Piff Perkins
Veteran
You mean having a child for the vibes and social media posts isn't a good idea? Getting pregnant by a dude you know god damn well wouldn't be a good father is a bad idea? Nutting in women knowing they aren't wife or mother material isn't a good idea?
There are consequences. Getting pregnant - or getting someone pregnant - is one of the easiest financial/mental/health pitfalls you can avoid as an adult with a functioning brain. We have way too many people who view children as nothing more than an accessory, women who view motherhood (including single motherhood) as nothing more than an attractive aesthetic, and men who view fatherhood as optional.
And for people who are doing it right - ie getting MARRIED before having children - and are experiencing child care issues? Certainly I feel bad for them. But at the same time I would expect some type of planning ahead of time by couples thinking about having children. We definitely need better child care options in this country.
There are consequences. Getting pregnant - or getting someone pregnant - is one of the easiest financial/mental/health pitfalls you can avoid as an adult with a functioning brain. We have way too many people who view children as nothing more than an accessory, women who view motherhood (including single motherhood) as nothing more than an attractive aesthetic, and men who view fatherhood as optional.
And for people who are doing it right - ie getting MARRIED before having children - and are experiencing child care issues? Certainly I feel bad for them. But at the same time I would expect some type of planning ahead of time by couples thinking about having children. We definitely need better child care options in this country.