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How about, don't have kids if you can't raise them. Simple.
New York postMillennials feel ‘abandoned’ by parents not available to help raise grandkids: ‘Too busy’
Some millennial parents say they feel “abandoned” by their baby boomer parents, who’ve chosen to travel in their retirement, rather than stay home and help raise their grandchildr…nypost.com
Some millennial parents say they feel “abandoned” by their baby boomer parents, who’ve chosen to travel in their retirement, rather than stay home and help raise their grandchildren, Business Insider found.
Growing up, Kristjana Hillberg remembers being regularly babysat by her grandmother when her parents traveled. But she often has to schedule visits with her parents or in-laws “months” ahead of time, she said.
Los Angeles-based psychologist and millennial mother Leslie Dobson explained many of her millennial clients develop resentment toward their parents because they feel like their parents have “chosen their life over meeting their grandchildren and building these relationships.”
“There’s almost like this three-fourth life crisis that they’re in,” she said of boomers. “And they’re really looking at this as, ‘Oh, my God, my life’s almost over. When is my last day, and how am I going to live my best life?'”
Dobson said she and her sisters were initially put off by their 71-year-old father’s decision to move to a luxury resort in Mexico. While they’ve come around to understand the decision, Dobson said they had hoped their father would be more available to help raise their kids.
Ted Dobson didn’t seem to agree with his daughter’s assessment of his life choices. The father told Business Insider that he still makes an effort to see his grandkids, but sometimes they are too busy to fit him into their schedules. He also suggested those in the younger generation live a more comfortable life than he did at the same age.
“They’ve all got nannies. We didn’t have a damn nanny. They drive expensive SUVs. I drove a fricking minivan,” he said. “I haven’t spent a nickel less on my kids. I just spent some on me,” he explained.
A recent study by the University of Cambridge and others found that millennials were more likely to have debt and less likely to own a home by age 35. However, middle-class millennials in the study had accumulated “substantially more wealth than their boomer counterparts” had by their mid-30s.
Yet a Fortune poll from earlier this year found that 35% of millennials in the United States still rely on their parents to help pay their bills.
Different views on how to spend time and money wasn’t the only intergenerational divide described in the report. Dobson said millennials often butt heads with their boomer parents over their different approaches to parenting.
“If you ask a millennial, the boomers are overly harsh and not good at parenting the younger children. And millennials are very aware of what could potentially be traumatizing, what is not gentle parenting,” the psychologist said.
The whole tone of this article is very very fukking differentNah I've seen this talked about elsewhere. Was surprised it was posted yesterday because people been talking about it.
From a few months ago
They say it takes a village to raise children. But millennial mothers are taking to TikTok to say 'there is no village' as their childcare struggles persist.
"There is no village." Millennial mothers are taking to TikTok to share their childcare struggles.www.businessinsider.com
Ask the OPThe whole tone of this article is very very fukking different
Why not post this instead of Rupert Murdoch’s right wing tabloid?
True true.The OP in that thread is crazy crazy.
She trying for another baby and both parents are already struggling.
She stays at home while dad works a 12 hour shift. Hah
Four kids under four? Nobody wants to deal with that.
I stayed with my grandparents at times too. And as I mentioned, there are people who are in tough situations despite doing (nearly) everything right. But when I look at the rate of out of wedlock births, declining marriage rates, and the decline in birth control usage it seems pretty clear a lot of this is a behavioral problem and consequence. Grandparents are under no obligation to inconvenience themselves because of their (adult) children's poor decisions.
Life ain't fairA lot of those parents expected the kids to watch their siblings. One of my friends married a single mom who had 2 teen daughters. He had two additional kids with her, and the teen daughters were expected to watch the little ones. Then, the older daughter ended up a single mom, and asked for help watching her 2 kids, and his wife says no. I don’t think that’s fair.
Out of the workforce when you are born is crazyThats a good point too. i don't remember my grandparents not being retired. They were out of the workforce when i was born.
Now i got a 10 year old and my parents still work.
The OP in that thread is crazy crazy.
She trying for another baby and both parents are already struggling.
She stays at home while dad works a 12 hour shift. Hah
Four kids under four? Nobody wants to deal with that.
FTFYI mean....... if you keep forcing us to have kids why cant you take care of em
on a serious note, why would i be cruel enough to bring kids into this world and make them a burden on others
Story gave me whiplash brehMan these hoes is dumb
I knew a chick who was in a relationship with a guy. She got pregnant, but here’s the kicker, her dude gets another chick pregnant AT THE SAME TIME. Not only that but dude already HAD 2 kids by another woman. So what does this dumb bytch do, stay with him. Fast forward a few years and they have ANOTHER kid. Well, they end up breaking up. But guess what ends up happening AGAIN. He gets her pregnant for the third time during a time he moved back in with her temporarily while he was in between places. Smh.
Shyt mad wild. Now she in the dating game looking for a clean up man at 40