Lori Harvey Explains Why She Dates on Her 'Terms': 'I Almost Got Married Very Young'

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Some of us pop up in Boiler Room and the Film Room :sas2:
I have no beef with you I’ve always felt like you were pretty fair :salute: even in your criticism of brehs

But at the same time hypothetically speaking if we are talking about domestic violence stereotypes about black men being exaggerated and how that effects us and you’ve been abused by a black man . Your opinion will sway the whole thread .

That being said you’re cool :salute:
 

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She has the right mindset. I wonder how many others move this way, where when things no longer serve them they move on. That’s something I apply to every facet of my life—jobs, relationships, friendships, doctors, stylists, etc. i could be kiking one day with you and you think everything is kosher but little do you know I’m not coming back to get services done by you because you took too long one day or didn’t do something to my liking, or you getting blocked because I don’t like how I feel in the relationship anymore , or I’m quitting the job because I don’t like it anymore.

I honestly don’t know why people stay in situations or relationships or jobs when they’re not happy with it anymore. You got one life to live better do you.

And she’s young attractive socialite, just hitting her mid twenties. There’s no reason at all that she should settle down when she doesn’t feel ready. Marriage, children—that’s a lot of responsibility, you no longer can be as selfish once you take those things on. It’s best to get whatever it is you need out of your system before you take on serious commitments.

Doesn’t mean she needs to have a hoe phase. I’ve never had one. It just means focus on the activities, hobbies, she wants to, nurture the friendships she wants to, pursue her goals and have fun. When shes truly ready to settle down, she’ll know because certain shyt will start to feel old/tiring.
 

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I promise she isn’t silly enough to be a video vixen waiting until 40+ to find a man lmao

Like I said, she’s more of a Paris Hilton type chick. She will have access to successful men as she gets older because of the circle/scene her mother married into.

Hell, I have an uncle who said that if I’m not married by a certain age he’d fly me out to attend some of his professional events to introduce me to (older established) men in his field.

She’s going to be fine. The AVERAGE WOMAN can’t play this game. That’s the only reason why I don’t like this discussion.
She can sit in Steve’s mansion until 29 and some 40 YO entertainment or tech exec could say hey, it’s about that time, and he just hands her off in a traditional fashion.

The AVERAGE woman isn’t able to do that.


No man will be good enough for her and the men that she wants after 30 wont want her....
 

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Took way too long for this gif to be posted :dead:
 

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I have no beef with you I’ve always felt like you were pretty fair :salute: even in your criticism of brehs

But at the same time hypothetically speaking if we are talking about domestic violence stereotypes about black men being exaggerated and how that effects us and you’ve been abused by a black man . Your opinion will sway the whole thread .

That being said you’re cool :salute:
‘Preciate it. And before someone says it, I wasn’t fishing for daps or whateva lol

I was just saying, I think at least a few of us (and I’m new as hell so I have no room to critique anyone) try to be balanced and contribute to various topics, but of course, as women, we will most likely gravitate to topics we are more interested in, which wouldn’t necessarily be sports, etc.

But I feel you.
 

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No man will be good enough for her and the men that she wants after 30 wont want her....
Breh, if she’s a 30YO who is down to marry older you not telling me every successful 40ish cat she comes across is saying no 🤣
Sure, the guys her age or a little older might not be with it, but that’s the dating game. Successful men can date younger and attractive women can still pull an older successful guy.
 

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I agree with this!

This is why I can’t understand this “HVM” thing! Y’all don’t think it’s weird KS came up with that? I swear I’ve never heard any BW exclusively chasing well-off dudes for their money. Their are “gold diggers” in every race, but that’s not even a BW thing.

The focus should’ve just been on creating healthy families and not having kids out of wedlock. “HVM” was never a thing, except for the black girls who ACTUALLY come from upper middle class backgrounds.


It came from all those housewife shows, people forget that a lot of younger black women watched and grew up on these shows. In fact I would wager that every black woman who talks about "wanting a high value man" "levelling up", "hypergamy" "black girl luxury" watches one variation of them. It's not just birds who watch them. Then later on we have black female entertainers who are in a completely different social and financial bracket/class than the average black woman promoting the same lifestyle and pushing narratives attacking the working Black Man in regards to finances.

"If he not buying you a birkin bag and paying your bills, send him back to the streets" - Saweetie

So now struggle love has evolved from it being a phrase that refers to a black woman looking after an unemployed bum (I agree with the term here) to it now being dating your financial equal who cant give you a luxury lifestyle.

Meanwhile cacs and Asians in the same financial brackets are talking about using dual incomes to buy homes and create generational wealth :unimpressed:







You will never see cacs or other groups who do this call it "struggle love" or "settling" like Black Women do.



This lie that cacs are in traditional old school relationships is only put out there by weirdly other black people.

Meanwhile cacs are telling other cacs (who know they are in the white supremacy matrix where they get more benefits than others) to STILL pool the money together when in relationships :mjlol:



I think this is why Kevin Samuels and all this redpill stuff blew up in the black community the way and at the time it did. You've got younger black women being targeted and being told to hold out on rich black men and not their equals to avoid "struggle love" while often at the same time fornicating with bums. So the average black man or black man in their tax bracket sees this and grows resentment.
 

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i could be kiking one day with you and you think everything is kosher but little do you know I’m not coming back to get services done by you because you took too long one day or didn’t do something to my liking, or you getting blocked
This is some fukk shyt, be real not a snake
 
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Is it because she’s been seen with men? Keyword being SEEN. Do all those men she’s been seen with get that same title ?

To the 1st question.. u want me to play dumb... i don't play dumb.

To the second question.. YES... men do get that label on here. Future is always called a scumbag on here by people. But he also has talent so there's a difference..he's offering the board something (music) that can be appreciated.

What does she do again?
 

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To the 1st question.. u want me to play dumb... i don't play dumb.

To the second question.. YES... men do get that label on here. Future is always called a scumbag on here by people. But he also has talent so there's a difference..he's offering the board something (music) that can be appreciated.

What does she do again?
I don’t want you to play anything. I think you have the wrong one. I asked you a question. . I just wanted you to answer. Thanks 😊
 
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