Mfs feeling like you're OBLIGATED to lend them money because they KNOW you got it

[ZEB WALTON]

When i was getting high i was a bank to mofos. Knowing when i get paid calling to borrow money and then takin months to pay back. God for id i ever asked for 30 dolliz tho. Ill lend money but if u dont pay it back asap i dont do it again. I got the stingiest friends on planet who beg for help but wouodnt piss on u if u were on fire.

Except for my fam of course but i dont do that to them and visa versa over lil shyt. If i have to borrow money for a big bill or something i pay it back on payday.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

had to bookmark this thread cuz i can relate to it on so many levels. family really can be the worst man. i was actually about to be guilt tripped into doing something by my mum but now i'm gonna tell her to off the strength of this thread

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I feel blessed to come from a well-off family. I've only loaned money to relatives 2x, and gotten paid back both times.

 

[MalikX]

I feel blessed to come from a well-off family. I've only loaned money to relatives 2x, and gotten paid back both times.

Be thankful breh

My family was so broke and so ratchet they manipulated me into paying bills on my CC at 18 because I had two $1,000 cards. Like "Pay the $300 bill. You got the money"

I was so sick of them I moved 800 miles away from home for college. I ended up transferring to a school that was closer but it was still a 2-3 hour drive. Most peaceful days of my life at the time.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Be thankful breh

My family was so broke and so ratchet they manipulated me into paying bills on my CC at 18 because I had two $1,000 cards. Like "Pay the $300 bill. You got the money"

I was so sick of them I moved 800 miles away from home for college.

My condolences and .

Make sure you do better for your kids when you have them, breh.

 

[MalikX]

My condolences and .

Make sure you do better for your kids when you have them, breh.

My kids gonna have everything they want, be prepared for success from a very young age and be brought up at minimum a few hours drive from the toxic environment I was. Ideally in another time zone. White people good at moving away, starting new lives and cutting off toxic relatives and family but I still feel guilty at times.

 

[Another Man]

had to bookmark this thread cuz i can relate to it on so many levels. family really can be the worst man. i was actually about to be guilt tripped into doing something by my mum but now i'm gonna tell her to off the strength of this thread

It can feel bad to refuse loaning out money to fam sometimes, i couldnt imagine having to deal with that with my mom, however, if ppls parents want to pull the "I raised you blah blah" card to try and guilt trip, thats hella wrong and pretty low because while we are to be appreciative of what our parents have done, we really dont owe them shyt for it at the same time because raising us was their responsibility and duty as a parent. We had no choice in the matter.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

My kids gonna have everything they want, be prepared for success from a very young age and be brought up at minimum a few hours drive from the toxic environment I was. Ideally in another time zone. White people good at moving away, starting new lives and cutting off toxic relatives and family but I still feel guilty at times.

Don't feel guilty for propelling your offspring into a better situation, breh.

I came from money but in an ideal world, my kids would never know my father for non-financial reasons.

You do what you gotta do for your family breh.

 

[egsteel]

My family was so broke and so ratchet they manipulated me into paying bills on my CC at 18 because I had two $1,000 cards. Like "Pay the $300 bill. You got the money"

I was so sick of them I moved 800 miles away from home for college. I ended up transferring to a school that was closer but it was still a 2-3 hour drive. Most peaceful days of my life at the time.

did they pay you back?

 

[MalikX]

did they pay you back?

No

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

It got to the point where I don't even want people knowing what I make. Between family asking to borrow and then never paying you back because "you ain't hurting for it so why you in a hurry". Then even with friends if they find out you make a lot more than them when going out or going to dinner they start expecting you to pick up the checks. fukked up part is I wouldn't even mind picking it up if it wasn't expected. One of my partners is broke as shyt but would still pick up checks or buy drinks when we kicked it. I hook him up on the regular.

yep you hit the nail on the head. pretty much why i don't want anybody to know how much i make. ppl start to figure that they can dictate what you can or can't spend your money on, all in your pockets and shyt.

& I completely agree %100. When ppl start expecting u to pick up the tab or take care of this or that, it leaves a bad taste in your mouth and u pretty much stop doing it.

i'm in the same boat, got some ppl (RICHER than me actually) who are always in my pockets and got ppl in a worse financial situation or even plain fukkin unemployed (lol) always offering to pay for stuff. for me. guess who gets more luv?

it's got to a point i don't even like going to tellers at the bank cuz i know they can see how much i'm working with. goes without saying that i don't trust run-of-the-mill "financial advisors" at all.

 

[Blessings]

Brehs this just happened to me. I just started my career. She went into debt over charges, lawyer fees and shyt. Just because I got it she asking for bands not even her own family would lend her. Mind you this ain't my girl just someone that knows me. Told her to ask her ex who she's working things out with. She said we ain't together plus he ain't got money. Told her is that my fault you make poor decisions in life and in relationships. She still gonna try to work things out with him, but if a guy who could lift her from these bad situations came along she would curve his shyt. So I don't feel bad. Am I wrong guys?

I would feel offended by the fact she had the audacity to ask me

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Luckily I don't have to deal with that shyt. My mom is the opposite. Never wants me to get her anything. I'll pick up some food for me and her and she talking about "how much do I owe you?" I always hit her with the

to ya momz. wish i could relate.

if i have kids i'm always going to make sure i handle their business. i don't know how you can call yourself a parent and feel comfortable begging your goddam kids for cash to survive or finance expensive hobbies.

 

[VertigoKnight]

The only time this has happened is when my younger brother asked for some money. His a proud man and at that time multiple bills piled up and hit at the same time and he was at risk of losing the apartment he lived in with his three kids and GF. Asking me was a last resort before he started to look at loan places.

I couldn't have that so me and my SO gifted him some money and said don't worry about giving it back as it was for his kids. Tbh he appreciated that. I know he works hard but his wifey is a bird brain chick, happy to stay at home doing nothing.

 

[VertigoKnight]

The only time this has happened is when my younger brother asked for some money. His a proud man and at that time multiple bills piled up and hit at the same time and he was at risk of losing the apartment he lived in with his three kids and GF. Asking me was a last resort before he started to look at loan places.

I couldn't have that so me and my SO gifted him some money and said don't worry about giving it back as it was for his kids. Tbh he appreciated that. I know he works hard but his wifey is a bird brain chick, happy to stay at home doing nothing.