their favour, see marriage as giving away their "power". The black family structure is in jeopardy

nikkax don’t like seeing bytches holding the cards…reminds em of high school

nikka speak for yourself. I had my pick of the litter in High school. I had hoes eating off the palm of my hand
It wasnt until college when I got relagated to the "dude across the street" status after schooling with rich kids and interacting with young hoes who valued money and clout over "game"

 

[Uachet]

A beautiful woman like her don't live in reality....she still got some of her youth and always been the center of attention in every place she stepped into. she been told from early age she the most beautiful girl ever....she has the options to choose between alot of diffrent wealthy succcesful men and can't make her mind up. she dosen't understand that her beauty will fade and the older she gets the less attractive she will be and that a new bad broad is around the corner.

Thats why fathers should be in their daughters lives and guide these women because they out here having no clue about life

It is her life, so I say sit back and enjoy the show. I guess the entertainment will be in seeing if it all turns out the way we think, or the way she thinks.

 

[Legend27]

all that sounds good but to think that a 50 year old jada smith mindset (mental illness) doesn’t stem from the same type of thinking in a 25 year old hoe phase mindset you buggin. young girls play with fire with that well im just doing me shyt because she building bad habits thats gonna tear down her own home if and when that time do come. it all starts from somewhere. MBJ is just another nikka in the long string of nikkaz its not like this is just a one off thing. just because a lot of women are moving like that don’t make it not a bad decision.

if you feel like you don’t find happiness and peace in relationships then fine do that be single and stop fukkin all around town. but mfs are selfish and undisciplined and wanna have it both ways

Jada smith mindset(whatever mindset that is lol ) can stem from multiple upon multiple shyt not necessarily and probably not even entirely accurately from from what Lori Harvey is doing also just because you’re in relationship doesn’t mean you have discipline or unselfish y’all worldview is cooked

 

[Piff Perkins]

And I COMPLETELY agree and appreciate you saying that, because very few brehs on here want to admit this.

What I will say, though, is that if you’re a pretty Black girl, you do have guys who are serious about locking you down. But if you still don’t have a family that teaches you WHEN to cash out, you can get in trouble.

I’ll be honest, my family didn’t really stress me because of my looks. The only time my family REALLY stresses me is if I gain some weight because deep down they feel like my face is my calling card (of course knowing how to keep a home, cook, etc). But I also come from a very supportive family, so my stress level would literally be 0 if I didn’t have a mom who is…a handful.

But our girls still aren’t being taught when to get married. There’s a conversation that isn’t happening in our households with daughters AND sons. I can admit that. The difference is sons grow into men who can do what they want as long as they are successful. We can’t actually have kids forever, so if we want that, we need families who help guide us to “having it all”, but at different times in life.
It’s different for us, but people don’t want to say that.

That being said, yea, in other racial/ethnic groups there are more men ready for family life by 28/30. We aren’t getting the bulk of our guys out of trade school, uni, etc and prepared to take a wife. In other cultures it’s understood you need a wife/family to be seen as a responsible man in society.

Culturally, we’re like 10 years behind everyone else.

I agree about the being behind thing. Marriage is a financial tool. It can lower your taxes, give you free money, improve your credit etc. Yet a lot of black people simply don't take any of that seriously while others do. White people marry young all the time. Guys working construction part time, married to receptionists. Putting their income together, having kids, so far removed from the "a man should pay all your bills" discourse we deal with online.

I see the same thing from Asian people I know. My current gf is Mexican American and most of her family are lower to middle income people who married young. Most of the men work in some form of outside labor (landscaping for instance) and the women are maids or teachers. There's so much delusional online discourse between black people about who is high value, who should pay bills, etc that no one just says the truth. Black people are behind in every possible way financially. I get many women hold out for a high value man but if you aren't offering anything and aren't really high value yourself...you're just wasting your time waiting. We've got single moms making 40k a year demanding ballers. It ain't happening ma'am. Go marry a mechanic and build life, wealth, etc. Of course the men have to take marriage seriously too and so far many black men just don't. I say this as a black man who isn't thinking about marriage...and thankfully dating someone who isn't either.

 

[Jisoo Stan]

 

[Gloxina]

Already know how this ends...check Melyssa Fords status if you dont know.

I promise she isn’t silly enough to be a video vixen waiting until 40+ to find a man lmao

Like I said, she’s more of a Paris Hilton type chick. She will have access to successful men as she gets older because of the circle/scene her mother married into.

Hell, I have an uncle who said that if I’m not married by a certain age he’d fly me out to attend some of his professional events to introduce me to (older established) men in his field.

She’s going to be fine. The AVERAGE WOMAN can’t play this game. That’s the only reason why I don’t like this discussion.
She can sit in Steve’s mansion until 29 and some 40 YO entertainment or tech exec could say hey, it’s about that time, and he just hands her off in a traditional fashion.

The AVERAGE woman isn’t able to do that.

 

[Ozymandeas]

Iight cool. She don’t want to marry him. Now can we stop talking about this girl. She literally does nothing.

 

[Lord_nikon]

She’s only 25 years old.

Why settle down when you’re at that prime age ?

Have fun young lady and don’t let no old nikka take you out the game early

Oh Marti !

 

[Master Teacher]

When did I say anything about her moving like a man? She's moving like someone who doesn't just want a title but a fulfilling stable relationship. Why does that bother you?

Who said I was bothered, I merely stated a fact seem like you are bothered like that

she just left michael b jordan because he wanted a fulfilling stable relationship supposedly

prime example of why a man should never take what women say seriously

Men choose, men establish the relationship, it's in a woman's best interest to make her self presentable to a respectable man so he will choose her

Lori Harvey is just a hoe, and Michael B Jordan was a PR stunt, so he can go back to fukking with white women

This the same woman that left her boyfriend for his father and you in here typing that nonsense

No man worth anything is going to want to wife her up, Russell Wilson is a myth to these hoes

 

[Booksnrain]

This isn't what the data says though. According to census and Pew data, "high value" men marry high value women. If you're a doctor making 100k, you're more likely to marry a lawyer/attorney/engineer making similar money than an unemployed woman looking to be somebody's SAHM. That's simply not what most well off guys want.

Economically it's called assortative mating. When I go to our corporate Christmas party and talk to my bosses/CEO/etc, they're all married to women who make six figures. Their children are enrolled in every after-school sport or program imaginable. They're involved in social clubs where job status determines whether you get in or not. They're doing everything possible to ensure their kids go to the best possible university at 18. I'm not saying you can't find a doctor, lawyer, etc whose wife doesn't work or has a minor job. My dad is in the medical field and makes six figures, and my mom didn't work when I was a kid. I understand these couples exist, my point is that they are not the norm.

The issue isn't black parents raising their daughters to be high value women. The problem is they aren't raising their sons to be high value men. So when black women reach that success point at 28-30 they look around and don't see many black men at the same level. This isn't an exclusive black thing either. A lot of culture coddle their boys while being harder on the girls and it's generating a lot of men who cannot operate in the modern world.

My uncle just said something similar to this a few weeks ago in regards to his daughter finding a partner.

 

[Uitomy]

People in here keep talking about she’s just trying to have fun and live her best life

But in that case why does she keep dating? Clearly there’s something going on mentally. With the kind of money she’s got idk why she even messes with nikkas when she can do other fun shyt that doesn’t come with emotions and physical risk that a man comes with constantly. If she was really living a fun life she’d be constantly seen with her friends not nikkas.